First Post: Trust issue or me being silly

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Hi,

This is my very first post on MN. Been lurking for over four years but never felt I could contribute nor had a major issue I wanted to discuss. Apologies for the long content...

Anyway something happened last night that I would like your considered opinion on, in parts a silly series of events which has left me wondering about the importance of trust in a relationship.

So last night my DS needed a new change of sheets, my DP and I were both involved in the stripping down of the bed but neither of us could find a new waterproof layer, now my DP does all the washing (I do the ironing and all the cleaning) and only occasionally would I get involved loading the washing machine up etc. Anyway we both look in the usual places for the white washing, airing cupboard, ironing box etc and can't find anything so I question my DP about whether it could be downstairs in the tumble dryer, 'no' I'm told, that was checked earlier this evening and it is empty. Some more searching and then I head downstairs whereupon in the utility room I open the dryer door and find a pile of damp white washing including the waterproof sheet. Now the usual arguments / comments follow about you said this, it was here etc occur and then we return to normal before going to bed.

At this point my DP says that for the record they would like to say that they believe I moved the washing into the dryer tonight and I am lying about finding it there!!! At this point I get pretty angry and swear it wasn't me and generally spend 5 minutes protesting my innocence (I have no reason to move it not lie about it). Anyway in summary my partner doesn't believe I'm telling the truth (I am) but I can not prove it. My DP is CONVINCED that they checked the dryer earlier that evening and therefore I must have moved it since it was empty when THEY checked!!!

So am I being silly to think that it is terrible that my DP does not believe me? I have never protested my innocence so strongly (been together 15 years) , plus I have no real motive to move or lie about it so this morning I feel so sad that my DP just doesn't, can't or will not trust what I say.

Thanks for listening

My husband is a great lover of these types of rows. I no longer react. I just say "think what you like, its nothing to me"

Funny enough DearNigel I was having a conversation with my sister yesterday and her partner is a bit of a "Mr I'm Right All The Time" and she does the same as you or just walks away.

Anniegetyourgun XH would tell a completely different story of our life together and ultimate divorce too, one which would have most readers queueing up to offer him sympathy and demonise the vicious, self-centred ex-wife (me).

Sorry Annie, I never got around to replying to you. For me the point it that the perspective is different whoever is telling the story, whether the story teller is male/female/or member of a same sex relationship. It shouldn't be assumed, as it has here by some, that the OP's side of the story is more skewed than anyone else's just because he's a man.

I have never seen statements about wanting to hear the other side of the story on here when it is being told by a woman, but have several times when it's being told by a man.

I see a poster is still banging on here for mens rights

I was starting to think i was the only one on mn who doesn't think like her. I was worried!

sticks and stones MrMiyagi.