Hi all
Sorry I haven't had a chance to catch up on the whole thread since i was here on Friday.
This is a good question and one which has just been answered for me without me having to do much about it.
Been seeing a lovely guy for 2 months or so, kids have heard him mentioned but I thought it was too early to meet. Always had the idea that it would make the situation serious and involved and more than I wanted it to be. So, in 5 years of being single, they've met one guy. My DS1 told me the other weekend he was a bit concerned at that time cos he thought I was going to announce something major! I wasn't anywhere near that point but we'd been on and off for several months.
I was always determined that my kids wouldn't see a succession of men appearing at the weekend and then disappearing off the scene. (not that regular, of course, IYSWIM)
However, now new guy suggested yesterday (after a lovely day/night at his) that he could come back with me. I hesitated but eventually we arranged to meet up for a drink last night and he picked me up from home and met DS2 DD and 2 friends who were here. The kids went completely hyper and OTT before he arrived and then were silent when he appeared! We all ended up laughing about it and all was ok. I don't want them thinking this is necessarily going to be the next big thing, but equally why shouldn't they meet? Theyre old enough now to be able to cope with it, I think. My kids are 20, 17 and 13.
TBH its a relief to have it out of the way and when we got in the car to go out, he breathed a huge sigh of relief - I hadn't realised how nervous he was about it !