Huffy, illiterate men, scared of peas, it's a weird, weird dating world (No22)

[ChaoticismyLife]

Oh, watch...you mentioned flowers

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Watch - good call on YKW. Start the weekend with a clean slate man-wise . . .

My nice optician is working his way up to suggesting a date. I think he is a bit shy so I am being gently encouraging so as not to scare him off yet. He seems like a Nice Man but I have been wrong about this before! I've also got a mechanical engineer (always nicer than electrical engineers for some reason, and I've known quite a few) who is a bit angst-ridden about the whole OD thing, so I'm not sure about this one. No-one as phwooar as SexVet but maybe they will behave a bit better . . .

Agree that YWK is very essence of fuckmuppet and player

Stru I felt the same re coup de foudre, now I dont know and it messes with my inner control freak.

Yoga He's not listening is he? He's very definitely bad news. Lots of abusive relationships start this way. You are literally overwhelmed with attention and you're supposed to think it's daft/soppy but ultimately appealing. However the refusal to listen to you and insistence on trampling all over your boundaries (and his poor neighbours FFS) is a massive red flag.

Sorry, eejits like this give me the creeps. Either they are abusive or they back off at the slightest sign of reciprocation. Uuuuurgh.

Snape - PM looooooves you. It's so obvious.

Sponge - am I detecting a brighter note in your postings?

Western - any sign of anxiety would put me off. Its an indication of too much oversharing too soon, and neediness, IMHO.

I know, I find it a bit off putting too. I really want someone who's reasonably sorted with their own life as I am 100% certain that I don't want to take on someone with obvious ishoos on day one. If something crops up when you're in a relationship, that's something else and then it's appropriate to be supportive and helpful, but I don't want to get into propping someone up from the start of the relationship. God, I sound like a hard-faced cow when I'm not at all, but I have been doing a lot of thinking about what I do and don't want out of a relationship. I am not going to settle for almost-right this time. I want the real thing.

MadameO a bit better I think. No crying today so far.

Just got an email from friend 'You are worth much more than this you are a lovely person and you have lots to give and if he cant see that then he's blind. Keep at it and you will find someone who's right for you eventually'

Which as she has never been dumped after a first date is easy for her to say...

Lovesponge sending you the warmest hug imaginable and a big sloppy kiss on the cheek. The email from your friend is absolutely true forget about whether she has been binned off after a first date or not. :)

I second her email. It is true.

Sponge sweetheart, you are just torturing yourself keep thinking about this no-count scaffolder. Get him out of your mind, don't waste another minute of your life on him. If you practice replacing negative thoughts with good ones - good in whatever way works for you - it gets easier and easier to do and can really help break the cycle if negative thinking.

Just remember, you are fabulous in so many ways and you don't need anyone else to validate that.

Well I had my first ever date this morning and I am pleasantly surprised! His photos don't do him justice, he is better looking than I expected (which is a bonus) and very easy to talk to. We had a lovely chat, and a nice kiss and a cuddle . I'm not sure if i'd want a proper relationship with him but definately has fwb potential. It was just good to have a bit of grown up coversation and some affection good snog
Snape Your evening with PM sounds so wonderful, he is so into you. I actually can't wait to hear how it goes for you at the cinema!!

Hi Guys, I was advised to come on this thread and let you know about my date last night.

A friend of a friend of a friend set us up on this date....met him in a pub and within the first half an hour he'd informed me that if i did not wear stockings and suspenders in the bedroom then there was just no point !! I duly said "nice to meet you, thanks for the drink" and left!!!

They guy had no intention of getting to know me for me.....and this was my fisrt date in while and I certainly won't be rushing into the next one!!!

tess glad it went well and youre already taking positives from it, but not too starry-eyed.

3Kids hello! what a fuckmuppet, good for you for turning neatly on your heel and buggering off. :)

3kids sounds like the sort of man I end up on dates with

Text on my phone earlier...from PFWB asking how I am. Not of course that he wants the actual answer to that question!

Hi everyone. Just checking in, making sure you don't forget me needy

Still firmly on the sofa, preparing for winter and hibernation, getting cosy and all that. MrCandle text again, he wants to marry me and take care of me Idiot! I've not bothered replying, he's not worth the free text.

Sponge I'm sorry you are feeling so fed up. I hope something nice and exciting happens for you soon. Did you put in a cosmic order? Maybe you should try it, cos you never know

Snape every time I read one of your posts involving PM my heart goes 'ahhhhhhh'. Tis so lovely. I want a PM. I don't care about the 'relationship' part, I would just be happy to have something as wonderful as you have with PM. Its' special.

Great new about Matilda Watch. I will admit though, I very jealous that you will be getting together with Snape!

Hi to everyone else

Yep, pm Will have nothing on the watch/snape love affair.

Watch I am jealous that you're getting to see Matilda!

Oi! Snape luffed me first you know!

Tess: sounds like a nice date. Will you wait now, or conact him. How will you go about asking him to be a FWB?

Watch. Apparently Matilda is brilliant.

Snape: Love the love story that is PM. I feel i know him although I havent a clue of course.

Sponge: hopefully you are feeling chipper

Me: Nothing much. Man with no clothes on apart from VERY slow slung jeans which was showing most of his upper pubic region has messaged me. Nice body and I noticed the back to front baseball cap but decided not to mention it. Anyway I was expecting the worse...hi hun, cock pic...but instead i got an apology in advance for mispelled words for he is using predicted text and I was asked about my hobbies. He then told me all about his hobbies and it was most sensible. Wonders never cease...

Also found out that my friends new temp flatmate is a man I had 2 dates with last year. On the dates he was nice, quiet and polite. It dried up post date and I wasnt bothered. She however describes him as anti-social, anal, odd with strange habits. It just goes to show...it takes all sorts.

Ladies, Ladies, Ladies....

..there is plenty of me to go round.

scatty oh! very low slung jeans! oh! oh! but what are his hobbies?

Well typical. Haven't had any action on GS for ages (not since first contacted by Mr60 back in June). My subscription ran out last week and I've suddenly got two new messages. One's a bit of a potato but the other looks like he could have some possibilities. Unfortunately I can't reply - all I can do is send "I will get back to you when I have subscribed". Oh well.

Oh hang on - there was chicken man as well. How could I forget about him!

Bugger! GS Man No2 (the non-potato) has tried to send me his email address but as GS doesn't allow it he's tried disguising it & I can't work it out.

Ok who wants to help me solve a puzzle? Let me know and I"ll PM you

Me!

I'll try if you'd like :)

Thank you watch