Sofas and Slankets V Irregular choice shoes and Snogging - Dating Thread 23

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yeah NewJam he's a cockend forsure but OD can be at least be amusing if nothing else.

Tonights date was an experience, met at 5, quick pint where all I could coherently think was "you're never 5'7!!!" Then I decreed I was going to Primark (what can I say, he was short and a little dull, ok, so it may have been nerves but I don't get into town with a free bus ticket often and had nowt to lose.)

He did get bonus points for joining in with my supermarket sweep approach to clothes buying for kids. A drink or two later and things improved, am fully willing to blame nerves or drink for this, he was utterly lovely, and then the bus home followed by some gentlemanly texts..

All in all I've had worse dates but it is showing me I need a kick up the arse WRT FWB. Everyone else I meet just doesn't hold a candle to him. In reality I need the effort of FWB like I need an extra anus with a stitch in.

I want chemistry, why am I only feeling it with FWB??

Oh Jam that's awful, I'm so sorry! Don't feel bad, you've done nothing wrong. And I don't think you need to do anything - you don't know the woman, you barely know this guy. Just let the bastard fuck off back to his partner (or to some other silly bitch who will actually fall for his 'poor me, I'm so misunderstood' crap. And yes, I'm convinced there is a secret script somewhere. After I kicked XH out following his affair (poor sod was terribly misunderstood too) I told him he was such a fucking cliche that if it wasn't happening to me it would be hilarious. He actually had the nerve to look hurt & surprised! Chin up & move on! x

Shuckle - what's wrong with FWB? (Sorry if you've said before, I can't remember)

Yoga, that's brilliant - I would love to have seen your XH's face. They all think they're so unique, they would be horrified to know how similar they all are! I am putting serious thought into my tattoo now, you're an inspiration!

Shuckleberry, Primark shopping on a date must surely be a first, so you'll score points for originality. You can't blame the poor guy for being a little optimistic about his height, I bet he finds it hard to get dates even at 5'7", so if he were honest he'd never get anywhere, and as you found out, he is actually worth getting to know.

Rask, glad you sorted it out. I was about to say that I've been logging onto my POF profile, despite both myself and my lovely man declaring that now we weren't looking for anyone else (he's deleting his Match & POF accounts! Mine has a note saying I'm taken, but I'm, obviously a bit more cautious than him!)

Its simply out of courtesy to anyone who may have sent me a message (I always reply and so does he because we're both nice people ) and I've also had a business enquiry from a guy I met a couple of times via the POF messages (although I'm dubious about whether or not to follow up on that in case its crossing a line - he kept trying to kiss me when we were out and was a bit too keen, so I'm concerned that the work thing may be a cover for trying to get it on with me again, now he knows I'm not dating anyone else).

Bleurgh. Crappy weekend incoming.

Man 1 - Lovely, kind, occasionally sweet. Lots in common.

Why in almost 3 months of spending time together hasn't he tried to kiss me? And why do his parents know about me?!

Man 2 - Again, very nice. Funny, bit sarcastic, likes that I'm stubborn and surprise him with what I come out with. Enjoys my company. Physically attracted to each other. --Couldn't keep his hands to himself the last two times we saw each other.

He's only gone and done a bloody disappearing act. We've been talking since June FGS. I told him from the start that if he changed his mind for whatever reason, or just didn't want to talk to me anymore all he had to do was say. Not ignore me.

So how's everyone else doing?

Must be something in the air. My older man/fwb is taking his cheating ex back because his teenage dc are begging him to. He always wanted more than fwb from me and just when i think that yes, i actually like this guy and want more he takes his cheating wife back. :-(

Men.

Have .

morning :)
I need to change my name to ' some kind of seductive, raven haired, beauty'

• lol, LOVE IT. very nice compliments :)

anyway - excellent evening. EXCELLENT. laughed till we both cried, drank lots of wine, he brought me chocolates ( which im currently scoffing in bed)

It is Insane how well we get on, he said last night, and i agreed, its nuts. and we have stupid amounts in common, every few mins theres a ' oh, me too' to the point we even were both on crutches the same easter weekend!

Snogged on the sofa for a good few hours. Nothing more. Im happy with that, it feels nice.

Should be seeing him for date 4 in the week.

Cheers mac don't mind if i do!

So pleased for you watch yay for snogging! Not much!

Ooh watch you lucky, lucky girl!

