For VSM

[Evansmum]

Hope you are OK. Just sending you positive thoughts - you are an amazing woman and mother!

Awwww... that's so nice of you Evansmum - thank you so much, you have put a huge smile on my face!

I'm not sure about being amazing but I do feel positive. I'm about to put my PMA (positive mental attitude) to the test and phone h so we'll see..... he's supposed to be moving back tomorrow.

You know I wouldn't be feeling so positive without mumsnet and of course you lovely mumsnetters - I really wouldn't. I owe you all xxx.

Well, it went better than expected. He said the usual "no!" of course but later said that he has left a message for a single friend with a spare room. I kept on insisting that it wasn't an option but he kept on insisting he will have to come 'home' whatever on Sunday... I reminded him that I would not be here in that case and he said I'm over reacting etc.... again as usual.

So a possible call, well that's something isn't it?

Will keep my fingers crossed for you. Am going to be away from computers for a few days but will be back on line Monday so I'll be looking out for you then. Best wishes ... and be strong.

VSM - I think your new PMA is already working. Already you are sounding more determined. In fact you seem to be getting stronger with every minute - and you were already brave to begin with. Good luck. xxx

I just can't keep seeing the bad side. I used to be positive in the sense I only saw the good... but now I'm going to see both but be positive with it.

Still don't know about tomorrow night, but I've got his far..

Thank you.

Thinking of you vsm.

Don't worry about having to be 100% positive though - I don't think anyone could be in these circumstances - best of luck Sunday.

VSM - Good for you. Do you have a place to stay just in case h comes back? I would be tempted to get the locks changed but then I suppose that would only be a short-term solution. Will be thinking of you. xxx

SP - I don't think I'm quite capable of being 100% positive - yet!! Once he's moved out long term then maybe.. but thank you.

Roscoe - I am so tempted to change the locks but I don't think it's a realistic option. He would get so mad. Even if I wasn't here alone I would have to be at some point.. I wouldn't feel safe - at all.

I have nowhere to stay yet but I still live in hope - I have to. I am making progress with h although it is slow. The fact he has moved out for this week is a HUGE milestone - for me anyway. I was convinced at one point that he'd never go at all..

I have given myself a deadline though. If he has not left (or has a leaving date) by the time the schools go back and the solicitors reopen then I will get him legally removed.

I AM going to see a solitor anyway to get the ball rolling. I WILL DO THIS. I hope .

Hello VSM,
hope you're okayish, well done on PMA. Hope you don't mind but I'm going to email you. My lovely mum forwards me a positive thought most days and i thought you might like some of them.(((Hugs)))

That would be lovely Clarabelle - have you got any right now?

My h is moving back (unless a miracle happens) and my first option is impossible.

I will email you though as I can't reach that email atm.

I'll just have a look. poor you re dh.

Just sent it - don't know how long it takes...

STABILITY
Amidst the eartquakes of unexpectedsituations, the hurricanes of unreasonable behaviour, when fortune strikes against me I will remain unmoved, knowing that all will finally be well.
Have faith VSM i'm positive a solution will come.

There's a gorgeous angel one I want to send you so hope your email arrives soon. I think they only pass them on in working hours though.

Well at least I have a days notice!! I just feel so very bad asking..

I have sent them in the middle of the night before and they've got there so you never know.. (unless they were just working late!).

I like that one - very apt.

That's why I love Mumsnet so much!!!

You've just made me smile again ... Thanks Sobernow!

I will ask a couple of others but.. I am thinking that I may even book a last minute holiday somewhere UK based, I have nothing to keep me here atm so could in theory go anywhere... can anyone recommend somewhere cheap?

VSM have to go to bed.Shattered. Will catch up with you tomorrow, sleep well.

Actually that's a good suggestion Sobernow, as long as I come back New Years Eve (will be full then I'm sure anyway), there will be lots to keep my children amused!

Good night Clairabelle xx

Sadly not Centre Parcs... £600 for 3 nights!!!! WOW!

God i'd heard it was expensive but not that much. How about butlins ??? I know not everyone likes it but it's a bit cheaper and the kids love it, all undercover too !!!

£200 a night???!! Eeeeeeek!

My guess is it's because some people go for Christmas AND new yesr so it's fairly desired hence expensive. Don't know about Butlins... (please don't call me a snob - I'm not, well not much) has anyone here actually been?

Never been, but then my last holiday was our honeymoon.