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Original poster

why do i care so much about some prick??

124 replies

WelshCat · 16/08/2012 19:37

ugh. sorry if this is ranty but i have had some beers.

I went on a date with someone I had met online on pof. Last Saturday. The week running up to the date he was calling me for 3 hours a night and texting me all day through work. He was proper sweet etc.

Then, date. We had super fun. The next day he wrote all over facebook what an amazing night he had, text me asking if he made a second date and how was I feeling etc.

The next day, he calls me, only to tell me to text him instead because he was watching a film.. Hmm

Then, basically he has text me less and less since then. I even gave him an out, by asking him if he was into it or not. He assured me he was just busy.

So now he hasnt contacted me at all since yesterday lunchtime, so I know really that he does not give a shit.

But why do I even care? On sunday after our date I wasn't even sure if I liked the guy enough to see him again? And now Im proper upset and offended!

OP posts:
combinearvester · 16/08/2012 19:41

He sounds like he may well be a bit of a cock. Think how much it will annoy him if you never contact him again - no needy emails / texts, nothing - it might ruin the pathetic little self-defeating game that he no longer realises he's playing. At least this time let him be the only player.

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WelshCat · 16/08/2012 19:46

I know its taking all my strength not to text him because I know no matter how witty I think I sound I will just come across as pathetic. He is my friend on facebook and I haven't even deleted him because I know then he will know I am mad!

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ImperialBlether · 16/08/2012 19:48

Don't contact him now. Put your phone away!

He sounds like a game player. Ignoring him is the last thing he wants - do it.

combinearvester · 16/08/2012 19:48

Ah if he is your friend on facebook then you need to make sure all your status updates are really upbeat and happy and full of plans with other people. Well done for not texting. Is there a friend you could text as well, in these situations I always found it helpful if my phone keeps buzzing iykwim!

EclecticShock · 16/08/2012 19:51

Chill out... One date... See how it goes...

hatesponge · 16/08/2012 19:51

welsh I get entirely where you are coming from, I had a date 2 weeks ago with someone who sounds v similar. Phoning me for hours at night beforehand, texting all day long, sending me poems, telling me he was falling for me etc etc. I was the one being sensible going 'hold on, we havent even MET yet' etc.

Date happened, all went really well. We had another planned for 2 days later, he was saying he didn't want me to go home, to stay at his til then, and so on. you get the picture.

I phoned him when I got home (cos he asked me to - wanted to check Id made it back safely). He seemed a bit off, but no big deal I thought.

The next morning he text me to say he wasn't ready for a commitment! I hadn't even asked for one, he was the one banging on about feeling like a teenager in love Hmm

I am still a bit gutted about it now. But pissed off with myself too because I didn't even fancy him that much - he was significantly bigger than his photos would suggest but I liked his personality so thought I'd give him a shot - and then he has the cheek to bin me off!

Original poster
WelshCat · 16/08/2012 19:58

EclecticShock chill, I know its only been one date, I dont want to marry him I just am mad that he clearly isnt being honest! Seeing how it goes is not an option, as obvs its going nowhere fast!!

It's such arsey behaviour. I think thats why I am mad. Don't be all into it and tell the other person lies if you clearly are not sure! Why, why, why text me asking if you can come see me asap, and that you're impatient etc etc if you actually couldn't give a flying fuck! Argh it makes me mad! Im probably one of the most honest people in the world. Maybe thats why it rages me so much when people deceive me.

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izzyizin · 16/08/2012 20:20

He's a hybrid. An adenaline junkie/one trick pony/ouslem bird cross.

This mongrel gets high on the thrill of the chase, performs splendidly on the first date, and then disappears up its own rectum... until it needs another fix.

On sunday after our date I wasn't even sure if I liked the guy enough to see him again Are you sure you're not a female hybrid? Grin

Original poster
WelshCat · 16/08/2012 20:33

hahahah maybe. I only care coz he doesnt!

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izzyizin · 16/08/2012 20:38

That is the distinction between the male and female of the species.

That and the fact that your coat/plumage is more akin to that of a peacock than his dull peahen feathers Grin

EclecticShock · 16/08/2012 20:43

Not contacting you since yesterday lunch time doesn't not mean he doesn't give a shit IMO.

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WelshCat · 16/08/2012 20:43

lol if i ever hear from him again Im so gonna tell him his dull peahen feathers dont interest me!

OP posts:
hatesponge · 16/08/2012 20:44

I cared much more about not ready for a commitment man AFTER he told me that - possibly because up to that point I was feeling quite secure that he clearly liked me FAR more than I did him!

EclecticShock · 16/08/2012 20:44

Are you serious? One date and he's expected to contact you constantly?

izzyizin · 16/08/2012 20:50

Shake your glorious technicolour tail feathers, honey. Right in his beak face Wink

WigGold · 16/08/2012 20:51

Yuk, this kind of game playing is why I've decided it's better to be alone than have my feelings trampled all over.

hatesponge · 16/08/2012 20:52

Surely it depends on the pattern of pre-date contact?

Someone who you got a text or email from once a day or less often pre-date, should that continue post-date then no big deal...but when you go from literally constant contact up to the date (400 texts in 4 days in my case) to nothing the signs are the bloke is a bit of a self obsessed fuckmuppet tbh!

lizbee156 · 16/08/2012 20:53

Seems to me you've had a lucky escape Wink

izzyizin · 16/08/2012 20:59

Why not, Eclectic?

That's what he was doing up until the first date and throughout that date, and immediately thereafter, he led the OP to believe that he was smitten keen to see her again asap... since when he's done an abrupt about face with no explanation.

It's not the lack of keenness that's the issue. It's the lack of courtesy. How fucking dare he! Twunt!

EclecticShock · 16/08/2012 20:59

You said yourself... You aren't even sure if you like him?

EclecticShock · 16/08/2012 21:01

Seriously, this is ridiculous... Give him a chance. Although might be better of you, don't seeing as you are not sure you like him and you think he's a prick. Narrow escape for him.

izzyizin · 16/08/2012 21:03

Give him a chance? No chance!

Time to call 'Next', Cat Grin

EclecticShock · 16/08/2012 21:06

All sounds very egotistical to me...

izzyizin · 16/08/2012 21:07

As for 'narrow escape for him'bleuh, this tiddler shouldn't be swimming in the adult rockpool.

Throw the throwback back, Cat Grin

izzyizin · 16/08/2012 21:09

Yes, it is, Eclectic.

I think ego ergo I am.

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