Is size important?

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I expect I will take a slamming for this but here goes. I have been dating a new man for a while and last night things got a bit heavier than normal and I discovered that he's penis is really small. I mean less than 3 inches and not very thick. I've dated someone before who was small and it played a major part in our breaking up because when we had sex I never felt it.

Is this something that can ne gotten over?

'Lets hope some of the posters on here don't have sons with small penis's and watch their bubbly confident young boy gradually realise he is never going to be a 'real man' after finding threads such as this on the internet.'

Quite. I've seen threads in behaviour/development about mums worried that their DS has a small penis, with good reason by the looks of it.

I hate these threads. If you really want to discuss how you can only get off on a large cock, why don't you discuss it in RL, so that mums with less than endowed sons don't fret over their poor kids even more.

ADRASTEA - I just felt that i could not let it pass when some posters on here put that even writing about experiences with pervious small penis men 'made her nearly puke'
These threads come up on google searches not just mumsnet and will be looked at my lots of teenage boys insecure about themselves. I have a pritty good idea my son may fall in that catagory in a few years. I feel it is not on to talk about people as if they are some sub-sect of humanity because they have 50 grams less flesh in one part of their body than others.
I understand the mechanics of sex and the personal choice ect but putting down it make you want to puke just remembering the experience is out of order and should not be let too pass without comment.

'I hate these threads. If you really want to discuss how you can only get off on a large cock, why don't you discuss it in RL, so that mums with less than endowed sons don't fret over their poor kids even more.'

Hide the thread then.

Lots of poster on here aren't even discussing large cocks, but much smaller than average ones and how they do not feel satisfied sexually.

Can you hide this thread from google? Hows that done then?

'Lots of poster on here aren't even discussing large cocks, but much smaller than average ones and how they do not feel satisfied sexually.'

Same difference.

And to say I have been talking about huge or large cocks, please I have shared over and over again that it is NOT about smaller than average penises!!!!

And you have not understood what I meant 'by real man' as you clearly have not been able to read this thread with calm, then please stop coming on here and attacking me in this way.

And, I have said before and I maintain this, that I would and I certainly do have understanding for men who would have an issue and unsatisfactory experiences with a woman's vagina.
What I said and how I view this issue is something I find true for both sexes. So don't come on here and blame me for what would women say on another thread blablabla.
I have already commented on that.

I would love to see the response on here if a bloke posted a thread with the title " ive just met someone who is really nice but a bit loose down below and her tits are a bit droopy- is it be a deal breaker?

maleview the way you are choosing your words are clearly different in tone to how the OP has asked in her title and also her content shows that she has an issue with this herself and at a loss?!

Please read the thread and many posters have given great insight. Don't make this what this thread has not been about.
Clearly before you, and 2-3 others have posted the thread is heading into a different direction...I've said enough, as I am not wiling to be attacked and accused of something I have not said or meant.

'Can you hide this thread from google? Hows that done then?'

Why should anyone have to hide anything? She's not satisfied with someone sexually, it's not a crime.

And maleview, I'd say the same thing to a man if he posted. If the person doesn't satisfy him sexually, then he needs to move on and find someone who does.

'I'd say the same thing to a man if he posted.'

I find that extraordinarily unlikely TBH.

Have not plenty of people expressed sadness about this situation should it occur, that one is unhappy and not satisfied and sexually fulfilled?!
Including myself and others have said, it is a sad affair and not easy to handle. No-one here brought the thread down to low level and accusations and flaming before.

'I find that extraordinarily unlikely TBH.'

I have in the past already. If sex is a big deal to you in a relationship, and you don't feel satisifed, and it's early days as this is, best to cut your losses and move on.

We all have personal issues in our lives regarding our physicality, that doesn't mean others should discuss physicality.

Sigmund that's your problem then. Your accusations and your experiences.

A suggested thread title and possibly with not much content like maleview suggested " ive just met someone who is really nice but a bit loose down below and her tits are a bit droopy- is it be a deal breaker? well it wouldn't wonder me if there would be an entire MN brigade on his case and not in his favour.

However if a man would come out here and seriously would try to express his worries and unhappiness in a respectful way and would be able to explain where the issues lie and discuss like many have on this thread, well I would say the exact same things. And many others would too. And if you don't believe it, it's your personal issue.

Look, it's googleable OK? If you had a small penis would you be thrilled to stumble across this thread? If you were 14? If you were looking for some kind of reassurance that people would not be put off by your size?

Discuss it in RL if you have to, can't you see why it's bad form? That is all.

Sigmund

Sorry Sigmund, but I'm not sure how you can make that judgement. If your son is sexually mature ie has finished puberty, you would have to have seen him with an erection to be able to make that assessment. I've seen men whose penises are small when flaccid but average-sized when erect.

I'm wondering how on earth any mother knows how big her son's adult erect penis is/will be, unless he's discussed it with her, which seems extremely unlikely.

'Discuss it in RL if you have to, can't you see why it's bad form? That is all.'

No, I don't see why it's bad form. The OP was in no way scathing about it. He doesn't satisfy her sexually due to his size. Why on Earth advise someone to stay in a relationship like this so early on? It doesn't do either of them any favours.

It's a huge internet forum. There's plenty of info people can stumble on on the net.

Btw, I'm not being insulting or implying any wrongdoing on your part at all, so please don't take offence.

Just to let anyone know - this thread cannot now be hidden from Google unless the OP asks for it to be deleted in its entirety.

Even if it were moved to a non-googleable section now, it would still appear on Google because it's already been "tagged" or whatever the correct word is.

Perhaps, although I know that people are getting a bit pissed off with extra sections of MN being introduced, we should ask for another "hidden" topic for topics like this - Embarrassing Bodies stylee?