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why do i care so much about some prick??

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WelshCat · 16/08/2012 19:37

ugh. sorry if this is ranty but i have had some beers.

I went on a date with someone I had met online on pof. Last Saturday. The week running up to the date he was calling me for 3 hours a night and texting me all day through work. He was proper sweet etc.

Then, date. We had super fun. The next day he wrote all over facebook what an amazing night he had, text me asking if he made a second date and how was I feeling etc.

The next day, he calls me, only to tell me to text him instead because he was watching a film.. Hmm

Then, basically he has text me less and less since then. I even gave him an out, by asking him if he was into it or not. He assured me he was just busy.

So now he hasnt contacted me at all since yesterday lunchtime, so I know really that he does not give a shit.

But why do I even care? On sunday after our date I wasn't even sure if I liked the guy enough to see him again? And now Im proper upset and offended!

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EclecticShock · 17/08/2012 20:54

That's not what you stated in your op :).

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WelshCat · 17/08/2012 20:55

LOl and Fermez, he is completely unaware of any of this of course, because I have not been harrassing him with my 'oversensitive intolerant' personality (to quote Eclectic...

I shall just leave him to it if that is what he so wishes.

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WelshCat · 17/08/2012 20:56

That because my thread wasnt about what I would do in the same situation, it about what he did.

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EclecticShock · 17/08/2012 20:57

IMHO, you're being unreasonable and seeing as you're not sure if you like him enough to see him again, you could give him a chance to contact you rather than jumping on him and calling him a prick. He probably didn't realise he had to keep up the 3 hour nightly chats to win your heart. That's more than I talk to anyone in a day and unsustainable. Be realistic, he has a life ?

EclecticShock · 17/08/2012 21:00

You don't know what he wishes... You've shut him down pre-emptively. What he wants hasn't really been established. You're going on what you think he wants... Communication and understanding is the basis of any relationship. Plus empathy... Don't forget that.

Jellykat · 17/08/2012 21:01

Eclectic - 3 hourly nightly chats? jumping on him?

Where has Welshcat posted that? i can't find it.. you're being OTT. IMO

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WelshCat · 17/08/2012 21:02

Whatever.

I have had the advice and opinions that I needed, and some extra that I did not :)

I am fine, I do not care, he is just a guy I had one date with. Yes I am annoyed that he did not have the decency to let me know that he wasn't into it, but he is entitled to behave how he wants.

THE END!

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EclecticShock · 17/08/2012 21:03

Read the thread. 3 hour nightly chats was the standard before the date. Jumping on him by calling him a prick, unnecessarily IMO.

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WelshCat · 17/08/2012 21:03

Thankyou Jellykat, and just before the end actually,

he hasnt text me for three days now ecelctic, so i think we are a little beyond him having a life, and we are now into - he has defo blown me off. so i was right :p

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EclecticShock · 17/08/2012 21:06

That's a shame that he hasn't texted you. Maybe he did enjoy the date just not your questioning about why he wasnt keeping the same level of communication. Would scare me off tbh. Really don't want to wind you up or upset you, just think you maybe need to let things take their natural course next time. I know you won't appreciate my advice but there it is anyway...

lalaloopylou · 17/08/2012 21:09

Read the posts she hasn't been continuously texting him

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WelshCat · 17/08/2012 21:10

I havent text him at all Eclectic. Obviously you have just jumped to the conclusion that I have harrassed him based on your opinion of me.

He last text me a few days ago, and he has heard nothing from me since. Because I am not a lunatic.

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EclecticShock · 17/08/2012 21:11

Fair enough... Do you think possibly he's not responding because you haven't?

EclecticShock · 17/08/2012 21:12

After a first date is a sensitive time. Why don't you call him and figure it out?

EclecticShock · 17/08/2012 21:16

I'm seriously not trying to piss you off, I just think you should give him one last chance if you like him. If you dismiss every guy based on your op, there won't be many left. I can't honestly see he has done anything wrong. He could be waiting for you to contact him as doesn't want to appear keen. I might be wrong but surely it worth finding out if you like him?

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WelshCat · 17/08/2012 21:27

I dont want to come across like a loony bitch is all. I think if I text him he will think im nuts, but in al fairness if he has blown me off already it doesnt matter.

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EclecticShock · 17/08/2012 21:32

It's not loony to find out the facts and where you stand... It's only loony too jump to conclusions without any evidence... I'm not dating you're loony... I'm dating find out the facts before thinking the worst...

EclecticShock · 17/08/2012 21:34

Saying not dating!!! Autocorrect.... I do feel for you, just think you should not torture yourself until you are sure...

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WelshCat · 17/08/2012 21:35

ok, well im about to text him so if he brutally rejects me you are taking the blame! :p

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FermezLaBouche · 17/08/2012 21:36

Oh don't say anything awful!!! (Fingers crossed)

EclecticShock · 17/08/2012 21:37

I'll take the blame... It will all my fault... And I'm a believing bastard... At least you'll know...Try and set another date. If he's a cock, I'm sorry, but it's with one last go IMO.

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WelshCat · 17/08/2012 21:39

Loool, I havent sent it yet, but I am gonna say this.. (he was gonna come see me tomorrow)

So I think its safe to assume I wont be seeing you on the weekend then :) Would be helpful to know what changed your mind though x

Whats d'yall think?

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EclecticShock · 17/08/2012 21:39

No!!! Don't say that!!!

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WelshCat · 17/08/2012 21:41

Why not!!???

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EclecticShock · 17/08/2012 21:42

Don't be defensive!!! As far as you are concerned he is seeing you tomorrow and you are excited!!!. Don't be defensive be confident, it's sexy... Defensiveness is not, unfortunately...