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Does every parent really think their kid is the most beautiful?

282 replies

OhEmGee24 · 04/09/2012 16:45

This was a conversation bought up in the staff room regarding parents and their kids. What's the mumsnet opinion?

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EdMcDunnough · 04/09/2012 17:47

No, not at all - I had odd looking babies and occasionally they looked nice in photographs which encouraged me.

Other people sometimes comment that dc2 is gorgeous - well, he still looks funny to me.

Ds however is remarkably beautiful, now, at 9 - I don't know where it came from, but he has a very lovely face especially his profile.

I was pretty for a few years I think, on and off, during my life - both me and my sister are interesting looking now, it's not a problem, we're just who we are and individual.

I was desperate to be a model when I was about 15. It never happened and I'm glad!

jaffacakehips · 04/09/2012 17:48

I think my DD is utterly gorgeous and everyday pat myself in the back from making such a beautiful child however I worry that she's going to develop her fathers nose. Hmm

I especially like her when she's asleep GrinGrin

A few of my friends DC are just beautiful.

TyrionTheImp · 04/09/2012 17:51

No I don't think my dc are beautiful. Never have really. As babies they were potatoes with limbs. DD is fairly pretty in a long blonde hair, blue eyes, clear skin, endless limbs kind of way and ds is seriously cute atm (12mo and cheeky, spirited, entertaining etc) but I don't think of them as the most beautiful dc I know. They are fascinating and engaging and wonderful of course but aesthetically they are just who they are.

EdMcDunnough · 04/09/2012 17:51

What I meant to say was that I often see, and have seen, children and babies who are far better looking than my own, and it doesn't matter. That's just how they are - I'd rather have mine any day iyswim. I think I'm fairly objective about it but there is always that small element of recognition with your own kids, they might have the 'type' of face that you recognise as nice simply because it's familiar and a bit like yours, or your husband's, or your family's.
So that helps I think.

angeltattoo · 04/09/2012 17:52

Also, when my brother was born, mm kept him inside for 6 weeks, as he was too ugly funny lookingto take out Grin

He grew up to be very handsome, though!

pregnantpause · 04/09/2012 17:53

I adore my dc, I feel love for them that far exceeds any other emotion or love icmve ever felt. But whilst one is a pretty little thing, the other is rather plain. Not at all ugly, but she will never be valued for her beauty iykwim . Her facial expressions are also a bit wonky.
I feel like a bad mum that I don't think my girls are the most beautiful, not even to me. But they are the most wonderful children, I jsut don't place any importance on looks, so I have never needed to feel like my dc are more beautiful than they are. I wouldnt change them for the world

SPsFanjoSponsoredByOrange · 04/09/2012 17:53

My son is average looking but I am gorgeous and get fed up of people coming up to me to say how gorgeous I am!

pregnantpause · 04/09/2012 17:53

I adore my dc, I feel love for them that far exceeds any other emotion or love icmve ever felt. But whilst one is a pretty little thing, the other is rather plain. Not at all ugly, but she will never be valued for her beauty iykwim . Her facial expressions are also a bit wonky.
I feel like a bad mum that I don't think my girls are the most beautiful, not even to me. But they are the most wonderful children, I jsut don't place any importance on looks, so I have never needed to feel like my dc are more beautiful than they are. I wouldnt change them for the world

EdMcDunnough · 04/09/2012 17:53

That's quite funny Smile

My mother thought ds1 was the most beautiful baby ever - he wasn't, no way. She says now when she looks back at the pictures, she wonders what she was thinking!!

EdMcDunnough · 04/09/2012 17:54

Sorry, x posts to Angel!

gymboywalton · 04/09/2012 17:55

my children are stunning, quite stunning and everyone i have asked agrees with meWink

WinkyWinkola · 04/09/2012 17:56

I don't. I really hope they are reasonably intelligent and with common sense. That's all. And that they make the best of their looks. I couldn't bear a vain kid so I tend not to talk about how they look.

Their looks aren't of real interest to me as long as they are clean and brushed when they leave the house for school every morning.

EdMcDunnough · 04/09/2012 17:56

PP, your post made me remember my friend saying that she secretly thought one of her children wasn't very pretty. It is really sad to think about, now, as she died when they were only toddlers really and having seen more recent photos of them both, the one she thought less pretty is now absolutely stunning.

I hope she can see them from wherever she is...not that it mattered to her, she loved them both the same, but she would have been very proud to see how gorgeous that funny looking baby turned out to be.

Oakmaiden · 04/09/2012 17:58

Just remember though - there is a parent in YOUR child's class who secretly thinks her child is the most gorgeous in the class - and is right... Wink

Tinkerisdead · 04/09/2012 18:02

I cant tell if my kids are attractive. I know dd1 i used to think was funny looking as a baby but now she's probably pretty in a stereotypical blonde hair/blue eyed angel kinda way. I love her implicitly of course but i'm not struck by her beauty.

Dd2 I think is a pretty baby and lots of people tell me she's pretty but she has a birthmark on her forehead and so i often wonder whether people remark how pretty she is as a deflection from the birthmark iyswim.

But they are gorgeous to me and certainly dont resemble gollum so i think they're doing ok.

needsomeperspective · 04/09/2012 18:05

No, mine really are utterly gorgeous. Seriously.

SizzleSazz · 04/09/2012 18:05

When i was in the maternity ward, one father said 'why are all the other babies so cute and ours looks like Winston Churchill?' Grin

EdMcDunnough · 04/09/2012 18:05

Oakmaiden, ds has a girl in his class who did actually come first in a bonny baby competition. It was totally justified - they were our neighbours and our first children were born a few days apart, and it was totally justified - she was an absolutely amazingly beautiful baby!

I have to admit it made me feel sad at the time - it was one of those voting things and we had no chance anyway, even if ds had been beautiful which he was not...and they had a massive extended family, but she should have won anyway. Very nice people too. And not at all vain about it.

mummyonvalium · 04/09/2012 18:08

Someone asked me if they could use DS1's picture for advertising and DS2 was told he would make an excellent model.

I am always being told by their nursery teachers that they are both extremely bright.

So yes, I believe my children are beautiful and bright. On the downside, they can be really stroppy and make so much mischief.

marshmallowpies · 04/09/2012 18:10

My baby is a very fair, chubby cheeked and blue eyed baby so gets cooed over by strangers which of course I love - but I was also fair & blue eyed & pretty and grew up to be quite decidedly homely, so I'm quite prepared for the fact DD may not always be the angelic child she is now!

GWenlockMaryLacey · 04/09/2012 18:10

DD2 is. She is the roundest, fairest, most blue eyed smiley chubster of a baby and everyone stops me in the street to tell me. They have such good taste. Alas it takes ages to go round Tesco.

And I'm serious! As the most antisocial miserable specimen on the planet, it's a pain in the arse having to make polite conversation with people :o

GWenlockMaryLacey · 04/09/2012 18:11

Oh dear. I smell a cute-off with Marshmallowpies :o

Paralympia · 04/09/2012 18:15

I am objective I think. I think my daughter will be very attractive but I don't think she is beautiful. My son has more regular features and photographs better, he is more conventionally handsome and strangers have remarked on it,,, but DD is the one with the charisma and the charm and the confidence. So I reckon she'll have more eyes on her. But we'll see!

Paralympia · 04/09/2012 18:17

blonde blue eyed children all look the same to me!!

Startailoforangeandgold · 04/09/2012 18:17

No my two are pretty enough, but it's DD2's partner in crime who is absolutely stunning.