Success, standards and still holding out for Johnny Depp...dating thread 18

[ChaoticismyLife]

Forget the olympics...we're aiming for dating gold.

Only the best is good enough.

As you were....:)

I was on a diet for a month of salads boring and tasteless and barely lost anything. Then I quit and went back on chocolate crisps and take aways normal food and I am now the lightest I have been since having DS. Although I have been doing a lot so that has probably burnt some calories.

O Sponge. I know where you are coming from as I am in a similar situation. When I joined POF I knew it was going to be bad, but not that bad! Of course I had the man who wouldnt get out of his car, saying he was shy under my belt so I thought it wouldnt get any worse.
On POF if I send messages I get ignored which is ok for me but I also get "no thanks" to messages I send which is totally disheartening.
I joined OKC under the impression it might be better but I got no messages. NIL!
My picture on POF gets fewer messages than when I have no picture.
I met with that man for coffee last week. He disappeared after trying to "help" me with my garden.
Its a horrible thought to think I must be totally off putting to most men, many of whom I wouldnt want to date anyway.
Feeling a bit bleugh.
Snape: good to See you. I will join you both for a cackle at the base of the internet torture device.
Watch: Really cool that you have had such a good weekend. YAY!
MLM: You have convinced me. Chocolate is the only way forward.
And hi to all other daters

Thing is most men on the sites I wouldn't date anyway and anyone

Chaotic running is tough I agree!
what muscle did you pull?

chaotic you need to stretch! and warm up/cool down properly. I love running, really clears my mind. I've lost 2 stone in the last 2 months. :)

I'm going to concentrate on me for a bit, I don't really think anyone else is quite so deserving of my attention! :)

Nice job on the weight lossSnape I wish I loved running, I only find it slightly less torturous than I used to.

I always concentrate on me..I occasionally manage to persuade someone else to concentrate on me but they usually escape soon enough :o

mercury7 one in my lower calf, it feels more to the inner side of my leg, if that makes sense.

snape I do do a brisk walk first but must start to do some stretches as well.

I 'run' when I walk the dog so I walk from home, with the dog on the lead, for about 5-10 mins, then let her off and cross a small field and up a slope before I start running. It's not too bad now, I can feel it when I walk but it isn't painful. I'll give it a few days before I run on it again though.

Oops, yes, meant to say congratulations on the weight loss. Loosing weight is the main reason for me starting to exercise but I want to get fitter as well.

I have a yogalates dvd upstairs so I think I'll include that too, hopefully it'll make me a bit more flexible.

Help!! How much cleavage for a Monday night first date in a wine bar???

Little man has just gone off for the night to my friends place, they and their parents are taking him cos I have spent most of today in tears, not coping, and needed the break, they happened to phone me and I just burst into tears on the phone, so right now I am feeling like a really rubbish mum, but think until tomorrow afternoon I should rest, relax and look after me and get my place sorted out and maybe feel better.

I would go for just a hint. If someone likes you and wants you they won't only be interested in your cleavage.

I need hugs.

Lots of hugs to you. Look after yourself.

Thank you. Its so quiet without him here, another friend has been on the phone think someone has had words with my other friends

snape - well done on the weight loss thats alot in 2 months, share your secret how have you done it?

MLM - sorry to hear you are feeling crap, I know how that feels

ah - no fool like an old fool

I just logged onto okc to delete my account, ive not been on it since, fuck knows, months ago, possibly after date 3. Thought i wouldnt check when he had last logged in, but did. guess what - it was only a few days ago.

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i am a fucking idiot, taken in hook like and sinker.

fucks sake.
:(

hurt doesnt begin to cover it.

And not being one to hold back when I have something to say, ive just told him I just went to delete my okc... When I saw he had logged in a few days ago. And that I must be very silly to have made assumptions about us.

Wankbadger.

Oh no watch, I'd be confused and hurt too.

But ... he seems so into you. I mean, the weekend away camping, meeting his mum, how affectionate he is, etc. Could there be an innocent explanation? I don't know how OKC works, but, for example, do they send you an e-mail if someone sends you a message? Could he have logged in to reply to someone and told them that he's now seeing someone? (I've done this before). Or am I clutching at straws?

Have you spoken to him about it and asked for an explanation?

Oh shit :(

No, no, no, watch that means nothing he could be responding to a message from someone to be polite and say he isn't interested, he could be compulsively taking the tests, he could have been on for any number of reasons; let's face it you popped in to delete your account, he could have done the same, seen you were still active on the site and decided to leave his account open...

You need to ask him, because you're making up worst possible case scenarios. :)

Oh flying cross posts of doom!

What does he have to say for himself? !

Yes,ive just sent the above text to him.

And he seems into me, but fuck, men have been known to lie.

Fucks sake, cant believe ive been taken for such a Fucking idiot.

The day he logged in was the day I met his mother, we had s really.nice day, spent all day together ( not yesterday, but the Sunday before) fuck that!!! He spent all day with me, had sex, I met his mother, then he loggs into okc.

Fucker.

of course there can be an innocent explanation!
Watch, dont be daft you are jumping without good reason to the worst possible conclusion, the fact that a person has logged into a dating site doesnt mean anything at all

As well as my not so good message there, I am trying to remember when Mr Nice and I both deleted our OK Cupid accounts. Maybe about 6 weeks ago or so? Both of us still had them and I know that although I had no urge in any way to chat with anyone else let alone meet anyone else I was still looking a bit and also doing the daft tests. I generally looked at his profile too and would usually see that he had logged in at some time over the past few days as well but he also had nearly always looked at my profile so I felt fine. Then one day he had logged in and hadn't looked at my profile and it suddenly bothered me. He had had a message from someone and logged in to look at it.

I talked to him and said it suddenly did bother me and then we both deleted our accounts together. Please do talk to him.

He hasn't replied yet.

I would call him. But as I caht talk due to massive throat infection ( Been to docs today - he was coming round tomorrow to look after me). I can't actually talk

Oh, hes replied, saying hes not talking to anyone else on there, or anywhere and hasn't since we first met. That hes not like that, and why would he spend so much time with me if he was doing that.

I don't even know if I want to argue.

Cockfuckerarsehole

Well he has a point...

..he logged in for whatever reason after you had sex and you met his mum. He hasn't logged in since, this just brings up the exclusivity/ is this a (gasp!) relationship discussion, so have the conversation and then believe him or not, but you can't live your life and you can't conduct relationships without trusting people because of the past because whoever caused you to lack trust keeps winning if you can't trust people who seem to be really, really into you.