Does every parent really think their kid is the most beautiful?

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This was a conversation bought up in the staff room regarding parents and their kids. What's the mumsnet opinion?

DS is beautiful. There's rarely an outing goes by when someone doesn't call him beautiful or gorgeous.

I'm not sure he's the most beautiful baby ever, but I haven't met a more beautiful boy yet. Although I know someone whose DD was utterly gorgeous at about 18 months. She's not quite so pretty now but still a wee stunner.

My mum thinks my 2 year old sister is gorgeous and that she looked like me when I was a toddler.

I think she looks like a elf

Are you meant to think younger siblings are good looking too?

ds1 was a handsome baby and is a proper stunner now, i dont think hes the most gourgouse/handsome 6 year old out there but he will a looker when hes older.

ds2 to was a ugly baby but hit 6 months he grew in to his looks, hes turned into a verry cheeky chappy.at 3 , hes cute and and handsome to, just not in the comercial/heart throbe kind look way.

i am proud that theve turned out to be lookers.. purely for the fact me n their farther are rarther funny looking..(him more then me

I look back at some photos of my first born which someone, not unfairly likened to Phil Mitchell, in hind sight I can see the resemblance but at the time, I thought he was the most beautiful baby and pitied all the other Mummies with less beautiful babies. My youngest is going through a Boris Johnson look a like phase according to my sister, it takes all my self control not to point out that her treasures are no oil paintings but actually mine are!! And I do find myself looking at my beautiful children thinking, do all parents look at their kids and compare them to the all the other less beautiful specimens around. I think we all have our parent googles on which probably have special defracting lenses but my kids really are beautiful!!

aw, lackingNamechange inspiration, that is lovely. In some ways. my mum would have laughed at the suggestion that i was beautiful. she would have said something practical and sensible to me, that whilsst true would have been so depressing.

All 3 make me want to cry they're so lovely, but I know that's just to me.

DS2 was cherubic as a toddler-platinum blonde curls and big brown eyes. He got lost at the park and I can remember hysterically shouting at dh that he's been stolen because he was so pretty -he was actually just hiding under a climbing frame.

I'm constantly blown away by my DCs' stunning beauty, I think they are just so beautiful - yet this manages to co-exist with actually knowing that DS is a bit odd-looking and DD is a scowly-faced grump a lot of the time. So I know other people wouldn't award them the most beautiful child prize - but i still think they are. They have had compliments too though.

DS (4yo) is objectively beautiful - striking white blonde hair, big eyes with amazingly long eyelashes and just a lovely face and expression. People comment on his beauty all the time (I think every day somebody comments on him). In comparison, DD (2yo) can look breathtakingly beautiful but has more 'ordinary' days. But to me they are both beautiful, because I see the changes in their faces, the features that remind me of family members, their expressions etc and that is enthralling. I am more proud of the fact that DS is a sensitive, caring, sweet, intelligent, non-aggressive child. When people compliment him on his qualities (which he and we have some impact on), I am prouder than when they comment on his looks (which no child or parent has any control over)

DS1 was the ugliest little thing when he was born (I think I have pictures on my profile), massive black eyes, loads of black hair, no eyelashes or eyebrows and generally looked like a very pissed off garden gnome a lot of the time. Up until he was 8 weeks he had cradle cap and baby acne and all I could think was "man alive this kid is ugly... but I loves him" - as soon as he hit the 2 month mark and started smiling, boy did he come into his own.

Aside from the fact that he just does not stop smiling or giggling or clowing around trying to make people laugh, he's developed the most disgustingly gorgeous long eyelashes and is the biggest lady charmer in the world with a little curly frohawk. He looks like the lighter skinned version of that wee baby on the JoJo Maman Bebe website that used to be on here. Loves strangers, smiles at random people, loves kisses. Typical boy.

His dad is pretty damn good looking though, all ruggedness, straight nosed and long eyelashed so I'm hoping he takes after him only with my charm (ahem).

But whilst he is quite simply the most spectacular thing in the world to me, I can quite understand why he isn't the "most beautiful" - it is his little personality and mischief and mannerisms that make him spectacular. If he was a sullen, unsmiling disinterested baby, I doubt he'd be as gorgeous!