Mac - ugh, sorry. Bit early for how about a ? (Actually there should be a chocolate icon, it's never too early for chocolate.

Doingit - I've never been an inspiriation to anyone before! Go for it!

Mac Three months sounds a long time to not even kiss?! And the fact he's told his parents about you is very confusing too! Man 2 - who know? I think they are cowards and don't want to 'fess up if they go off the idea/find someone else etc.

After 6 weeks of a really good time with Mr PE Teacher, he text me to say he thought it was too soon to get into another relationship! Coward! My date last Tuesday had written in his profile that he wasn't 'materialistic'. So why, then, did he spend most of the date telling me all about the TV's he'd bought - culminating in a 60in plasma screen (surround sound etc) plus all about his Koi carp fish (£500 each!), his brand new bathroom and his very flash (I'd clocked it - it was!) BMW!? He'd even changed his mind about where to park in the pub car park and drove it to the furthest corner so as nobody would accidentally scratch it! "So, you've got a car!? That don't impress me much, a-a-ahahhh!"

snogging is nice. I dont think ive just kissed someone for that long, without it going anywhere/ with no pressure for it to go anywhere, since i was a teenager.

mac - three months with not even a kiss, very werid. Does he think you are just friends?

pie - men. they make no sense!

I thought it was a little weird too, but add into the mix I've been in his room, fallen asleep in his bed? Hmmm. .

Ah Yoga it's 12 o'clock somewhere! I have a date planned this afternoon, there will be alcohol And food.

Pie Oh I know, what is it with that "possessions don't matter to me" bullshit followed by a shriek of "MY CAR!"

Bless. You could make him a CD old school with that song slipped in?

mac - but friends do that too. unless there was cuddling and stuff?

Watch I have no idea. But that wouldn't tally with his parents knowing he was seeing me. And him whinging that I never call him or text him first. Oddness personified. I have no idea what to do.

There was spooning but no sex or anything.

And he bought me perfume in September. For no reason.

Mac As for Man 1 - weirder and weirder!

I'm drip feeding. sorry.

mac - you need to just talk to him, just ask him. Its been 3 months with no snogging, something doesnt add up.

madame - awaiting your update!!

Pie that should be our theme song! Or at least our next thread title.

Ooh-oo-ooh you think you're something special
Ok so ...you've got a car/can cook/look like Brad Pitt/loaded/fill in the blank...
That Don't Impress Me Much!

Mac - strange. You need to talk to him.

Ahem...Madame...surely you must have surfaced from your lust filled night of passion by now?

and and and- he was talking about stuff in a few weeks, and various things in the future, so, i think we might be heading somewhere......

Thanks Yoga! Got a great idea for a new style Online Dating site. Off to get hair cut for DS1, will expand when I get back!

Mac one of my friends dated a guy like that for months. When she confronted him about it he said he wanted to take things slowly. She said that not having kissed her in nearly 4 months (and about 20-odd dates) wasn't slow it was glacial. They split up, which was prob no bad thing. With her guy, it all came across a bit controlling to me on his part...you need to speak to him about it and find out whats going on. And get rid if necessary.

Watch fantastic! so pleased all is going well (almost as pleased as I would be for myself ) sounds like a lovely evening!

EiePie agree with Watch, men make no sense sometimes. That not ready for a relationship stuff is rubbish, I was pissed off when I got that from someone after one date, I'd be livid after 6 weeks. Can't bear men being ridiculously precious about their cars either, tis only a lump of metal!

So I am still on the sofa. Though ScaredofPeas text me again last night (I didnt reply). I'm really not sure I can be bothered with men, still fairly certain that when and if I return to the dating minefield, I'll get binned off after every first date like always. So not inclined to put myself through that again anytime soon!

thanks sponge :)

idont blame you staying on the sofa for a while, and fuck scared of peas, no way hes after any more than a booty call. You never know though, once you get back to it, things might be a bit different. You know i had the same luck as you ( as in none) but from knowhere ive had one relationship ( so, it didnt go great, but it wasnt bad to start off with) and now the possibility of another, while being called lovely things - fuck i love compliments. Honestly. I got to over 30 never really getting any from men, and this year they are just pouring out. what im saying is it can all change at any time.

No, no, no - do not fuck scaredofpeas! (sorry, i know what you meant watch, and sure sponge did too but couldn't help it)

So....turns out Wholefoods on a Saturday afternoon is a couples activity and no, as one might have hoped, a good place to meet single, employed men. Bugger.