real life challenges vs online misadventures, dating (and non-dating) thread 19

[hatesponge]

I have been to the pub. I'm not pissed but I am happy (well happier at least).

Conclusions reached this evening:

1. I am pretty bloody amazing, and any man I choose to date is very very lucky and should appreciate this fact!
2. Online dating is not for me. But I have learned from it that I shouldnt judge a book by it's cover and not to be so superficial
3. Man from the weekend DID like me, he is either still in love with his wife, or still hurt by her and lacking in confidence, there is NOTHING I did wrong, and he probably will be back at some point, but it will be too late because I will have MOVED ON :)
4. I am joining the gym and losing my remaining 3 stone.
5. I am going back to my old haunts in Essex this weekend because I have the best nights out there and feel at home. I intend to drink, dance, look fabulous and talk to anyone and everyone!

So that's my resolutions for the thread in essence, less moaning, more exercise, to have fun and be sociable to everyone, less aloof unavailable ice queen and more friendly and approachable.

'Do you want your partner to be kinkier than you? 'not possible'

Can't you just share his username and let us all have a look for ourselves?

Seeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!! He likes you A. LOT!! But he daren't ask you out! I knew it! I just knew it!

no, that would be a betrayal of trust!

OKC really annoys me. I find it hard to use and the questions!

Ive just been looking at one bloke
"I love to travel but I dont fly anymore,
Im a bit of an IT geek but I dont use google
I liberal without the contradiction yet I have strong views"

I am a quality inspector. They call me a clinical technician. I call myself a quality inspector.
I like oral

FGS.

I think I prefer "hey sexy hun"....just

update after more questions.

ready time are you sitting down?

99% match. 88% friends 1% enemy.

this is liberating - I've never looked at his OKC before as it felt a bit naughty. it feels very naughty. I've been a bad girl (or maybe not, depending on what side of kink he might be, I'm lucky, I am ambikinksterous. )

OMG! Snape You are just going to have to talk to him. You just ARE!! I'm almost in tears here, this is too much to bare. Never mind Ali McGraw and Ryan O'Neill, we have our very own Love Story, right here!!!

Please can you have your wedding a decent length of time after Watch and MrLovelys wedding, so that I can wear the same outfit? Thank you.

'To you, which adjective best describes hopeless, unrequited love?

Romantic'

hahah. idiot.

apologies will not fill up thread on my own.

Ok, don't mean to spoil the fun - or freak you out - snape but Time said she coudln't see visitors unless she upgraded/paid. IF PM pays for his subscription does that mean he will be able to see visitors?

FREAKS OUT!!!

he wont pay, plus i am dodgy not-me new profile... and i dont think it will give an indictaion that i've spent the entire afternoon gazing adoringly at him answering questions. it would just show a visit, which would clearly be a quick click on and then a repulsed click off.

So, do we have a definite plan yet? Because it needs to be executed with the highest of precision. We cannot afford to make on tiny mistake, there is a lot at stake here. LOVE. And sex.

chaotic meant to say, but got carried away with self indulgent pm stalking your board game sounds ace, we're both huge shakesperos & if an element of removing clothing could be added, that sounds like an ideal evening. :) I might even let him beat me (back to the link...)

How about you play the rules of strip poker i was taught,
you win they strip one item of clothing,
then whoever ends up naked first has to sleep with the person who got them naked???
Those are the right rules right? NO I know they aren't now

Yep, we need a definite plan, definitely, we need to get Snape and PM together, i have three dresses, so i have a choice of what to wear to watch's wedding to mrL and snape's wedding to PM. I have to be invited!!! PLEEEEAAASSSEEE. Just so you can all kick my arse

Witchcraft. We need to learn witchcraft, how to cast spells, and all that stuff. You already have the cats.

Please can you have your wedding a decent length of time after Watch and MrLovelys wedding, so that I can wear the same outfit? Thank you.

Ahem...you're planning to wear the same MOH dress to both weddings

snape I'm sure you could find a way to add 'an element of removing clothing' to the game

I have books on witchcraft.

Oh, for future reference, I'm sure we could offer our services to set up a profile for stalking checking to make sure profile is okay and not off putting purposes

Yes! I am unemployed you know. Unless the brides are willing to fork out for the frocks, I see no alternative.

