Huffy, illiterate men, scared of peas, it's a weird, weird dating world (No22)

[ChaoticismyLife]

Oh, watch...you mentioned flowers

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sponge - thats quite funny. i get the same thing. when we have a discussion about what I do, (I specialise in Obs and gynae) they generally come up with something Pervy or laugh at me going to uni... so then I gave up on any profiles that didn't have at least degree within their education level. and it did make a difference to type of conversation you could have.. they were still horny but took longer to get to that stage and I never got any cock shots from them :( lol
I also find that quite a few not keen on me earning more than them. I think a lot of them assume as I'm a single mum I'm a lower earner

Worley doncha know all single mums are low earners? And don't forget "feckless".

My snobby profile is something like "There don't seem to any tall, educated, intelligent people on this site. There must be one who doesn't use text-speak and can string a sentence together, no? Don't bother contacting me if you're right wing, as you will bore me to tears"

Snotty to the max

Worley I think if I limited myself only to people with degrees I would never get another date! In 4 years I've only been on a date with one man who has a degree (he was the nasty one who called me a player).

The earnings thing I haven't had such a problem with, probably because I am at the lower end in terms of legal salaries. I earned about the same as the Evil Ex, who was an electrician and thought it hilarious that despite having been to uni I couldnt outearn him, the twat.

I think if ever I return to OD, I might try an experiment, normal POF profile and then upscaled one on a 'better' site, to compare and contrast the results!

At the moment though I'm quite happy not going back to it. A man did catch my eye in the supermarket earlier, however as he a) looked like a builder and b) was shopping with his dad, I thought better of it

Madame - so, does the snotty profile work?? I am getting a fair few professional men already - think my job puts a lot of other people off especially as I work in such a blokey field (construction). And I'm a single mum too, and I like literature and classical music and social history, so I'm probably not your average PoF bloke's dream date.

Nice optician is leaving PoF (sensible bloke, I like him more and more) and has sent me his mobile number. Would it be too keen to text tonight?

Nice but shy mechanical engineer is going to message me tonight to "get to know me better ". Better hadn't be an excuse for cockpix - btw I've never had any of these either!

Date from last night keeps texting - have replied but briefly. That will teach me to go out with blokes I know are unsuitable!!

Western - depends how you define success - I think a bit of haughtiness definitely limits the cock-pixers and the mini-potatoes, but after that I'm not sure what is left! Also I dont show my pic on MA, so I probably appear very ogre-like. Suits me though.
On GS I'm much more "me" because of the higher IQ of the clientele and the fact they are more my type, and I show my photo.
Now emailing geeky chemist - he has given me his number but I dont text if I feel I can write verbose emails instead but if there was filth involved that would be different

Hey everyone, how's it going?

I'm just wondering if any of you have any advice for me! I am wondering what would you do if you saw a huh and thought 'he's hot' would you talk to him? I often see guys I like the look of and was talking with a friend about this recently and she said the same, but we both don't know what to do about it .

I feel like waiting for the right guy to run upto me could take a long time, but I wouldn't know what to say or do! Just wondering if anyone has any ideas on that.

Also where is a good place for meeting guys? I remember a whole back on this thread someone suggested that nice men play tennis and we should all hang out near the tennis cage

Just because I hate the online thing but would like to meet a nice guy for hit sex good company

moving you should totally stick a big smile on your face and say hi. I, of course hardly ever do this unless there are incredible quantities of rum involved, but yes. Absolutely. What's the worst thing that could happen?

Oh, I'm in lust. Beard has sent me a pic of him as a pirate ( off the back off rum talks) complete with wooden leg made from a mahogany table, his students made in dt for him.
Not only is he super hot, but a good sport.

Sponge, glad you had a good.night.

Snape, what is pm doing???!!!!! You must find out.

And while I should lie, I'm not going to,and did see shag mr l earlier.

watch!

No good shall 'cum' of this....

Ha ha Watch so now we know that wooden legs get you going!

Haha. Fab pun.

I know, I know.

