Success, standards and still holding out for Johnny Depp...dating thread 18

[ChaoticismyLife]

Forget the olympics...we're aiming for dating gold.

Only the best is good enough.

As you were....:)

you're being silly. [wet fish] you know it isnt casual, you've had the exclusivity chat, that kind of leads to you being a couple. you're going on holiday, that isn't casual. he mows your lawn. that's practically code for time choosing her hat.

oh. well.
but thats all still an assumption, isnt it. i just dont want to be hurt and look like a tit when it all goes wrong.

im not going to ask him, i shall instead flirt round the edges and hope he says something, which he wont do, because hes male, and men dont pick up on hints.

What are you wanting him to say, exactly Watch? Actions speak louder than words and even I can see that MrLovelys actions are saying 'relationship'. I would be more worried if he was all sweet talk and no actions. Is there something about the relationship that is making you feel insecure? Let's nail this thing!

Snape I am so sorry to read what happened to you, but honestly, it sounds like he did you a favour. His actions proved what an absolute tosser he is!

watch he might not have introduced you as a girlfriend as it sounds slightly patronizing to say that about a woman. How actions made it clear you were a couple. Try not to over think it. --says she having no idea what to wear later. Maybe what I am wearing now? Dunno. I overthink things too. I want to look stunning but not as my friend put it "scream sex" I don't think my dress does.

As for the introductions, if he had not bothered to introduce you at all, then you would have had something to worry about, that fact he introduced you by name, is nice Nothing wrong with that at all.

i dont know time. I think im wanting to know where i stand a little bit, but his actions are telling me, you are right. Words are cheap, i know from how he is being. And i had a fab day sunday, it was really, really lovely. Then of course he showed me his guitars that he makes, which was a big deal as hes never shown anyone before.
One of the people he introduced me to was standing with a girl, and he didnt introduce her at all, in fact she may as well been invisible, so i supose on that note you are right.
The second one we were in this guitar stall thing at this vintage market, mrl was playing one and then someone he knew was also doing that, so we hung out abit... and he shook my hand, made a joke that we have the same name thing, etc.. etc.../

You know what I think? And you are going to deny it, run a mile from it, when I say it, but I think you have feelings for MrLovely, feelings which run quite deep, I think you have hit upon something special and you are loving it, and you don't want it to end, or there be any chance that it might end soon, because it's good and it makes you happy, so, you really would like some sort of verbal commitment from MrLovely that he is on the same page, that he is feeling the same, so that you can relax and enjoy it, throw yourself into it a little bit more, without these little niggles bothering you.

If this is how you are feeling, than it is understandable, it shows how much you care about him and what you have together. BUT, from where I am sitting there really is nothing for you to worry about. MrLovely is investing in you, both physically and emotionally, no man takes a woman to meet his mother unless he is sure of her, sure she will do him proud in front of his mother and also get his mothers approval, same with mates, he wouldn't introduce into his circle of friends if he wasn't sure of you. I don't for one minute think MrLovely is a fly by night, I think you should try your very best to relax and enjoy everything you have got with him, trust him. Trust yourself too, to know that if you want this relationship to be a keeper, it will be.

I could be wrong though, it has been known

ooooh time is goooood.

I suspect Watch may deny she is a little bit in love has deep feelings for MrLovely because admitting such feelings leaves a person open to being hurt. BUT, fearing getting hurt and looking like a ninny is the best indicator that one does in fact have deep feelings for a person.

Snape what a tosser. Sounds like you are well rid. Did he actually say he was going for a sh1t, or just to the toilet? If the first, definitely TMI...

yes, yes she is.
You are probably right :)

it was an accidental mother meeting though. not a planned one. he asked if i wanted to come in and see his guitars, i said yes. He knew his mother was at home..... and then she came in the garage to get something out of the freezer.
So - not planned, but he knew she was there and it was possible we would meet i supose.

But yes, what i would like to know, is that we are on the same page, so i can relax into it and not be wondering about stuff.

Watch, he has probably been talking about you with everyone, so he didn't need to give you a qualification.
Or, he may well have not felt sure enough of himself to call you his girlfriend. As you are not.

It seems like you are, though.

