Sofas and Slankets V Irregular choice shoes and Snogging - Dating Thread 23

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bugger, perils of dating with children. Any favours you can pull?

western, oh, that sounds better in context :)

Oh MadameO how frustrating!!! Wish I lived close enough to help out! :<

Western It all sounds good to me. You did what felt right for you at the time and he seems fine with it.

Sponge hope it went well

can i just go ' ffs, mothers!!!!

urgh, she nags, a lot. A whole lot, she is known for it, everyone is always going ' please stop nagging' Ive just been nagged about shoes for my new job, like im 12. Apparently i should get patent loafers. Im 34, i can chose my own shoes, i told her i didnt know and tried to change the subject, no, she carrier on, so i told her to stop nagging, i can run my own life, i am a grown up, i have a few grey hairs and am capable of getting my own shoes.... and then she blew up at me.

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fucks sake.

I'll swap you watch. Mine won't nag. Even in the depths of divorce all she will ever want to talk to you about it the latest movie or tv show she's seen.

Sorry, don't mean to make light of it - mothers can be seriously infuriating and it has taken me a very, very long time to just accept that's who she is and not let it get to me. Why not tell her she is welcome to treat you to a new pair of shoes - do Dolce & Gabanna do patent loafers?

stupid argument over patent loafers!!! ridiclous.
Im the most independent person in the world. ive live abroad not speaking the language for fucks sake, i can deal with any problem and massive stress and still come out smiling, mother seems to think i cant even pick my own shoes, her closing commment was ' well, ill just sit back and watch you do it wrong then'
infuriating.

just infuriating - still, in the scheme of things, its small.

but god, it winds me up. i told her it was patronising and then that made her more cross.

Yoga - drives you nuts, doesnt it. Shall we swap?!?!? i might quite like somone who doesnt try to scruitnise my every move.

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Yay! Have sorted something out! Thanks for all your nice comments
Texted my male pal about latest development. He texted back "Result! Put your best pants on"

Glad you've got it sorted MadameO

Western you did what was right for you, nothing wrong with that.

watch your issues with living at home/not driving are perfectly valid. I've mentioned this before but I don't drive. Then again I don't live in the middle of nowhere and expect people to give me lifts or let me stay at their's for the night. I get myself around on public transport or sometimes even make use of my legs I also have my own place.

Thanks for all the good wishes! Presentation now done. Fingers crossed that and the interview were good enough to get me the job :)

Meanwhile I have had an email from the boy asking if he can speak to me on friday when he's back in the office...what do we think about that?

What would be the harm in having the chat sponge .. Do you like him??

I actually do, the main issue is his age, or lack thereof. Which makes me feel it's a bit inappropriatem

How old is he again sponge?

sponge you are DEMI MOORE! have some fun ffs, its not as if you're going to marry him.

Alternatively, might be a bit awkward at work...

I've had chat with manager, not very hopeful, but then had chat with new line manager & new job is the right move, even if I'm actually homeless. Feel a bit teary & selfish. Dragged DCs 500 miles from their home & we might end up in bed & breakfast &/or soup kitchen. :(

Sponge, yes to talk to him. What harm can it do?

Yay for you Madame.

I like the sound of your man Western, showing you respect like that.

oh my goodness.. a chap I was recently chatting to on POF has died in an accident at the weekend. poor guy.. having to explain how I knew him was interesting :(

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how did you find out?

Snape work sounds crap. Does the new job mean a big move for you all then?

Yoga he is 21 almost 22

Snape at Demi, but you've hit the nail on the head, it would be massively awkward at work - especially as people in our dept (who don't know his name) tend to refer to him as 'the boy in xxxx' . However if I get the new job I went for today, I will be based in a different office.

This is assuming he wants to speak to me about that of course, it may be entirely innocent. Here's me assuming he finds me irresistible and it might be a work query!

you won't end up homeless btw -if it all works out with PM he can come and live with you

and if all else fails I have 2 half finished, one with only half a floor! spare rooms :)

Worley that's so shocking, how did you find out?

Cripes Worley, thats awful. How did you find out?

Sponge: Wondering what the young buck wants indeed!

Snape: I hope you get the uncertainty around your job and home sorted. That is very stressful - eats away at you kind of stress.

Watch: So, all is moving on to date 2 with the pirate? cool! O god, my mum used to have a habit of opening my credit card bill, paying it, not saying anything then telling me off about it at a later date. It was so stressful. Not now though - Im online. She would come up with hundreds of ideas about my house...I think she expected me to implement them all.

Im in situ on the sofa. I do get slightly emotional from time to time about the trauma that is OD. I dont think I can do it again either. Its the utter bullshit you get fed.

worley - my goodness, how did you find that out?

Snape - have they got no workaround, seems like an impossible situation to be in. Sorry.

Sponge - life is too short and all that, all relationships dont have to be heading in the marriage, forever, type direction, its ok to ' just date' and for it never to be more than that..... when do you hear about the job?

scatty - yep, date two with pirate, quite excited :) bloody mothers though, god love them!

My mother is in here. Generally ok but quite glad I live about 150 miles away . Am now starting to build up nerves about the meeting of Parents and Boyfriend tomorrow....

Worley - that's awful. Can still feel quite shocking even if its someone you don't really know that well. You ok?

Snape - sorry, no advice, just (hugs)

Sponge - have to say, I would think 21 is just too young. 25 maybe but at 21 they're not even really proper grown ups yet. I mean, I don't think it's wrong in a morally bad, judegemental, lightening will strike kind of way and if you want to go for it, then go for it. But personally I don't think I could handle even a fling with someone that young unless they had fab 6-pack and a massive cock.

So just out of curiosity - if one were to actually decide to get a tattoo - how do you find a really good place to go? Can't ask anyone I know as I only know 1 person with a tattoo and that's only a single word.

I got one on the base of my spine so I can show it off if I want or not!! Also will be hidden in a nice dress or when I am 80 .. Can you tell I over think things??? ;-)

presume you mean place as in parlour not on the body Yoga:)
most of them have websites..check out the work, find someone who specialises in the kind of thing you want.

Obviously think long and hard cuz lazer removal hurts like a bitch :o

or offer up a prayer to the tattoo gods and wait for inspiration...thats what I do :o