Sofas and Slankets V Irregular choice shoes and Snogging - Dating Thread 23

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see, then i worry that that makes me sound money grabbing, but its all from my side, if it was reciprocated, or even he paid for me when we went out ( not that we have been out in AGES) then i wouldnt mind. But hes staying at mine ( ive only been to his once since meeting him in may) Ive done all the driving with no petrol contributions.... he eats at mine for free, uses my toilteries, etc..... yet he works full time and isnt on min wage.
meanwhile im a part time working lone parent claiming HB, its not fair.

It's nothing at all to do with being money-grabbing watch - he's a bit of a cocklodger imo.

And this is the thing with having a discussion about how things need to improve - they improve for about a week and then it's back to how it always was.... because the things that you don't like are an intrinsic part of them as a person - which is what I think this is. He's tight, and thoughtless, DESPITE you telling him about it. Dump!

which is what i said to him 2 weeks ish ago, that that was who he was. and im who i am, and maybe there is a better fit. but he doesnt seem to get it.

right, have now texted him that ive going away last min this weekend..... then hes away.
Ill text him or call him when hes back and say that i have thought and i dont want to be in a relationship with anyone right now.

good plan?

Perfect. Then you don't have to actually confront it and feel like you've kicked a puppy!

Now do you feel relieved that you won't have to see him, or disappointed?

Good plan.

Just make sure you do cut ALL contact. No answering messages, and no opening doors.
It's an order.

...and no listening to your foof!

Hiya, back from lovely relaxed lunch with lovely friend.

Watch - I was wondering if it might be easier if we stopped referring to him the puppy and started calling him something all together less sympathetic....like The Sloth or The Leech or the Mouse Hoarder?

likes snape's post

it was my foof that got me in trouble the first time.....

i feel relieved.
The puppy is about right, its adoring, but doesnt know what its doing, cute and nice to snuggle, but helpless and a bit annoying.

the mouse has finally been caught, 3 months after it was found.... though he said he quite liked the thought of the mouse having aparty in his room while he was away...

YY Yoga can we not just call him the Cocklodger? He is behaving like one.
Date is tonight. I have severe pain issues today but I'm determined to go

watch good call on the text.
Snape Love the Stetson idea.
Lueji Liking the no-nonsense posts
Joy Hello
Kirsty Bleurgh. Well rid

Sorry for brief post. Must go and try to make myself presentable and get DD out for some fresh air.

Madame, I have been wandering too much into AIBU, I think.

though he said he quite liked the thought of the mouse having aparty in his room while he was away...

Sure, if he's called Mickey and he has friends called Donald and Goofy

My mum and dad and Mr Nice (and me as well of course) are having dinner tonight. Have delivered DC to XH now and need to get me ready now. Mr nice picking us up at 7:30. Am now starting to have nerves . Plus we haven't seen each other for nearly a week so actually I just want to kiss him and rip his clothes off and am not going to be able to. Sigh.

Suppose I could tidy the front room as well a bit but no am mumsnetting

good luck miranda - im sure it will go well :)

have a fab date madameo

The puppy called, he is all sad. i feel awful.
My plan is to tell him that i felt selfish about going away at the last min, and then after some thinking on my weekend away i decided that i prefered being single. So the end is cut and dry, there is no blame of behaviour which he can promise to change, its a done deal.

its not nice dumping someone though, is it.

No, it's not nice, but the alternative isn't particularly nice either.

I meant cant promise to change.

No, there isn't any alternative at all...

Snapes right. Better to dump him sooner rather than later, the longer it goes on the harder it'll get.

You will feel miles better once it's finally done :)

I am a bit pissed off. Boys are with the Evil Ex this weekend and all my friends are busy. I have literally no idea what to do with myself other than sit at home and eat my weight in chocolate

Happy Birthday, Yoga! Hope you've had a lovely day.

Miranda, hope everything's going well with your parents and Mr Nice.

Kirsty, agree with the others, well rid.

Sponge, not seeing the problem with the chocolate plan for the weekend?

My free Friday is now going to be filled with chilli con carne and a ton of cheese as opposed to cock

Sponge, if I was nt seeing pirate Sat I'd say let's do something...

Job hunting is exhausting.

I got an email before from someone I applied to for a job. I downloaded the application form, filled it in and attached it to an email, along with covering letter. Only I managed to send the blank form instead of the completed one

What an idiot

The person dealing with the applications was lovely and let me resend it but I won't hold my breath in getting an interview.

hi everyone,

well mr wealthy is pissing me off

we had our date friday and he stayed the night. then after that he has been very quiet.

over the weekend he was quiet as he was tired from being kept awake by me, then went out saturday.

at the start of the week he had alot of crap going on at work and was stressed and didnt chat much.

now he is chatting slightly more then he has been at the start of the week but soooooo much less then last week.

why do you think that is?

I feel annoyed with him now because i like him and wanted to speak to him and hes not really bothering! but keeps sending me silly texts like sorry hun i will call you later. errrrr

Sponge - do nice things for yourself. I love having a weekend all to myself sometimes. I can do all the things I never have time to do when I'm being mum - watch movies, do my nails, light candles, open some wine, cook something nice & grown up I know the kids wouldn't eat. I bet you'll find you're really good company!

Chaotic "job hunting is exhausting" - tell me about it! Been doing it for far too many months. Good luck, will keep my fingers crossed for you.

Moving hmm, have to admit, that doesn't sound great...

chaotic Don't be so sure. Due to some very farcical events today I rocked up at an interview a very disgusting 40 minutes late. I was fully expecting a thanks but don't bother. Instead I got told that she had no doubt I could do the job, she had a new plan and wanted me just for my skills and she was very sorry but could only offer way more than anyone else is offering round my way. Don't panic, if you handle stuff with good grace it shows them what you do when the turd hits the aircon

everyone else I've been reading but you guys have moved a little too fast for the shit week I've been having, I promise I'll be a more attentive MNer once my life has stopped imploding ok?

Now for the narcissism:

FWB: wellllllll... 1) still no good hard fuck.. everything else is pretty good, he's very considerate in the bedroom. A fantastic host and very sexy but.. I cannot get a handle on him, some of the things he's said lately would usually indicate he might be wanting something else from me. I just don't know. I think what is throwing me is the Aspergers. I don't know how to filter what he's saying and what his body language is doing. He seems to be having performance anxiety, I mean all I wanted really was a bloody good seeing to and an orgasm. Probably a stupid idea to look to a friend for that. Plus if we keep doing it we will get outed, we're part of a very small community.

POF: I've been chatting with what seems to be a tick the boxes guy, it's lovely but when I first suggested we meet (I cba with the hanging around, it seems stupid, I'm not looking for a penpal) both our childcare issues got in the way. Anyway, we are messaging all day and it's so much fun but I'm wary about broaching the meeting thing first again.

OKCUPID: The pickings for women that like me that I might like are bloody slim.

Anyway, this has all kind of solidified what I want from a relationship now at least. I want relationship Lite.. somewhere between FWB and coupledom. Fat chance eh?