On a different note, mr VN thanked me today for popping by. :)
I thought he was good with DS, which is a good sign. But no too interested, iykwim...

no, im not in love with him...!!!! ( haha, you said i woiuld deny it, but im really not)
But i do like him alot. Im very fond of him, that is probably the best word.

watch I agree completely with time and you might deny it but we all know really.

Although I am over thinking what to wear later, I don't feel nervous, no stomach flips or anything. Not sure if that's a good thing. I am looking forward to a night cuddled up on the sofa though. All wrapped up. I don't need sex at the moment just four dates to get through before I can assuming he wants to keep seeing me

The 'meeting of mother' may not have been as accidental as you think Mothers don't miss a trick! She may well have known you were in the garage.

Look, talk to him. Don't be afraid of what you are thinking and feeling and don't be afraid of what you might hear. Your head is filling in the gaps anyway, and not in a very positive way, so what can be the harm in talking to him? Unless it really is case of you are scared of hearing that he isn't on the same page as you? The thing is, this 'I'm not going to ask him' is causing a stumbling block, because until you know you are going to be constantly looking for signs that he is on the same page as you, you are going to be drawing your own conclusions and they might not always be right, which means you are in danger of upsetting the applecart. If you really are intent on not discussing things with him, them put it out of your head, stop thinking about it and just enjoy the relationship for what it is right now. Because if you don't, you are going to stop yourself from enjoying it.

I know you are going to have a light panic attack at the thought of discussing things with him, I can see you shaking your head as I type but, it is the mature thing to do. Lack of communication is the worst thing for a relationship.

And, don't forget that MrLovely will be thinking much the same as you, he won't exactly want to get hurt or make a tit of himself either.

And don't forget he has already upset you once, he may be very wary of doing so again and so be treading very carefully. He may well be waiting for signals from you before he acts.

True he could be unsure how you would feel about him calling you his girlfriend. Think someone needs to have a chat.

yes, i expect his mother saw and came running in on purpose. lol. i know i would if it were me!
;)

time you speak so much sense, and know im sitting here shaking my head. i cant say anything, its difficult. Maybe when we are away this weekend i might drop in the being set up in a few weeks by friends thing, and that i dont want to be.... and see what he says...

but of course what i would really like is for him to say something. which is what im waiting for. of course, he might be waiting for the same!!

well he said he was going to use the toilet, but I was presuming a #2 as he was so long - but no one spends 40 minutes in teh loo unless they have a serious medical problem.

watch I think you should buy yourself one of these and wear it until he comments on it. :)

hahahahahaha. hahahahaa :)
yes. i should.
:)

what if he did have a proper problem and came out and you had gone!
( obviously this is tongue in cheek)
have you seen if hes been online since?

No Watch, just no! I can't agree to you doing the 'drop in being set up by friends' thing. That's not a nice thing to do, even if you do tell him you don't want to be set up. That will force his hand, and he may react out of feelings of jealousy. Or, he may pretend to be more chilled about it and give you permission to be set up. It could go terribly wrong.

I don't think there is anything wrong with you telling him you have really enjoyed the last 2 months, that being with him has made you feel differently about being in a relationship, and take it from there. It's an open statement, it's not a declaration or anything but it leads you into a mutual discussion.

What if he is still sat on the toilet Snape? Maybe he was shouting for toilet paper for an hour, but nobody heard him OR, OR, maybe he expected you to follow him for bathroom shenanigans!!

bugger, you are right again!!

no, that would be mean, and maybe make him think im not interested.
shit, im going to have to say something along those lines, arent i.
( i can still put it off till we are away though, yes?)

the only thing is, what if already thinks that is what we are doing, and then i then look like a tit?

I did contemplate texting him at half eight or so 'are you going to be much longer? it's getting dark and cold...'

oh, boak. the thought of a quickie in the gents with catweazle. how romantic, the smell of urinals and effulence...

watch i agree with time... just because i do. If the necklace is a little easy to ignore, how about this? or this? with these...

Yes. You. Are. Well, if you want to know then you have to do the work! Yes, you can wait until you are away, that would be a nice time to bring it up, in a nice way.

If he already thinks that is what you are doing then that's great. You won't look a tit, and even if you do, so what? It's no big deal, you will get over it