not really an aibu more wwyd/wwythink? -d-h and dm

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Stopping with parents. I went to bed h stays up with m. Just went down to find m draped over h. Both jump. M pulls dress down (it was up round her thighs). Wtf?
H says nothing happened?!

hope you are okay! Doesn't sound like nothing

You poor thing.

Could you pack up the kids And go to the cottage alone? You will not be homeless, he will be.

I really hope you are ok x

The thing is, even if he says nothing happened (which sounds doubtful) he needs to explain how he and M got in to that situation. That can NEVER be an appropriate situation/position to be in with your Mil so at least you still have that angle even if he maintains innocence about any other stuff. Poor you. How horrible.

How are you this morning? Did you manage to get some sleep?

How are you this morning OP? Did you sleep at all? Im sorry but if it was me the holiday would be well fucking cancelled. Perhaps nothing did happen but it was clearly about to. What if you hadnt came down stairs? The thought is sickening. Forgiving cheating is one thing, im in the process of doing it mself withDP, however to cheat with a family member changes everything imo. You have done nothing wrong so just do what you think is right for you and will get you through the next few hours and days. Personally I would have to confront both of them this morning as soon as they got their sorry asses out of bed. Would your dad be able to help with the kids for a while?

Maybe you could just get your stuff ready to go and tell your dad that he'll have to ask his wife and SIL the reason why. Let them do their own dirty work. Any siblings or friends who could help or be a shoulder to cry on? xx

How horrible for you op

FWIW my DH would if my DM draped herself over him in any way shape or form

Not that they don't get on, just really inappropriate and would make DH really uncomfortable.

Poor you. You don't have to make any huge decisions now, take some time and gather your thoughts. It sounds as though they might, at best, have got caught up in a bit of a creepy moment. On a practical point - I wouldn't go to the hols cottage but go straight home with your dc. Better to be in the home. Let him worry about what he's going to do rather than you having to get back in.
Sorry you have all this stress.

Hi, been lurking on here, hope your ok op. Good luck.

I agree with bruschetta.

Don't doubt your instincts. I am so sorry and want to just offer some virtual support

I agree with those saying that you need to cOnfront them both. Awful awful behaviour on both parts. They should be thoroughly ashamed and if they had an ounce if decency, they'd be the ones approaching you and telling you exactly what happened.

I'm so sorry OP, what a horrible thing to have seen. I hope you have been able to get some rest. I have no real advice for you, but I agree that you should trust your instincts. And certainly, H should be the one to leave the family home, not you.

Those bastards. I hope youre ok!

You know he WILL try and talk you round there's no two ways around it. I think you need to be really strong here.

What exactly was the position? I just wonder what excuse he'll think up for it.

I hope you're alright this morning.

No advice, just wanted to add my support. It doesn't sound good at all. I can't think of any reasonable explanation for them being "draped" over each other. If there were an explanation they would have said immediately. The fact that they didn't suggests to me they were trying to concoct a story. You poor thing

That's a good idea Toast.

So sorry, OP.

Just as an aside, and someone did mention up thread, but if you are worried about becoming homeless - would it be an idea to go to holiday cottage as planned, but bloody leave your H there and come home with your DCs?

It will buy you some time at least while you work things out in your own head

OP how are you this morning?

Ok, I've reported the opening post and asked for it to be moved into relationships.

It is possible that nothing 'happened' and that your dh is reasonably innocent.

When my babies were little I had a 'friend' who came over to stay a couple of times. The first time she flirted like mad with my oh. I should have expected it, she was a known flirt. We didn't speak for a while, but she apologised and tried really hard to make it up to me.

The second time I had popped out of the room to see to the kids. The door was ajar. When I came back, instinct told me to listen. I heard her say 'oh go on, you know you want to. She never needs to know.'. I walked in to a similar scene.

Having said that, it doesn't explain why a) your husband didn't follow you straight away and b) why he didn't explain how she came to be draped over him.

They both need to explain themselves to you - separately and without the chance to concoct a story.

Hope you are ok this morning... We are all here for you xx

Hello

We've moved this thread to Relationships - thanks to those who reported it

Best of luck to the OP

MNHQ

Even if he was drunk, I don´t see why he didn´t remove himself immediately from the situation.

I´m not sure I wouldn´t have thrown up tbh.

Hope you're ok and strong enough to deal with them this morning.

I would go on the break if you wanted to - just you and dc. give you space and time to think and Dh a chance to see what he could/will lose.

Forget about the holiday, the last thing she needs is to be in an unfamiliar place alone with two young children even further away from home.

I agree Athendof.

OP really hope you are ok, thinking of you. x