Success, standards and still holding out for Johnny Depp...dating thread 18

[ChaoticismyLife]

Forget the olympics...we're aiming for dating gold.

Only the best is good enough.

As you were....:)

(said with love, etc)

Watch you also logged on.. better to have a chat about it than jumping to conclusions .. good luck!! x

Snape, no offence taken and of course that makes sense.

but

Why would you/ anyone log into a dating site for no reason. Ive not logged in since the 3rd date, if he had logged in he would see that I hadn't.

I don't want to be with someone who thinks its ok to take me out for the day, Fuvk me, introduce me to his mother, then check out other women online.

I logged on to delete my account. Have been meaning to do it for a while..the last time I logged in had been May!!!

watch - how long have you been seeing each other? Sorry to hear that he has logged on, but does seem like he really likes you.

Watch I was logging on occasionally up until whenever I did delete my account. I think it's an all right thing to do - but this is about what's OK for you. But did Mr L know that you hadn't logged onto it at all and did he know how important it is to you?

If he isn't talking to anyone else on OKC, then why is he there?

Presuming he is checking out other women, then does he know that is a potential deal breaker for you?

Can you rationalise that he is looking, but may have no intention of contacting them, because he's happy with you, or do you assume he is OKC because he's looking for someone 'better' than you, which might be more about your self confidence than what he is or isn't doing?

watch he could have been looking to see if you were still logging on too. Maybe look and see in a few days time if he has logged on again since. I spoke to a nice guy on POF, I sent the first message, I got a message back saying that course we could chat but nothing else would happen because he had a girlfriend now. I admired his honesty and we chatted occasionally for a while. I never even thought to ask why he still logged on, but was obviously innocent.

Well, I have had tonight's date (very little cleavage but pretty top btw) - worst one yet. Very hard work, guy wanted to chat about his "impressive" lifestyle, ex-wife and bitumen . . . Made excuse of new and young babysitter so I could leave early.

Okay, who can help me about yesterday's guy? We left it we would meet up again but I told him I had babysitter problems this week, which I do as my two usuals are away on holiday and I can't ask this new girl again so soon. He texted me 15 mins after the end of the date to say he'd enjoyed my company, I texted back to say ditto - so, can I message him via the website again now/tomorrow or should I just leave it for him to come back to me next? I have no idea of the etiquette of this sort of thing! He was really nice, and I would genuinely like to see him again . . .

Text and say it would be good to see you again.

He knew I wasn't logging on, I had told him.
He called me and we have just had a massive epic phone conversation.

He said he logged on because he got a new match email thing sent and he thought he recognised the person. Can understand it from my point of view, was very sorry, said he felt sick when he got that text from me.

Anyway, lots of honesty on both parts, some things that needed saying were said, conversation Bout feelings, what we are doing etc....think we are ok. Hes coming round tomorrow night still..

Moving forward, ive been seeing him 10/11?? Weeks..

Glad you talked to him and that he's coming round tomorrow night.

watch I am glad you are getting it sorted. You seem less angry now. News from me, I no longer feel about to burst into tears, a friend magically came over obviously nothing to do with my other friend who took little man to see if I was okay, and share a chat and some chocolate. It was what I needed.

Yes but hes def mr right now as opposed to anything else.
He's trying to move to London, so job/ flat hunting with his best friend. But not actually getting anywhere. He had hoped to go Sept/ oct time, but doesn't think that's likely as he's not even getting.interviews.
He's also tried before, but failed.

He said he didn't know what to do about us, but we talked and decided to just take it as it comes.

watch - glad you had a chat, so do you live far from london? As it might be possible to still see him if/when he leaves. Is he quits young? As I remover you saying he lives with his mum!

Well I still can't believe my sisters next door neighbour didn't reply to my message, I think that's quite rude even if I didn't fancy someone I would still reply to be polite! (as in real life people not online)

Well he obviously isn't worthy of you then.anyway moving

I have woken up feeling much better, a nice lie in was needed and chance to get some things done is great. I will be eternally grateful to my friends though one only popped in for half hour really to check on me I love them.

Moving: Just erase it from your mind, if you can. IME men just dont reply in the majority of cases. Ive sent loads of messages and rarely do I get a reply. Many men dont think of politeness. You now know the neighbour isnt polite enough to send you a thanks but no thanks message.

Watch: Im glad you are back on the track. In some way its possibly a good thing he has told you about potentially going to London. It means you can disconnect slightly knowing there may be a different future.

I think many men log onto dating sites because they can and they are bored or their egos want to know how many messages they get. It doesnt necessarily mean they will follow it up with an action but its also best to be wary in case its indicitive of underlying behaviours.

Ok I went a bit crazy and turned all bunny boiler after 3 dates - really how mental I was being and decided to return to earth :-)

He seems a good bloke and surely he wouldn't keep arranging dates and texting me if wasn't interested so I'm going to relax on the whole thing and go with the flow.

4th "date" tonight, we're going for a walk and a KFC. Keeping it simple till the weekend :-D

I have date three tonight :) and he wants to come over next week end to cook for us and watch a dvd.

Meanwhile certain people are still trying to set me up. Why do my friends and friends of friends think I can't get myself someone I CAN!!!

How did it go Miracles?

I had date 4 tonight. Went for dinner and then a rainy walk - talked loads and he tells me he wants to 'go out' with me in the exclusive way. This is great as I like him a lot - however I'm becoming slightly concerned at the amount in which he talks about his ex wife. Past two dates now he's gone into great detail about her, how hurt he was over it, what she liked/didn't like, what she did in her spare time - even her childhood. I know it's relevant sometimes to talk about exs but I know he's had one relationship break up due to him not being over his ex wife so I'm going to keep an eye on this. Next date in Friday night - if he starts on about her again I'm going to have to say something.

On another note, does anyone want a date for Saturday night in the Hull area? I know of a lovely man who really wants to go to a festival thing but has no date! he's 39.

It went really well actually. I have woken a happy bunny. I am finally getting somewhere dating.

I have had someone ask me today to be "their girl" its not the same person as i plan on date number four with

Did you shag him yet?