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Sofas and Slankets V Irregular choice shoes and Snogging - Dating Thread 23

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watchoutforthatsnail · 28/09/2012 10:14

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MadameOvary · 02/10/2012 21:56

Sponge that is how I felt about last-but-one date, only I liked him. Bloody mixed messages. Grrrr.
2nd date fixed for Thurs. PFWB has gone quiet at last, thank goodness. Probably out trying to add to his "harem" Grin

Watch - what everyone else sez Wink

Kirsty that is pants but, teeth-gritting tho it is it's better you find out he's a nob sooner rather than later.

hatesponge · 02/10/2012 22:03

MadameO good news re 2nd date! My PFWB has gone all quiet as well (although in his case I do think it's all talk, if I was ever actually free on one of the many occasions he offers to come round and keep me company Hmm I suspect he would die of shock!)

I have to do a 15 min presentation tomorrow Confused. Bit nervous...

Lueji · 03/10/2012 08:39

Good luck sponge

Yogagirl17 · 03/10/2012 08:54

Good luck with your presentation sponge!

snapespeare · 03/10/2012 09:08

Knock em dead sponge, :)

Had terribly dream last night that PM got his mitts on the notebook before he was meant to get his mitts on the notebook and it wasn't a rapturous reception Sad still, Alan cumming was there as well, so that made it a little better.

Slept in, due to waking up at 3AM with head-whirly 3AM thoughts, mad dash to get kids to school, now cuddling the cat, drinking coffee and going in to work a bit later. Seeing the guy who made decision to withdraw my expenses today for a chat. Oh joy. Sad Hmm Angry

NicholasTeakozy · 03/10/2012 10:05

Wow. That is just lovely.

ChaoticismyLife · 03/10/2012 10:29

sponge good luck

snape that is beautiful :) Hope you get things sorted. Things going wrong always seem to happen all at once which makes them seem harder to deal with but what doesn't kill us makes us stronger, a cliche I know but a true one.

watch puppy seems to be using you as a convenient hotel Hmm Yes, he can be thoughtful at times, wrt to birthday presents, but it seems that the negatives outweigh the positives with him. You've got a week to gather all that inner strength and finish with him permanently this time. If it makes you feel any better you're actually doing him, as well as yourself, a favour in the long term :)

putthelimeinthecoconut · 03/10/2012 10:38

snape that's amazing! I know dreams like that can be pretty vivid but I can't imagine anyone being anything other that thrilled to receive a gift like that. You two sound so perfect for each other!

Someone has caught my eye on POF, have sent a couple of messages so watch this space...was a bit tainted by my ex being a bit emotional and messaging me on fb. what makes it worse is he bought me some beautiful flowers which I keep looking at and smiling then remembering they're from him Sad must stay strong!

Wondering how western's date went...

Lueji · 03/10/2012 10:50

Dreams only reflect our inner concerns.
Although, maybe, your brain picked up the signs that it's not going to happen. :(

Anyway, whatever the result I think you need to know asap. Moving on is better than the status quo, as you can only open yourself to someone else when you close this door.

Still, 10 fingers crossed for you.

MadameOvary · 03/10/2012 11:10

Thinking of you Sponge
Lueji I have found that to very true wrt dreams. They've often shown me how I really feel as opposed to how I'd like to feel. They cut through denial.
Snape You know PM better than I do of course but I would recommend a gruff approach for something so beautiful. An eye roll and "Oh well as I suppose now it's finished I'd better give you this"
You can then watch the swoonsome impact sink in slowly Grin

OhWesternWind · 03/10/2012 11:12

The date went well (I think).

Went back to his after a couple of drinks, ended up in bed but no shagging. Totally lost track of time, v late back for babysitter Blush. Very sexy man, think he will be up for all sorts when we get going, although maybe not quite up to Prof level! Feel a bit crap though as although I wanted to I just didn't feel ready, hope he understands. He was saying its not just about the sex, hope he meant it. I really like him. (Plus he has a huge package and a house to die for Grin). Just feeling a bit insecure, par for the course I guess with OD!!

Texting last night and this morning, bit worried as not got another date arranged but he was talking like we were going to be carrying on. Last text is hoping I had as good a time as he did last night. Does this sound good or bad?