Meanwhile he's jumping through hoops..
Sorting his own transport, paying for stuff, offering to do my hoovering and washing, and dog walking.... And trailing after me like a puppy.

I am awful. Worst still is I don't even feel bad.

I don't quite know why, It's terrible of me.

I am partial to wood....
Hahaha.

Pirates do it for me, in a capt jack kind of way. Beard has long dark hair and a beard.... It works....

:)

snapespeare groan....

Ladies, I did a momentous thing earlier! Upon arranging date no. 4 with Mr Well- I -wasn't-sure-but-perhaps-am-rapidly-becoming-so I went upstairs, fossicked out the pack of condoms that has lain gathering dust in the back of the drawer for three and a half years....and checked the expiry date.

Hurrah stubborn!!!!! Go forwth and fornicate :)

Time what was the IE experiment?

I have to say I've had pretty good luck with Guardian Soulmates. The two men I've met in the last 6 months who I actually wanted to shag see more than once were both from GS. One was an environmental engineer, nice guy, neither of us was up for anything serious and we had a bit of a fun FWB thing for a while. The other was Mr60. And now Frenchman also from GS.

Subscription isn't cheap but I've discovered there are ways around that. It's free to set up a profile and browse. You can also "like" men you're interested in. The only thing you can't do is send messages. However, if they're subscribed - and they have half a brain - they can usually sneak an email address past the GS Big Brother! Might be worth a try.

IE=Intimate Encounter which is one of the options on POF.

I"m thinking the supermarket could be a good way to meet men if the Frenchman smells like cheese doesn't work out. I asked a lovely looking very tall man for help today (gotta be some advantages to being short!). Ok, so he was married, but it was a Sunday afternoon. I figure single men shop after work - weekday evenings..? Maybe I should hang out near the tennis racquets!

Sorry that doesn't help much does it. I'm tired and going to bed soon.

Some of the others set their profiles to IE to see if it would make a difference to replies iirc.

snapeyou have to find out what PM is up to.

watch teacher is sounding better all the time. Agree with snape about Mrxl

yoga good luck with the date with frenchman.

Ok so starting with a hi is a safe start I guess but what if they just say hi back then carry inion walking??

Well fwb keeps messaging me all the time now, and honesty I am very much about to cave in! Even though I feel like he doesn't deserve to sleep with me!

But there is no one else on my radar right now! And I am finding that fact very boring indeed!

I am also wondering if anyone is really happy in their relationships! Or if they are just settling for what they have got so to be so deep but just wondering really!

Moving wrt to your earlier post about talking to hot men, it would depend on the circumstances. If I was in the supermarket then I probably wouldn't but if I was in a pub and had had a couple of drinks then I possibly would. Not very helpful I know but really it would depend on how confident I was feeling at the time.

Gs has noone in a 50 Mile raduis to me. I looked yestetday :(

The ie experiment was when we changed our profiles to looking for intimate encounter.

We made it clear in our profiles we were not looking for casual sex, nor a string of one night stands... But rather a fwb type thing.

It wss interesting, 100's of responses a day. 100's. More interestingly, was that most of the messages came from men whose Profiles were saying they were looking for a relationship, were serious about it, etc, etc.

And more interesting, again. Was that none of us did manage to find a fwb. Quite unbelievable....

watch yes, I had just that experience with GS this time- after having paid £50 for a 3 months' subscription. . I think it's better in urban areas, and definitely not in the poorest county in Britain, where no-one wants to part with the money for a subscription!

But thinking of sponge- have you only been on PoF all this time? But is that not known as a site for timewasters and cock shots? I reckon, being close to London, and being a professional, you should give GS a whirl, no? (should you ever, ever wish to try online dating again ).

You're right watch that is a problem with GS - many fewer men to choose from. Both the FWB and Mr60 lived 60 miles away and have now realised that doesn't work for me. Still, have personally found it preferable to cock pics and potatoes

watch glad one of us can make sense

Even my thoughts right now aren't making sense so I'm going to bed. Night.

Def agree I think sponge should try GS!