You really have books on witchcraft? How interesting!

That's my point, brides are supposed to pay for the bridesmaids dresses. Having said that they get to choose so you couldn't guarantee one that gives you a bum like Pippa Middleton's

Yes, I really have books on witchcraft

Hello all :o

Well, I've had an interesting and actually quite hilarious afternoon, I do mean that as well I am not being sarcastic - we have laughed about this a lot at how generally hopeless we have been.

Ok so basically what was so funny was we talked and agreed that he is really stressed and confused about where his life is going and all that with the HK thing, we agreed to just be friends, and it was going SO well and all VERY grown up and dignified, but then our hands touched and there was this spark of will we/won't we type moment that flashed between us, and we both went in for the kiss which resulted in ripping each others clothes off and having mad naughty naughty hot hot sex for err... about 90 mins.

Then we talked again (and laughed) about having actually not having got ANYWHERE at all and we analysed how the sex happened and why. "wow what the hell was that all about" "I dunno but it was fucking good"

I eventually managed to get my serious, non post orgasmic head back on and I said that the sex thing happening, for me, didn't negate all the stuff we talked about, and that it didn't have to mean anything at all apart from we were both horny, and that as far as I'm concerned we can still just be friends, and the previous conversation still applies.

He however is more confused than that and can't seem to view it that simply (role reversal? I thought women were meant to be the ones who couldn't seperate this stuff?)

So anyway I have sent him off to think. He could have stayed over but I thought that would confuse things even more so I want him to go off and see if he can make sense of anything without our sex drives getting in the way.

I actually think I would quite like a FWB type thing with him and that I'm not bothered about being in a relationship or not with him (I haven't suggested this yet but I might if he continues to just be really confused)

I'm also cool with being just distant ish friends.

Continuing the relationship though would require much more thought.

Yeah, so in conclusion, there is no conclusion. Apart from that I'm more sure of myself and my own mind than he is

I have books on witchcraft, feminism, art, religion, aethism, drugs, the enlightenment, literature (with a big L) and literature with a small l, ie, crime thrillers, chick lit and Harry Potter

I just knew you would end up having sex! It popped into my mind this afternoon while I was walking round Sainsburys, don't know why. It sounds to me as though MrHongKong has become a little emotionally attached to you. Maybe even a lot!

That sounds as though it could be a risk Chaotic. I am hoping to pull the best man, I need to look worth pulling. I can't rely on stressed brides to choose suitable attire. So one frock and two weddings it is.

chaotic you are going to need to teach us some spells!!

lubey I think

I dont plan on pulling anyone, in fact getting rid would be good sometimes LOL. And something i found on facebook (work of the devil will post in AIBU) which highlights where all our relationships have gone wrong:

COMMANDMENTS OF MARRIAGE

1. The husband is always right
2. The husband is always the master of the family even if he doesn?t work
3. The wife must ask for permission from the husband before going in bed as well as before turning the back to him on the bed
4. If the husband beats the wife and then comes a visitor, the wife should smile as if nothing happened
5. The husband is still the master and

has full control on all the operations even in bed

1. Even if the wife is right, Article number 1 takes over
2. Before going to bed the wife must be in her night dress with no pant or bra, to allow the husband to enter at anytime he feels like
3. The husband never lies, but he enlightens
4. When the husband is shouting, the wife keeps kneeling down without saying anything

10. The wife should wait for the husband before making any decision 11. The husband never comes home late, he is in a meeting 12. The husband never goes out on the off day but he is attending the family meeting 13. The wife waits for her husband with her ideas and take those of her husband when he is back home 14. The wife never works hard during the day to avoid her getting fast tired in the night 15. The wife never goes to her husband?s office only when it comes an urgent case of emergence of this one 16. The wife is not allowed to do any kind of expenses without consulting the husband even if its her own money 17. All the misunderstandings have to be solved by only the two in the bedroom without witness and this should be to the husband?s advantage 18. The wife never refuses eating, even if she is annoyed 19. The wife has no orders to give to her husband, but she receives these from him 20. The wife must respect the husband?s orders carefully 21. The wife has to take limit of her jealous and not show it in public

Sorry for such a long post, but OH MY GOD WHAT PRICK WROTE THAT!!!

Sadly MLM some out there will believe in that.

I think my ex wrote that.