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watchoutforthatsnail · 03/10/2012 11:15

good luck for the meeting snape - notebook is lovely, hear whirlies less so :(

Sponge- good luck too

Western - come on woman, we want an update!!! :)

chaotic - yeah, i know. Fuck knows how his brain works. I shall do it when he comes back from his course.

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MadameOvary · 03/10/2012 11:18

Lime it's so annoying when the ex is still in your headspace. They linger like farts in an elevator. Eventually you can waft them away.

My toxic ex messaged me at exactly midnight to say "Phone back on" Hmm he's been away with a broken phone and it's been joyous not hearing from him. If he wasn't DD's dad he'd have no presence in my life whatsoever.

Science Boy and I exchanged a few "How was your day" type texts last night, then he called me! Just out of the blue. I thought it was a misdial at first and hung up Grin then I texted and said "You just called me you know" and he said "I know! You didn't answer" so then he called again, He asked me again about Thursday. He's certainly keen. Smile

Also admitted that he didn't like text convos very much. This was fine by me, as it was a nice departure from toxic ex and his 60 texts a day.

Still in sceptical mode though.

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watchoutforthatsnail · 03/10/2012 11:19

western - sounds good! but you can never tell. Best is not to read anything into it at all, take it for face value. One or two dates does not equal a relationship, neither does 10. This is the finding out about each other stage, so, just enjoy it :)

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MadameOvary · 03/10/2012 11:21

Western - yeah that's good that he said that IMO Smile
Thing is, you HAVE to be true to yourself. If he can't accept your wishes, and respect them, then he aint right for you.

OhWesternWind · 03/10/2012 11:39

He was great about things last night, really understanding although a bit disappointed (can't blame him to be fair). He was saying stuff like, well there is no way I'm going to do it if you're not going to be enjoying it as much as me, all the right things I think. I am disappointed in myself tbh, it was all going so well and then I just couldn't Sad

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watchoutforthatsnail · 03/10/2012 11:41

That is VERY true. I over looked things that i thought were issues for me, as in the living at home and not driving thing.... and for a time it was ok, but you know what, they are issues for me. cant help it, they just are. ( paticulary as those two things combined seem to be indicitive of other issues) i should have just said no at the beginning. because he wasnt right for me then....

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KirstyWirsty · 03/10/2012 12:09

Glad to see it's not just me Watch I just ignored the warnings because I thought the sex would be good ...

I'm stil kicking myself a bit even though I know it is the right thing!!! :(

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watchoutforthatsnail · 03/10/2012 12:22

western, good, though the ' no way im going to do it' comment is a bit odd sounding??? it was your, what, third date? no need for him to be disapointed, its really early days. Dont feel bad at all, if you didnt want to, you didnt want to, and thats that.

kirsty - not so much warnings as just things that arent right for me. Im sure for many other people those things wouldnt matter, just for me they do.

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snapespeare · 03/10/2012 12:22

leuji 'Dreams only reflect our inner concerns.
Although, maybe, your brain picked up the signs that it's not going to happen.'

Auuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuugggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!

western that's good though, it's respectful. don't give yourself a hard-time, when it feels right it will feel right. :)

OhWesternWind · 03/10/2012 12:28

Hmm, the situation we were in, I could see why he would be disappointed as there had been nothing from me to suggest we wouldn't be doing it, quite the opposite iyswim. It was kind of at the last moment when I said no rather than whilst we were sitting in the living room with all our clothes on Blush. The comment didn't sound odd when he said it, perhaps I have written it a bit funny, he was saying that he didn't want to do it unless he knew that I would be enjoying it as much as him and that he didn't want to push me into doing anything I didn't want to.

putthelimeinthecoconut · 03/10/2012 12:28

Grin at linger like farts in an elevator madame so true. We were friends before though so I guess I was hoping we could go back to that. I think science boy sounds nice, I'm not a big fan of constant texting either! What's the plan for Thursday?

Glad it went well western. You can only do what you're comfortable with and if it doesn't work out at least you'll know you stayed true to yourself, much better than regretting it later! Sounds like he respected your desicion though which is a big plus.

MadameOvary · 03/10/2012 12:44

Aaaaaaarrrrrgh the babysitter has cancelled!
Am I EVER going to get a second date????
She can come tonight. Have texted him but he'll be at work so don't know if he'll get it till later.
Fuckshitbastardandallmannerofswearyfrustratedwords.

snapespeare · 03/10/2012 12:51

does nobody owe you a favour madameO? Sad