why do i care so much about some prick??

[WelshCat]

ugh. sorry if this is ranty but i have had some beers.

I went on a date with someone I had met online on pof. Last Saturday. The week running up to the date he was calling me for 3 hours a night and texting me all day through work. He was proper sweet etc.

Then, date. We had super fun. The next day he wrote all over facebook what an amazing night he had, text me asking if he made a second date and how was I feeling etc.

The next day, he calls me, only to tell me to text him instead because he was watching a film..

Then, basically he has text me less and less since then. I even gave him an out, by asking him if he was into it or not. He assured me he was just busy.

So now he hasnt contacted me at all since yesterday lunchtime, so I know really that he does not give a shit.

But why do I even care? On sunday after our date I wasn't even sure if I liked the guy enough to see him again? And now Im proper upset and offended!

hmm, but will i not look like an idiot if i assume i am seeing him tomorrow when he might think he has quite clearly given me the brush off?

Just say are we on for tommorow coz im busy.

Agree with Eclectic here - please do not send that! If you're meant to be seeing him tomorrow let him do the texting, then if he doesn't text/show up, text saying, "thought we were meeting up today? Would have been nice to know if you'd changed your mind," etc.

Dont keep looking for his get out clause. He probably likes you but he won't like your attitude... No offense. This isn't a battle... It's relationship building, put your insecurities aside, be positive, if he still blows you out, his loss, but sending a negative message is going to put him off...

hmmmm. i feel like i would look like a fool to assume he was still coming. maybe ill send what i was gonna send with slight adjustments when it is clear he is not coming tomorrow

What Eclectic said.

Make arrangements for tomorrow, breezily, like you haven't even noticed he hasn't been in touch.

Fwiw, I agree with you. I think he's blown you out, and I'm sorry about that, but there are loads of those men out there I'm afraid, the arseholes.

A couple of years ago, I had this really intense internet/phone/text thing with this bloke. One of the most exciting times of my life, we really connected. This carried on for almost 3 months.

Went to meet him, fucked him, and the whole evening was awesome, and we both felt it. Got up the next morning, never saw him again. The cunt

im so not texting him tonight!

Don't feel like a fool... Put those thoughts aside. Second guessing is never good. Act breezy and if he blows you out, you have your answer... Seriously give the guy a chance. Your attitude is telling him to run a mile... Be confident...

DS has fallen asleep on my arm so cannot type easily now, will come back to this tomorrow for more advice on breezily being dumped and not looking like a twat.

You have to text him tonight to give him notice that you still want to see him...

oh god. but will he not just think i am drunk or something? what do you think i should say then? im not honestly sold on this acting like he is still coming thing when i think its clear he is not!

Doesn't matter what you think... It matters what he thinks. Just say ... Hows things with you...what time do you fancy meeting tomorrow?

Either he will ignore or blow you out or come back positively. You have nothing to lose... You will be ok either way.

I'm not saying he's not a prick.. I'm saying you need to give it one last open minded shot... Then make your decision.

jesus. that sounds risky, is there no happy medium between my approach and yours?

Why is it risky?

Rejection happens in dating all the time... IMO, better to be open and get rejected than be closed and defensive and get rejected. In other words get rejected for you not for your insecurities...

yeah i guess so. i shall mull it over and no doubt be back tomorrow to compose my final text!!

If he rejects you, You'll survive... You'll find someone who appreciated you. You have to be open enough to let people in... If they misuse your trust... Yes fuck them... Move on, you can do better!

By tommorow he might have made other plans...

hmm, well if he makes other plans and also doesnt text me, it doesnt get any clearer than that! i dont think me texting him late on a friday ngiht when he is probaly with his mates is gonna change that if its happened in his mind already

He hasn't texted you since yesterday and you've decided he is a prick who doesn't give a shit?

Perhaps something has happened? He is busy? A family crisis? A zillion other perfectly normal reasons why he hasn't texted. I would send him a bright and breezy message asking if you are still on for tomorrow then wait.

nooooooo, since wednesday. catch up!

Oh ok. Missed that sorry.

's alright :)

But you haven't contacted him since he last contacted you... He might think you're not interested?