He's just been to a nude lap dancing bar :(

[RunnyBum]

H just back from nude lap dancing bar, he has been on stag dos before and he knows I hate it. I'm gutted, he says I should forget this one "mistake" as he (allegedly) didn't has a private dance as he knows I would hate that. He claims he was just curious (inspite having been before and knowing all about it!!) Being in front of a naked woman that isnt me, for kicks just feels like cheating on some level. Oh and he wasn't on a stag tonight just out with a friend.

Found out as I Where's My Iphone'd him as he was meant to just be in our town, and I thought he'd be heading home.

We're meant to be going away on a romantic break in a few weeks, but a the minute I don't want him near me :(

How would u deal with this?

Happy is right - male strip shows are more like a comedy club.

I wonder if Larry's DW goes to them for a bit of light relief - what with him also being an expert on demarcation of domestic tasks, not to mention fair division of leisure time.

hullygully there is a great website called "e-spares", which not only sells bits for lots of different washing machines, it also rates how easy the repair job is, so you will know if you can do it yourself.

(sorry for going completely offthread)

olgaga Tue 23-Oct-12
I think that from now on we should ignore trolls like Larry, OneMoreChap

Since when did I become a troll?
In the case of the OP, she set her boundaries, made them clear, and DP crossed them.

He's a dick.

We've had a - I thought useful - discussion elsewhere about where you set boundaries/red-lines and they should generally be clear.

I've seen people set boundaries on meat-eating, smacking, sexual behaviour, PIL - all sorts of things. If they're clear, they're clear. If you don't accept someone else's boundaries, you're not much of a person.

what's your opinion on my washing machine, omc ?

I see that daddancer hasn't come back after resurrecting this thread, FYI - if you don't understand why a woman might be ok with her partner's porn use but not ok with him visiting a LDC, you are too stupid for the internet and I'm amazed that you can work a keyboard.
How did I know that Larry would consider a useful app like "find my friends" to be some kind of breach of privacy?

If your relationship is at the point you feel the need to track your DP's location on an iPhone then it's dead

Erm, ok then

I track DH on my iphone so I can start cooking his tea, he works an hour from home in the middle of nowhere with no mobule phone signal , so once he gets back to civilisation I can see where he is on find my friends, he can finish any time between 4pm and 7pm and if he's not in his office then he has no access to a landline and he's not about to spend up to 15 minutes getting to it instead of heading for home.

The fact that these apps can also trap cheating spouses is just an added bonus.

If DP is aware and agrees then that's a different kettle of fish

If my dh had a lapdance/ went to a strip club, in my eyes, he would instantly be transformed from the man I love, married and had children with, into someone completely different. Someone who thinks it's ok to pay women for sexual services, to gawp and leer at naked women. But he knows this.

Likewise, I would never go to squeal over a male stripper (and I mean that - I never have and never will - the whole thing is vile). I wouldn't allow myself to be 'chatted up' by another man, I wouldn't dance cheek-to-cheek with another man. Talking to members of the opposite sex is fine - but you have to know where to draw the line. It's about respecting your partner. And I expect that same respect back. And I will teach my children that same level of respect for others.

I also find it it disconcerting that Larry, a man who has admitted to going to lapdancing clubs in the past, (so clearly has a 'pro-lapdancing' agenda') sees fit to judge what goes on in other people's relationships - who do you think you are to say 'where the bar is'? Just because your wife may be ok with it (or feel she has to tolerate it) doesn't mean others do.

OP, if you're still there, I hope you are ok.

HappyHalloweenMotherFucker
what's your opinion on my washing machine, omc ?

All washing machines are complete and utter bastards.

Only device I've ever had an extended warranty on, and the only device that the repairs made the EW useful.

I've replaced washing machine door rubbers - which are a pig but possible - but subscribe to the belief that if it's not warranty covered, buy a new one.

Calgon anyone?

Printers are without doubt bigger bastards than washing machines.

Printers is, indeed, all bastards, but at least they are cheap bastards.
It's the ink what is expensive

Jonny Cock. Wow OP is really lucky because after her husband perved over young women he came home....Praise be and thank the mighty Lord, he came home.

Keep your men sisters, promise a strip and fuck the minute he comes through the door.

Hi Beer Were!

Jonnycox

have reported your post for advertising your book - judging from your post, its probably a load of crap.

The exchange of money means he is buying sexual services and therefore he thinks women are there to be purchased for his own pleasure.

You have also insulted OP in insinuating she must be lacking for him to go looking.

Can I just warn those posting on this (and other threads on similar topics) that I saw a blog linked to on twitter quoting a thread about a DH's porn habit. It wasn't this thread but it seems to have brought the relationship board to the attention of people who would not normally post here (like mr author Jonny)

This could bring trolls or lurkers, so do think about how much personal and identifiable information you share.

OP
All the best

Good call, MMeL

I had a drama free, flounce free, break.