All children should be the most gorgeous to their parents, maybe not in looks but the very essence of their personality that makes them who they are.

actually Paralympia it wasn't pleasant at all, the guy was a smelly creep, the photos were AWFUL! Unfortunately my mum kept the whole thing from my dad until she thought I had been "chosen" (when obviously he says that everyone is "in" to take the £££ "registration fee")

and TBH I'ld rather be complimented in ways that are true, a compliment that you know is totally un-true is almost an insult... like she didn't want to see me for the good and bad that I was IYKWIM

Blonde hair doesn't make your child beautiful. It just means they have blonde hair. It's the proportion and the symmatery of the features that makes a child/person beautiful. If you're mentioning hair colour you're being subjective, imo

lacking, ah yeh, i hear you wrt the creep. I meant, was it good for your confidence that your MUM was so convinced you are beautiful?

DD is gorgeous and I am paranoid that I appear smug. I'm sure she will grow up to be pretty but not model like.

When my DS was born I genuinely did think he was the most beautiful baby...now I look back at photos of his funny conehead (forceps delivery) and think, super cute but not objectively the prettiest newborn! I think your maternal instincts make you see everything good in your child. How nice that those of us lucky to have a mum have someone who will always see us that way.

no it wasn't good for my confidence at all because the things she said were so bonkers that I was like "do you have nothing nice to say about the way I REALLY am?"

she didn't see me at all it was like she saw some fictional daughter instead! Really she was bonkers about how I looked, and I thought I looked nice enough, but in a quirky way, like I said my face is very asymetrical - VERY! could she not just have said that I looked nice?

in a nutshell, she didn't think how I ACTUALLY looked was nice/good enough... she thought I looked completely different to how I did actually look! she would compaire me to celebs that noone else would find a resembelence in IYWKIM

wow. sounds like you had much more self-awareness than your mother had. I think there's a point where you begin to see yourself really objectively, about 10 or 11, and I guess if my mum had been telling me beyond that age that I was beautiful, I would have been . well, i say 10 or 11, that was in 'my day'. now it 's probably younger.

if this thread is anything to go by, everybody thinks that their child is at the very least attractive. nobody here has an unattractive child!? really! NOBODY?

pudgy I had a nosey and nearly had an attack. I thought the man in the pictures was my bio dad! Looks so like him realised it wasn't him though!

oh re the comparisons, yeah, i remember my mum comparing me to a cousin who looks like Reese witherspoon. My cousin was quite clearly thinking 'eh hello, i dno't thiiiiiiink so' and so was her mother. And so was everybody. I just wanted the ground to open up. SO, I can imagine the weirdness of having comments like that on a regular basis for years! morto

My dd was absolutely stunning as a baby and small child. People stopped us in the street and pound coins were pressed in her little fists for good luck - yes, really. The photos we have of her are gorgeous. However, she has grown into fairly ordinary looking teenager. Her cousin, on the other hand was an ugly little scrap of a baby but she has grown into a real beauty.

DS (pic on profile) is quite pretty, but he has a really square head.

Sometimes he looks gorgeous other times he looks like a rejected cabbage patch kid, interested to see what he looks like in a few years, DH was an ugly child & I looked like a boy.

"if this thread is anything to go by, everybody thinks that their child is at the very least attractive. nobody here has an unattractive child!? really! NOBODY?"

but there aren't really any physically unattractive children IMO, even the "funny looking" ones are cute
there are kids with unnattractive traits IMO (whingey, stroppy, generally miserable) and that shows in their expressions making them less pleasant to look at than the smiley engaging children..
but I think children are generally attractive things to look at even if they're not picture perfect

DS has unattractive days, if he's whingey and covered in snot. but I think he's beautiful MOST of the time!

I don't think it, I KNOW it!

No seriously I think my son is absolutely gorgeous & he has got quite a fan club, but I don't expect anyone other than his father to feel the same. I'm pretty meh about other children to be honest so accept others will be that way about mind.

Hair colour is no less a part of beauty than eyes, nose, proportional features etc - blonde, brown, black, red can all be beautiful. My DS is beautiful partly because of his particularly white thick blonde hair - very unusual and striking and attractive to many people. But equally I know some children with gorgeous glossy brown hair or red hair or black hair. And plenty with hair that you wouldn't really notice or comment on. To say all children with blonde hair are automatically beautiful would be daft, but hair colour absolutely can contribute to a person's beauty.