Success, standards and still holding out for Johnny Depp...dating thread 18

[ChaoticismyLife]

Forget the olympics...we're aiming for dating gold.

Only the best is good enough.

As you were....:)

Libby why do you have to stop being an 'indie girl' just because you are mid forties? I'm curious.

Is it an afternoon or evening date? What do you feel comfortable and confident it? Wear whatever makes you feel good and nothing that makes you feel self conscious.

Sometimes I do wish I had no tits! :) always the same, you want what you don't have.... :)

I think indie - girl still rocks in her 40s, are you more comfortable on trousers or skirts? What kind of frame? I'd think Helena bonner carter spruced up a bit, nice blazers, good flat bikerish boots or edwardian boots with a curved heel. :)

I started thinking I probably looked like 'mutton dressed as lamb' or whatever that horrible saying is. I wonder if, say, a denim skirt over leggings and a T-shirt just looks ridiculous now.

But I'm the opposite of Sponge (I think it was Sponge) who said she rarely feels the cold - I'm always cold! So I tend to wear layers of clothes most of the time, including cardigans, etc.

I just don't do sexy - never have! Which isn't usually a problem, but feel I should make a bit of an effort on a date.

Time, oops, didn't answer properly. It's an afternoon date at a pub. I was thinking maybe skinny jeans and a (not low-cut) top.

Snape, I'm 5'7" and skinny. Bit of a boyish figure I suppose. Will look up images of Helena now for inspiration!

Libby, hell no, thats great :)
I'm a strictly skinny jeans and biker boots when It's cold. It's what I like.
I'm a bit indie too. Just wear what is ' you' you want someone who likes you for you, so why pretend to be someone else :)

Hahahaha good work Time! :D

Libby comfort is key, then you can enchant them with your lovely personality and gorgeousness because you're not worrying about how you look/feel in your clothes.

No! It doesn't look ridiculous! Add a check shirt & you're Amy pond, ready to take on the universe! :)

You can still shop in top shop & h&m, you can dress slightly more plainly, if you like and do fab skully accessories, tie your hair up in a ribbon, clash, whatever. I refuse to exclusively shop in m&s in my forties, or I will have turned into my mother & that would be rubbish!

40s are great! You learn to not give a flying shit about what people think about your dress sense or lack of it. :)

Yep, I agree with Watch, stick with your style and just be you. I think Indie is fab. But if you don't feel comfortable with it then skinny jeans are just fine.

Cheers Kernowgal You never know, he might just be thinking of locating.

Of course I mean relocating. All that chocolate has gone to my head

Thanks everyone. I have to admit that, much as I'd love to be stylish, I'm not really, so your tips are very welcome.

Tuts at Time That's what you get for not sharing

He should like you for who you are, so if you are a denim skirt over leggins girl, that's fine.

I'm skinny too, but have somewhat large hips and have developed some chest when I had DS.
I like somewhat structured tops that create a waist thus enlarging the breast area.

Christ I'd forgotten that if I restart this dating lark I'll have to actually think about what to wear... mind you I dressed up t'other weekend and really enjoyed making the effort, it's such a rare treat...

I'm sure I did a message about my small (but perfectly formed I have been told ) breasts. I wear dresses always as I like them and my lovely hips and small waist combination do not like trousers. I am probably not stylish but am happy how I look and if other people don't like it then tough :)

I love dresses Miranda, but now being at home all day I tend to wear jeans or leggings, when I'm wearing a dress I'm less inclined to do house work

Mr beardy and I are discussing underwear.

Can't work out if this would be scandalous if he were short, bald and toothless.

when I'm wearing a dress I'm less inclined to do house work

And that is a bad thing

I've just got into bed and was lying down when a green light shone through my blinds, which are shut, and onto the wall opposite. It reminded me of those red lights that shine on people's heads/chests, in certain films/tv programmes, just before they are shot...weird

On the bright side, I've just remembered that I bought some love hearts earlier

Hmm - I don't like doing housework. Could this be due to wearing dresses I wonder

Yes Miranda, it will be due to wearing a dress, indeed, if you don't like housework I dare bet that is why you wear a dress!

Yes Chaotic it is a bad thing. I like housework, and gardening. You just can't get into it properly when wearing a frock

Did you not get out of bed to see what the green lights were? You might have aliens camping in your garden!! I love Love Hearts!! I'm in bed with no green lights and no love hearts!

Ohhhh dear. I am back from my date and ....

I really like the guy. It was so easy from the minute we met in the car park - quick hug, kiss on the cheek - he got the drinks and the meals - paid for everything bless him. We then went across to the bowling - the bit I was dreading and we (or I, can't speak for both of us I suppose) had a great time. It was perfect really - whenever conversation dried up, we'd just take out turn

He didn't give much away at the end though. He hugged me, kissed me on the cheek and said "let me know if you fancy another night out" - does this mean he isn't bothered either way? He seemed quite nervous/unsure at the end. Don't know what to make of it really.

I'd like to see him again - I know the answer to this but - do I text him and tell him I had a good night and then leave the ball in his court or I let him send the first text?

Text him! In about half an hour. Why should the ball be in his court? We're modern women! Don't wisp around waiting for him to get over himself!

Ah no need he's text me

Says he'd love to take me out again. I feel like a teenager

Update. Am on my 99thmutual text with mr beardy today, so far. Got 99 problems, but a text ain't one.

mrsT. :)