Just a good update...
I've spoken to H...
he was being completely denial again and insisting that I was completely over reacting. I told him that I wasn't.
I told him that he had physically hurt me and there was absolutely no excuse for what he had done.
I reminded him that he hadn't only hurt me on quite a number of occassions but he was also taking out his short fuse of ds too.
I told him that I couldn't trust him enough to stay under the same roof together.
He started crying...
I continued (seizing the opportunity and feeling an empowered woman) and told him in no uncertain terms that if he insisted on coming back here and remaining here (not trying to find somewhere else) that I WOULD get him removed legally.
He continued to cry... insisting that he'll give up alcohol in the new year...
I told him that he had broken my trust already by seriously assulting me and then continuing to drink and hurting me again (to a lesser degree) and hurting ds...
I said I honestly didn't think I could trust him again and I refused to give him the opportunity to do so (fighting back my own tears so he couldn't hear).
He begged me to try again. I said definitely not, esp if he insists on trying to live with us whilst trying to work through HIS problems.
He said he would get help... I said good, but don't do it for me - do it for you.
He said he is still going to come back later and talk to me to try and sort this out and hung up..
He called back a couple of hours later to say that he has somewhere to stay for 2 weeks. A distant friend of mine that knows my sister, called round the flat after seeing someone was there.. to find H in tears (according to h anyway). She said that he could house sit for her since she is off on holiday herself in the morning. So he is moving in there later on.
I am hugely relieved. It is far from ideal (i.e. a friend of MINE) but good. I couldn't have hoped for a better, immediate solution.
Just one more week until the solicitors reopen...