Sofas and Slankets V Irregular choice shoes and Snogging - Dating Thread 23

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An Afternoon Chuckle For You All

The weirdest personal message I ever got on OD. I had never even looked at his profile, much less 'turned to his lower window'!!! Ooo, err, missus!

This is the message verbatim:

"i like you pass my home n turn to my lower window n wave every day . i like you drope a note with your contact, then this is the natural love ,storm your heart. if you do not like me do not continue stop passing my home n i caar on gardening."

Now, don't all rush at once Ladies!!!

Eiepie. That's astonishing. What on earth does it mean? I reckon it's a translator attempt. MAybe he's been reading snapes notebook on mn and thought he'd give it a go...lol....don't give up the day job eh!

Sponge. I don't remember how you left it with scaredofpeas. Did he vanish? Fab news on the job. Well done you.

Snape. Hope you are well. I know it's pretty tough with the job, home etc. one day at a time..

Watch. Yay!

I'm still on the sofa. Cba

Eiepie that's fantastic! One for the hall of shame for sure.

Watch, get in there lass.

I'm off out tonight with some friends from my sports club. FWB will be there too only we are keeping it on the QT. I'm going to have to stay sober aren't I?

OK, so my totally brilliant new idea (!) is a brand new dating site called..... "He-Bay"! (or "She-Bay", depending on your gender/predilection!)

What I propose is that we have a similar business module to the popular auction site - but without the money aspect (that would be a totally different sort of business!!!)

So, after each date we would fill in a Feedback questionnaire, which subsequent dates could see, that would go like this:

Firstly, was the experience:

1. Positive

2. Neutral or

3. Negative?

Then you could leave a short comment on the details of your date.

This would be followed by a 5 star rating system (one being awful, five being fab!) in the following categories:

Date as described: This would mean - profile photo realistic and current, age about right and weight tallied with profile - or did you get a 'pig in a poke'!?

Communication: (Lol!) Did he text/phone at appropriate times/intervals. Was he reasonably talkative, forthcoming, interesting etc? Or did he spend all evening on his mobile phone?

Arrival time: Was he on time/early or, if late, did he let you know?

Charges: Did he go Dutch, offer to pay all or did he leave his wallet at home by mistake?

And lastly, my own 2 personal categories.....

Presentation: Did he smell nice, look good or did he look like he was dragged, kicking and screaming, out of the 70's?

Spark: Yes or no!

Just for fun, doncha know! Any additional ideas welcome.

Oooh EiePie I like that idea.

Ok...Sorry I'm late.
Date was LOVELY. Was very nervous all day, not sure why, he turned up on time, I made us food which he appreciated, having come straight from work, then went to his to watch a DVD and chat till 3 in the morning.
I could have stayed, but I had nothing with me and actually my MAIN reason for not staying was my sodding guts, which play up whenever I'm nervous and I get bloated and windy. Even though I relaxed there pretty quickly, the wind then had nowhere to go as I am pathologically incapable of trumping in someone else's house
Anyway he didn't know if I was enjoying myself or not and I assured him I was. Also said that reason I hadn't kissed him yet was because I was just waiting till it felt right. He thought that was perfectly reasonable and I said that after loads of crap relationships which moved too fast it was nice to just "be"

We did snuggle on the sofa to watch the movie which was nice and spent ages chatting afterwards. I booked the taxi and I thought we could walk out a bit early with the intention of having a goodnight snog but the taxi arrived almost immediately! SO it was just a quick goodnight kiss on the lips and me floating on air all the way home.

Woke up very happy this morning and as soon I get another chance I am spending the night at his. And I will be bringing full complement (sp) of make up, spare pants and condoms

Watch we are practically dating twins!

Apologies, not had much chance to read thread, Yoga will check out your tattoo asap, is it on your FB? Are you on my FB? Sorry if you are

Shuckle relax dude! There will be chemistry beyond FWB. I've found that sometimes it isn't istant which is interesting.

Mac it is SHIT when they do that, esp if you've specifically asked for prior warning!

Jam Ugh Ugh Ugh. Good call on dumping from a great height.

Sorry to those I've missed. Got to bathe DD. x

Mac, have you thought this man could be using you as his beard? The signs are there, no kissing or other sexual activity, his parents know and there seems to be no going forward. Just a guess.

Pie, that's a great idea!

Madame and Watch fantastic dates. :o

Congrats on the job Sponge, you so deserve it.

Hmm, that's food for thought Nicholas

I don't know. He's 23, has had long term relationships before.

Before I was about the whole situation. Now I'm just .

Oh Sponge that's great news about your job! Fresh start possibly new hot men.

& for you.

Oh Madame that sounds fab! 2 success stories in one week....sigh.

No, not on FB (well I am on FB but not connected with MNers on FB and definitely no mention of the tat on facebook). But there's a photo on my MN profile page.

