Sofas and Slankets V Irregular choice shoes and Snogging - Dating Thread 23

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He's said he doesn't want to rush me or push me into anything I'm not comfortable with, so the pressure's really coming from within me! I know he would be up for it though . . .

SHAG HIM!

DS1 has phoned to say school attendance officer has been round. great. Hopefully this will give him a boot up the arse.

I want to go to bed and eat cheese. instead I am going to PMs hairdresser to get my hair cut and dyed because we are basically married except for the tedious bit about having a romance, or sex, or a piece of paper and we have the same hairdresser now, because he passed on his 40% off discount

Have the cheese when you get back, though.

Western What Watch said. If it's right, it's right. You're either putting off the inevitable or you aren't. Sorry that probably doesn't help.

Snape You had no choice re kitten. Even someone without the added stresses would have done the same. I'm sorry to hear about your work situation, having seen what you do now I was all ready to say "wow, how fab" etc. Hope it sorts itself out SOON.

Who was talking about cosmic ordering? I have done one of those mood/wish board things. Could you try that?

MadameO what is this mood/wish board thing you speak of? Please.

Snape you will feel much better after a bit of pampering. I do hope DS1 is prepared to pay any fine which the attendance officer may issue if he doesn't get his arse into gear and get back to school. It was so much easier in the olden days, when you could send kids up chimneys or down mines to earn their keep.

Western Speaking as someone who hasn't had sex for a while, I say shag him.

the cheese is MINE! :)

madameO, I'm only on secondment where I am just now, need to go back to my 'proper' job in October. I'm going to miss being here. (just to compound my misery!) it's my 'proper job' that is causing the problems.

western the rules are bilge. 'good' girls act a certain disingeniousway to 'snare' a man, they subdue their sexuality because they don't want to be thoughtof as 'easy' or up-for-it. I read an article in the (cough!) Daily Mail that cited a large proportion of shagging-on-the-first-date or apparent ONS's that turned into long, happy, succesful relationships. If you want to have sex with the chap, have sex with the chap.

A quote - that is not going in the notebook - from 'chances are'

[Corinne hasn't had sex since her husband died 20 years ago] Corinne: I don't know if it's just his body I'm attracted to or his soul... or if it's just me. Oh, I'm feeling generally... attracted. The truth is, I'm so ripe I'm about to fall off the vine.

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fine!?!?!?!?!?!?!

oh for FUCKS SAKE!

that's my cheese money!

Sorry Snape. But yes, around here you do get slapped with a fine for failure to attend the institution that is school. Or you could go to jail instead, treat it as a holiday. They have pool tables and everything. And cheese. Not that I've ever been, you understand.

western , Mr Nice and I spent all day in bed on our third date. And 5 months later he's still around :)

snape I hope all the crapness sorts itself out. Very soon.

Time Fashion designers use "mood boards" to encapsulate the feel of the show - it'll be a display board with pictures and buzz words designed to amp up the mood/feeling that the designer is trying to portray using the clothes and models.

Wish Boards are similar - you basically take a space and stick up pictures of what you would like, your ideal house, some money, a good job. You can state your wishes in words too. My mood board consists of some cuttings from the Toast Catalogue basically I'd like my whole life to look like that with statements about aspects of my life as I would like them stuck on top.

If nothing else it helps focus what you want in life but the general idea is that it attracts positive energy because you have put it "out there" I love this idea, you get to piss about with scissors and glue, what's not to like?

there needs to be an app for that really....

Ahhhh! Thank you MadamO. Love it!! In fact, I watched The Secret recently, and it featured a man who had done exactly as you describe and only when packing up to move from his house, finding the board, did he realise he had actually been living in the dream house he had pinned years before. Have you read or seen The Secret? I found it really empowering and it certainly changed my way of thinking. I can highly recommend it.

Pinterest is an online pinning board that you could adapt for your personal goals and dreams.

And there goes my chance at dragons den... :)

western honestly you can't tell. Second all of the above advice - if he's going to stick around he will, regardless. I once dated someone for about 6 weeks, went out loads of times( this was pre-DC) and after we spent the night together I never heard from him again. So you never really know.

snape massive sympathies re DS1, you know I have similar issues with my own DS. It is crap, the Evil Ex doesn't want to know because DS isn't his son (he brought him up from the age of 18 months or so, but biologically not) so I'm always on my own with it. Tis v v hard. I feel most of the time as though I have completely failed DS and if I was a better parent he'd be happier :(

On a lighter note, my snogging partner was back at work today. I have caught him looking in my direction several times. I have blushed when he's walked past me. All v awkward and embarrassing

Haven't read/seen "The Secret" Time will have a look. Basically my attitude is, be kind, as far as possible do what is right/best, don't be selfish and when shit things happen, they happen for a reason. Know who you are, be true to that and if you are a good person you will attract good energies.
Which all sounds about as "woo" as you get, but having a) been a toerag in my early years and b) not being religious, it's a close to a belief system as I get.

For example, I'm lucky enough to get three hours free babysitting a week through a voluntary service. The woman called me recently and said that would be coming to end as I'd had a year of it. At first I was really disappointed but then realised that it was someone else's turn to benefit from the support. I'm in a much better place than I was a year ago and because there is a waiting list it would be selfish of me to try and prolong it. The woman who runs it is very kind and caught me on a bad day, so she's not done anything about it, but I'm going to tell her that it's ok and it's someone else's turn

It will pass Sponge. Try not to take it personally, teenagers full of hormones, up and down emotions that even they don't understand, not having the maturity to express how they feel without lip curling and slamming doors, thinking they know best and refusing to listen to parents. It is hard and it is one of those situations where you just have to ride the storm, knowing that it doesn't last forever. And their behaviour does not make us bad parents. You are not a bad parent, if you were you wouldn't care, and you do care

I absolutely agree with you MadameO You should read or watch The Secret, you will love it, it will confirm everything you think and feel.

So, I'll be shagging him then

Probably. . .

Loving it that there's no pressure from him, he is very respectful of how I'm feeling about things. So I'm feeling pretty much in control of how things will go tomorrow, which will be good either way.

This is for Watch but others might find it useful
Puppy or Pest?

Interesting MadameO

What is The Secret?

Western if you want to shag him then shag him.

The Secret aka simple cheery outlook

Thanks MadameO :)

So basically all I have to do is think about winning the lottery often enough then buy a ticket and win the lottery

In essence, you live your life as if you have already won the lottery. You project the bliss of knowing your bills will always be paid, the joy of dishing out to your favourite charity, the glee of surprising your mates with a limo ride to Harvey Nicks (or whatever). It's all a bit hokey really, but I do believe that positivity attracts positivity.