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[crystaldash]

Have just noticed that dh has set up a camera and has been videoing our room. I think it is to see whether I have a nap. Apparently I do nothing all day. I have 3 DC so am literally running round all day. Am I wrong to think this weird and also very creepy?

Eugh. What a nasty controlling little creep.

Well that is weird and intrusive.

How old are your children?

Does he think you're neglecting them during the day or something?

I suggest to point the webcam in the direction of the tv and switch on Jeremy Kyle.

I think he must worra despite them being happy healthy dc. Am really disturbed.

How old are they?

3 boys under 10 so very much have my hands full

So what if you were sleeping?

Are you not allowed to rest?

I think you need to find out why he is recording you and why he thinks it's ok.

Personally I think it's bloody creepy.

More I think about it, the creepier it feels. Especially because he didn't say anything and have since found out he was recording all night.

He has also hidden my phone. Took a lead out of the landline that I had to beg to find out where he had put it. This is not good is it?

Err crystal you need to leave
Do you have anywhere to go
Do not leave the boys with him
Please go
Now

He hid your phone? No sweetie that's not good, at all. I'd get rid ASAP, easier said than done I know but he sounds extremely controlling, and where would it stop?

The very first thing I would do is to tell or copy this privately to a trusted friend, as evidence in case something worse happens. I don't want to worry you but it is that serious.

Why though?

Has he given you any 'explanation' at all?

Was there any build up to it? It's very strange.

Has he always been like this?

Flipping heck Crystal. You need to do something.

Has he said why he has hidden your phone? Does he think in the moments you aren't sleeping that you are calling people for a chat? and if so why does he think that is wrong?

What does he think you should do with your day? Have you recently become a sahm? or has this obsession with how you spend your time come on suddenly? did anything precede it?

Sorry for bombardment but i am really shocked at this.

He has always been a bit controlling but never this bad. Last night I got drunk and now I must be punished. It is a bit of a pattern. Am also sporting a lovely shiner at the moment.

Videoing you is beyond creepy or strange. What would he do if you WERE sleeping during the day? I dread to think.

FFS you cannot live like this, and nor can your children. What if you needed to call emergency services? It is so, so wrong. Please leave him (I rarely say that!).

Women's Aid for support, or your local police, even Social Services, since he is putting the children's lives in danger removing your means of communication.

Just get out, and be very, very careful of him around your kids - he is too controlling for words.

Erm... You need out.

This is all wrong on so many levels.

He's being a bit of a bunny boiler isn't he? Does he not realise that this is wrong?

He hit you?

take the kids and run

I think you should ask for this to be moved to relationships, given the subsequent posts.

Oh my goodness. So he does hit you? I think you know, you need to plan an escape and take your children with you. You poor thing.

Is the shiner courtesy of him?

You can't live like this.