Ooh I love the tat Yoga! Quite a good talisman I think (if a tattoo can be such a thing?)

ah - madame - that sounds really nice. There is something to be said for taking it slow.
:)

pirate said that he hadnt planned to end up with so much kissing, as we were just getting to know each other, and that was lovely on its own. Its kind of nice to feel that someone is interested in me for me, not for how quick they can try and get me into bed.
when are you seeing him again?

mac - why are you bothering? whats in it for you?

Not sure when I'm seeing him again as ex is being his usual obstructive self re overnights. But we are talking on the phone tonight. Think I might have to resort to sneaking him in once DD is in bed.

Yes taking it slow feels right in this case. Looking forward to the kissing bit tho!

Ooh madame

Yoga
He's a lovely person. We're really close emotionally & have a lot in common. I enjoy his company.

Ooh I've lost a bit of my message. I'll try again.

Yoga I might have totally skimmed over it and if I did I do apologise. What tattoo did you get and where?

Watch
The bit about Man 1 is to you.

As you were.

Hi all
Thought it was time I came back to you. Decree Nisi through, and the other night fuelled by wine optimism I signed up for Match! I think I need to grow a thicker skin. I have my pic on invitation, and two men have 'dissapeared' after seeing it. I wouldn't mind, but it's a proffessional photo taken for a work thing, and if anything is quite flattering. Please reassure me it will get better! Sounds like most of you are doing ok?

Good evening everyone, I was invited to join this thread a while ago (by sponge I think) but been busy with poorly dcs for a few weeks so I lost all thoughts of dating.

That's interesting about 'pic on invitation' I might change my profile to that. parsley I've been on match almost a month and I don't really know what to make of it. I get lots of views if I'm online, buts what's with the winks?!
What do you do if someone winks at you and you like them- wink back? or message them?

I'm starting to think I might be quite a bit more confident than I thought. If I saw someone I liked I'd just go straight in with a friendly message, but I don't get any messages, just winks.

I decided to actually wink back at someone I liked the look of...and he winked back again! What does it all mean? Does nobody actually talk on these sites?

Mac I was !

Got a tattoo on my lower back - first ever and can't believe I actually went through with it! Really proud of myself and so happy with it. If you go to my MN profile there's a pic of what I got (drew it myself). Madame it is a kind of talisman - the position is a yoga pose (tree pose) that represents strength and balance - needed that to get through the last year. And also for the idea of the tree of life which is supposed to bring peace and happiness - that's what I want going forward. So now I have that with me wherever I go.

Aw Yoga that's lovely..

Was it particularly painful? Is that the wrong thing to ask

red I'm on MatchAffinity, I don't know if that's an off shoot, but I don't think they do winking...I feel safer when I can control who can see it. If anyone I knew and wanted to avoid was on there...

Mac - Yes, it bloody hurt! Nearly jumped when she first started but managed to sit through it. Snape's the tattoo goddess though - you should ask her.

Hi Red & Parsley (waves). Tried match a couple of times but never found anyone worth talking to. Just my personal opinion though. Have you tried OKCupid?

Hi Yoga...no, Match is the first one. Do you think OK is better, if so why? TIA.

Hi Yogagirl

I've just been having a look at guardian soulmates, already seen a lot more people I'm interested in. I only joined match for a month and it runs out in a few days, I don't think I'll renew it.

Just my personal experience:

Match - tried it first as it was the only one I'd heard of but never found anyone worth talking to. Had another look again recently and still no one.

Guardian Soulmates - by far had the best luck with GS - met several nice men over the last 6-8 months (including Mr60, long story which i won't go into now but lovely guy and still kind of lurking around...). Downside - free to set up a profile and look but expensive to actually talk to someone and unless you are in a big city there might not be many men to choose from.

POF - Free. Tried it briefly after hearing about it here but got fed up with the sleaze after a day or two.

OKCupid - Also free, lots of men online, have been a few ok dates with "nice" men but no one that really does it for me.

HTH

I'm going to stop this in a minute, promise, but just wondering why you think OK is better than POF, if they are both free. Thought by paying I'd get people that were more serious, but don't know if that works out always.

I honestly don't know Parsely - some people say it just depends how you handle POF so this was just my own experience. Lots of messages on POF that consisted mainly of "Hi hun, u look luvly" or "Hey sexy". One guy asked me out and when I said no he replied that I clearly was in need of a good shag.

On OKC I've just gotten a lot more messages from men that seem to be able to string a sentence together and seem to have actually read my profile and might have something in common with me. No one I've really been blown away by, but not a total waste of time either.

red if there are men on GS in your area that you like and you can afford it then might well be worth a subscription. It's cheaper (relatively speaking) the longer you subscribe for so I treated myself to 6 months after XH left (and before I realised how much I was going to have to pay my lawyers).