Success, standards and still holding out for Johnny Depp...dating thread 18

[ChaoticismyLife]

Forget the olympics...we're aiming for dating gold.

Only the best is good enough.

As you were....:)

That said, perfect white teeth can be a little off putting.. I'd keep trying not to look at them. It would be like dating an Andrew Lloyd webber Jesus.

It's my only minor point of imperfection in rock GOD Tim Minchin.

and who do we blame for the crap dress sense, beer guts and lack of personality in men?

I love nice teeth. I used to work for a dentist so I have great knowledge on teeth and perio breath. Perio breath is a huge turn off!

Only just realised there was a new thread

Wow.
This thread has moved fast!

I have a confession to make.
I checked my dating e-mail account and there was a message from a man I had put on favourites round about the time I sent a message to Mr VN.
Pluses: his match with me is supposed to be higher, his sports are more similar to mine (swimming and martial arts).
Negatives: no photo (could ask), message mentioned points in common but nothing specific. It feels like a standard fishing message.

Mr VN and I haven't promised each other anything. And I'm getting a who knows feeling.
And kind of curious.

On the other hand I quite like him and he seems quite into me too.

I think I'll reply saying thank you, but I'm going on holiday and/or have started seeing someone and leave options open. Just in case.

Or not bother because he doesn't seem to even have taken enough time to start communication and mention anything from my profile.

Lueji some times when I'm trying to make a decision I try to imagine the possible outcome of each option and then choose the one that appeals most to me. I have been known to flip a coin, for example, to make a decision and then made a final decision based on how happy I am with the result, ie if I'm happy with the result then I know it's the right one, if I'm not happy then I know, deep down, that the other option is the one I should choose. Hope that makes sense, no idea if you'll find it helpful or not.

Me, i'd reply & not mention that you'd started seeing someone. Early days with Mr VN, eggs and baskets, chickens and hatching...

Test the water, see if his response,was generic (or he's just a bit dull....)

Thanks Chaotic
I'm sure it will make sense in the morning.

Snape, bad girl.
I am somewhat tempted. Mostly out of curiosity, though.
Maybe I'll reply later.
I'm not a paying member atm, though, so would have to ask him to e-mail me. (dating e-mail, so username only, no identification)

I do feel a bit naughty. .

You've only seen the guy twice, you have reservations about planning ahead, yes? Don't nail you colours to one mast just yet.

I am reprehensible.

I would reply too, I agree with what Snape says. Mr VN is very nice BUT Mr Not Yet Known could be Very Very VERY nice. I would be too curious to ignore it

Thought I'd do my usual half-hearted trawl through POF and this time there were a few that caught my eye, such as this one:

6'7" (!!) and really quite gorgeous...

Ooh yes. I like him. Why the blooming heck don't we have men like that in West Yorkshire!!!! Are you going to message him? and ask him if he has any plans to move up north

Ahem, a bit more than just meeting twice.
We have actually met three times now (Mon and Tues this week) and have chatted for hours virtually every evening on the phone for almost two weeks now.
He also always texts good morning, etc.

Lueji I confuse myself often at times Snape does have a point, you haven't made any promises.

Right, I've made a decision....

I'm moving to Cornwall

Leuji, you have only seen this guy twice, you have no idea Whats going to happen, and if you haveht talked exclusivity, or made mentions of the future, then you are way ahead of yourself.

Id reply to the other guy for sure :)

I was quite surprised to see his ilk down here! I'm not ready for the dating lark yet, too soon after my split still and my confidence is too shot to email people. Maybe in the autumn. However, if he were to message me...

I'm coming with you Chaotic

I've sent him a message and asked if he has any plans to move

Oh, I dont like him lol.

Kernowgal

He seems nice.

A bit too wordy for me, but still nice.

Of course he could be lying...

No, not cynical at all.

I like his height and his profile reads quite nice too.

The north west is a good place for him to move to. Manchester or Liverpool will do if he wants to move to a city

Profile?!?!?!? I didn't read his profile...ahem

No, he won't like Manchester, he's from Cornwall, he will be looking for somewhere more rural, like the Huddersfield area, the rural side where I live

Aaaghh, so much to catch up on!

Sponge, I really feel for you - I get despondent about internet dating very quickly, so understand a bit how you feel.

I have a date tomorrow! First one for several months.

I've been fascinated looking at what clothes people are wearing. I'm a bit stuck clothes wise - used to dress like a bit of an 'indie girl', but now I'm mid-40s that's not really appropriate. So any of you who are better with clothes than I am (probably all of you) any ideas of what to wear for a first date when you have no cleavage at all? (So a low-cut top is totally out of the question - they look ridiculous on me).