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not really an aibu more wwyd/wwythink? -d-h and dm

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tinky19 · 01/09/2012 01:41

Stopping with parents. I went to bed h stays up with m. Just went down to find m draped over h. Both jump. M pulls dress down (it was up round her thighs). Wtf?
H says nothing happened?!

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MamaMumra · 01/09/2012 01:54

Ok - that's really odd.
How old is your mum and is it conceivable something dodgy was going on?
Wtf indeed.
Maybe move this to relationships, but you saw what you saw Sad

Iheartpasties · 01/09/2012 01:55

Oh wow, doesnt sounds good.

Empusa · 01/09/2012 01:56

Oh tinky :(

That doesn't sound good at all.

Where is "D"H now?

tinky19 · 01/09/2012 01:57

I dont know how to move threads. Sad brain gone to mush. H fucking asleep. Wtf?

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tinky19 · 01/09/2012 01:58

Dont know what to do. Dont want to be wrong and potentially destroy family. Feel sick

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MamaMumra · 01/09/2012 01:58

What I would do would depend on a few things:
Is it conceivable your mum would be inappropriate with your DH or vice versa?
I would think its not ok for my mum to be draped over DH and I would expect an explanation, even if "nothing happened"

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 01/09/2012 01:59

This does seem strange. I don't think your actions are unreasonable.

Empusa · 01/09/2012 02:00

When your H said nothing happened did he try to explain what was going on?

MamaMumra · 01/09/2012 02:01

Report your thread and ask for it to be moved into relationships.
Was he drunk? What is your gut saying?

JellyBellies · 01/09/2012 02:01

Sorry but was it his mother or yours?
His mother, I might think it's ok, maybe.
But your mum, I would be suspicious, sorry!

tinky19 · 01/09/2012 02:01

H says nothing happened but the fact that she was draped is something in my eyes! If it had been any other woman i'd have slapped her. As it wadn't i turned and walked.
H still took a couple of minutes to follow me too!!

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tinky19 · 01/09/2012 02:02

My mum

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Empusa · 01/09/2012 02:04

So he didn't even try and explain? I'd be absolutely fuming. Something obviously happened.

tinky19 · 01/09/2012 02:04

He is drunk.
He just said it was nothing
. Wtf having your mil draped over you is not nothing

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tinky19 · 01/09/2012 02:05

Wtf do i do? My dad is sleeping soundly down the corridor as are my chn and we're supposed to be going away tomorrow

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MamaMumra · 01/09/2012 02:06

tinky Sad
I'm sorry - that's horrible. Hope it's ok but I've asked for the thread to be moved to relationships.

I'd want an explanation at least. He's asleep? Where us your mum?

MamaMumra · 01/09/2012 02:10

If he's implying your imagining your mum draped on him, what about the starting and the dress pulling?

Obviously you don't need lots of questions but I would say trust your gut. You know your DH and mum. Ate you all going away together?

tinky19 · 01/09/2012 02:11

Downstairs

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Empusa · 01/09/2012 02:12

I have no advice, but think you'll get some good advice in the relationships board. Shall be online for a while yet though, so you aren't alone.

MamaMumra · 01/09/2012 02:13

I'm up for a bit too tinky

tinky19 · 01/09/2012 02:15

Thank you both. I'm a bit too [shocked] by it to know what to think.
M and h are both flirts in their own rights

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tinky19 · 01/09/2012 02:18

I'm crap at confrontation really. To make accusations could ruin two relationships but wtf? Sad. What were they thinking?!

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differentnameforthis · 01/09/2012 02:19

To be honest, it doesn't exactly leave much to the imagination, does it.

I don't think you are the one who should be worried about potentially destroying the family. Seems that may already be in the works anyway & it isn't your fault.

MamaMumra · 01/09/2012 02:21

Would it be really out of character for the flirting to progress?
They shouldn't ne flirting with each other.
Trust yourself and your instincts.

Has your mum said anything?

Empusa · 01/09/2012 02:21

What differentname said. The only people to blame for breaking up the family are your mum and husband. You aren't to blame at all.