Success, standards and still holding out for Johnny Depp...dating thread 18

[ChaoticismyLife]

Forget the olympics...we're aiming for dating gold.

Only the best is good enough.

As you were....:)

Sponge, yay for realising it wasn't you. Now, think. You had his Back story before you met, How many other dates have you had, and not known their back story ( bevsgse you don't when you first meet) and how many dates have you not heard from again, when It's likely their story was something like this/ and/ or something else. And not bevsgse of anything you said or didn't say.

Then you see it realky isn't you.

I think a rl engage with rl men thing could be good. We could call it the ' real man challenge' and could just be doing things like 7pm supermsrket shop for wine, and smiling/ saying hi to men with baskets with meals for one. Etc, etc

Then at least you can feel like you are doing something,but don't have to put up with this online bollocks.

That is crap, Sponge. :(

Although, as a rule I'd be weary of anyone claiming to really like me before even meeting.
It's possible he liked the idea of a relationship and even liked you when you met, but then realised he couldn't once faced with the possibility.
It's kind of easy to get carried away at first. And ultimately he doesn't know about your 2nd date thing and may have thought he was doing you a favour by not pursuing it further. Which he may have.

And that's what happens when you leave a post in the middle to do something else and finish it an hour later. :)

That's right, it's not you.

But not being an ice princess is a good step to get to know real people. Not even necessarily men.

I never talk to people. I chatted to two lovely Aussie girls on the Tube on Saturday. Cant remember the last time before that I spoke to a random stranger. I probably need to do that more!

Thanks for all agreeing it's not me. I concur . I've been reading through some of his texts (prior to deleting them) he was going on about how he wanted to take care of me, how he knew he was going to fall for me 'in a massive way', how he hoped if all went well he would be 'the man you wake up with every morning knowing I'm going to be the man you cuddle up to at night and keeps you smiling all day'

there's loads like that. and worse.

twat.

So to cheer myself up, I bought some lovely shoes. Cant find a pic of them online, but trust me they are lovely :)

oh catweazle-the-disappearer did all that as well, 'i'm sure we'll hit it off'. I'll sure i'll hit you off the side of my car if I ever see you again, you wankrag.

I renounce internet dating!

Yay for lovely shoes :)

if we do have a thread on renouncing internet dating, it will be littered by smug-marrieds who met their DH on POF and who are now expecting PFB. ]who insist that we drop any standards we might actually have or we will end up alone forever.

gah!

snape

I've remembered another thing he said, that he'd told his Ex-W about me, inthe context of 'Oh I've told [name] that I've been chatting to you, how lovely you are, how well we get on, etc'

Shoes. :)

On a positive note, although Mr VN claims not to like shopping he has volunteered to go shopping with me today to "get to know my tastes".
I suspect there may be a birthday gift involved, so I'll make sure to drift towards expensive chocolates.

how ridiculous! 'I've told ExW about you' translates as 'I'm moving on and can still get women interested in me' who tells an X about a potential replacement before they've even met you!?

celebrate a lucky escape!

He told me him and ExW were very amicable.

But I've checked on FB and though she's friends with all his family she isnt with him.

Very much reading between the lines, and being a little cynical, I think she dumped him when he got financial and weight problems (not necessarily because of that, though he might well think so), and he isn't over her at all....

sounds like he had a bit of a roller coaster life style Sponge?
when I hear stories about losing large sums of money I wonder about mental illness/episodes of mania, or possibly gambling problems.

Sounds like alot of drama whatever the case!

sponge better off without him.

I don't think I will bother with internet dating again. I get asked out in real life anyway and if I can't get myself someone half decent on my travels maybe I am destined to be single at the time.

Someone please stop me feeling excited, its been YEARS since anyone cooked for me and the last person to was,my mum and dvd. Why I am looking forward to tonight and planning on looking extra hot I have no idea and its not to seduce him

Go on, MLM, be excited. :)

And I'm off for today's meeting. :o

Date 4 is something to be excited about, right? And someone who doesn't just want sex. Aah. I kindly reminded a male friend today that he should remember men are no longer needed merely wanted and Thats pushing it most the time.

Sponge - definitely NOT you, those texts are vomit inducing! I never ever put much stock in words, actions are the most important. He sounds very immature when it comes to relationships and you are very much better off!

My date arrives in half hour. It may be a late night so I will probably update tomorrow. unless it goes badly when I will come on here to cry

Fate they're not even the worst ones! He was doing quite well on actions too (walked on the road side of the pavement, cooked me a lovely lunch etc) up to the point where he decided he didn't want to see me again anyway.

I think I am throwing in the towel with dating. Bit disappointing to think that's the end of my sex life at 40, but hey, that's how it goes...

Hey guess what, I've just been dumped. I am gutted but have no space or peace and quiet to express it at the moment so having to keep calm and swallow tears. I knew something was up, but he has had awful trouble with this cyst on his lip and having it removed, 12 stitches, loads of pain etc so i wasn't sure if my instinct was right or if it was that.

Ho hum.

Meeting up to talk about it sometime late this week or early next.

Not holding out much hope tbh.

sponge my mum was still having sex at 41 (thats when she had me) and my dad 58 (cos he was 17 years older than mum) do not give up. I look a little slutty me thinks. But he is due any second, so naice and slutty it is. sure he won't complain. He prefers me in dresses anyway.

Oh lubeybooby I'm sorry :(

Lubey, I'm so sorry :( what were his reasons?

Do you want to try and sort it?

He feels we moved too fast and he can't handle it, plus the hong kong thing (looming in december)

Bullshit really (apart from moving abroad) because I moved at his pace, never pressured, was never clingy, so fuck knows.

As mentioned before on this thread though, he is useless with anything but face to face talking so I've granted that he can do that when he can re-arrange a few things to get away from work (and given him my fucking schedule too so he can work around that)

I've also requested complete space and radio silence (so to speak) apart from him just letting me know when he can make it. Although now I feel like a twat because he was dumping me so that's what he wanted anyway isn't it? No contact.

Oh wow I think I hit the angry stage already! Bastardfuckwittery. I can do without it.

It was really shit you know, he was saying it in a way that sounded like he wasn't sure. So my guts were twisting a bit but I was being all cool and calm thinking he just wanted a bit of space or something.then right before we said goodbye he apologised for it being a shitty thing to 'to do' over the phone and it was only then that it occured to me that in his mind he was actually DOING something, ie dumping me and not just babbling. Only then, that I realised I was actually dumped. If that makes sense?

As for trying to sort it, yes i do want to, kind of. i don't know if there's any point with the move coming up though. But i don't want to lose him.

Oh how confusing is that eh? I don't think my choice really comes into it though does it. :(

Oh Lubey :(

Did you ask to meet to talk about it. Or did he?

Was he wobbling and talking that through or actually dumping?

As for moving to fast, thats crazy, you have been dating what,5/ 6 months. You dont see him all that often, what's his issue? It's not like you have moved in or are talking marriage, is it..