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[crystaldash]

Have just noticed that dh has set up a camera and has been videoing our room. I think it is to see whether I have a nap. Apparently I do nothing all day. I have 3 DC so am literally running round all day. Am I wrong to think this weird and also very creepy?

This is where a posters history is useful.

Good luck with the talk crystaldash.

Olivia was that not meant to be a link :o good luck op

OP, I believe you.

Please try to find a minute to come back if you can and let us know you're ok.

I don't know if the Op is real or not.
But clearly if she has 3 dc they've been together a while, so telling her to leave the house immediately is a bit of a hysterical reaction.

I can see how it would seem that way Lady, but when you're trapped in a controlling and violent relationship there's always a "reason" to stay. Kids, money, housing. Women need our support and encouragement to get out of these situations, it can feel like you're the only one in the world with no one to help.

Being punished for having a drink, being spied on for being "lazy" and being given a black eye by someone who is meant to love you is not plastered over by procreation.

Hope you're okay crystal please try to come back x

Report if you have doubts people. Personally I think DV is a sensitive enough issue that you should really keep it shut if you have doubts about a thread. Doubting a thread because you think its far fetched or whatever will just put people off posting when they need help for fear of being called a troll. Sometimes RL is far fetched.

I wouldn't do a doubting post on such a thread and if i can refrain anyone can.

FWIW OP I believe you.

@AmberLeaf

Report if you have doubts people. Personally I think DV is a sensitive enough issue that you should really keep it shut if you have doubts about a thread. Doubting a thread because you think its far fetched or whatever will just put people off posting when they need help for fear of being called a troll. Sometimes RL is far fetched.

I wouldn't do a doubting post on such a thread and if i can refrain anyone can.

INDEED please don't troll hunt folks, if it's worrying you, let us have a look. THANKs

OlympiaMumsnet I feel like I'm following you tonight.....

I apologise for being a doubter. I hope everything is ok, OP. Sincerely.

Actually, I hope you find a way out.

I'm glad that you've now been made to feel like you can come back to talk. After reading some of the posts, I was worried that you might not be back.

I hope that you do manage to get back on later crystal and that the chat you're planning with your Husband goes well.

Best Wishes.

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We will be moving this thread to relationships.
Thanks
MNHQ

OP, hope you're okay. x

Ok. Had chat and he is denying everything. Am so tired I can't fight tonight. Really don't what to do. Been together 11 years. We both have messed up. It is my fault too but I know I don't deserve this-does that make sense?

How is it your fault?

How is it your fault?

Because I am a bad wife-his words. Tbf I am not perfect but I do try. I do suffer from foot in mouth but never am I mean

FFS.

Of course he says it is your fault. He is trying to justify his behaviour.

No one has the right to hit you or spy on you with a webcam because you are a "bad wife". Even if you did lie in bed all day, refuse to make his dinner and didn't know where the iron or vacuum cleaner lived.

No one deserves hitting. Don't blame yourself.

Just because he says something doesn't make it so.

This man is not fit to be a father to yiour children to show them how to grow how to treat people with kindness and respect.

Get him out and start living your life.

He's abusive, therefore he is NEVER going to hold his hands up and admit fault, wrong doing and abuse. He is going to turn it around and make it your fault - you drove him to it, you make him angry, he would be better if you were.

It's all bollocks. You deserve respect from him, as his wife, partner, mother of your children. You are not getting it.

I'm not sure that discussing it with him is the best idea really. Be very careful that you don't let slip that you are thinking of leaving, or that you can't tolerate much more. This is a dangerous time for you and your children. Please get advice from people who can help - women's aid, police.

I just want him to admit it then I can go knowing I'm not mad. Does that make sense?

He won't.

He won't admit it.

Your own conviction of what is right for you, and what is not, is enough.