His 'holidays' in bloody Thailand

[NotSoEdenRoc]

Name change.

I'm single. I've been involved in an on/off fairly casual thing with this guy for 3 years.He goes to the Far East about 4 times a year. Turns out that he goes to Bangkok and somewhere else in Thailand...I've only just found this out, he's never mentioned Thailand usually says he's going to Malaysia and/or Singapore but doesn't talk about his trip when he gets back home.

Can there be any innocent reason why a single man in his mid 40's goes to Bangkok 4 times a year ? On his own? And if it's all innocent (yea yea) why not just tell me the truth about where he goes?

I know I need to get checked for STI's. I am going to die of embarassment a woman of my age going in there, are these clinics full of 16 year olds?

But my main question here is, would anyone else feel like I do? I feel like I've lost all respect for him as a man. He's a horrible repulsive creature doing this. I feel dirty myself. I feel as if he must hate women.

ooo, fill us in on what she says, OP < nosy >

It may be as simple as support being offered. She's gone through it so she knows how you're feeling and wants to tell you that you get through it. That's best possible scenario, but as this has gone via a friend of yours I doubt that she has anything bad in mind.

See her if you're curious or still feeling shell shocked. You can always walk away.

There is an Android app that can block numbers, Eden, I'll see if I can find out what it is. I have a colleague who has it installed. In the meantime, does this help?

Don't you worry about what anyone else is saying, of course it's your fault he lied

Sanity android app - the reviews are not stellar, my friend says it's not too easy to use.

She may well just want to be kind, or perhaps to be able to speak to someone herself, and get it off her chest. She may have heard her ex was seeing you and may have wanted to warn you but maybe decided to wait until she got wind of problems in the interests of not butting in and looking like the typical 'bitter' ex wife..

Well that was interesting. Just spent nearly two hours with his exW. She is a lovely person. math you were right, she wanted to get things off her chest. It seems she blamed herself for a long time for his behaviour - why do we women do that? Do men do that? I don't think they do. Anyway, in a way I think she feels validated knowing that he's still doing it. She said she never found any evidence that he was into underage..she found plenty of things in his search history before and after his trips but nothing like that. Oh and by the way did we all know that there are websites where these guys 'rate' the prostitutes they've used? A bit like buying something from Amazon. I mean WTF is that all about. They share contact details for the girls and descriptions -age, hair colour, breast size, and what the girls 'speciality' is. His wife said she found comments he'd shared about the most intimate details. The girls he was talking about match up exactly with what he told me he was into.

Anyway, that's that for me.
Thanks for the help with blocking my phone. He hasnt tried to contact me again so far. I will look into that app if he does. Thanks tribpot.

I'd better get stuck into some work. I've been working at home this week and have hardly got anything done what with going to the clinic venting my anger to my friends, posting here, etc etc . Time to get back to work!

If you have the latest Android version, 4.0 (also called ICS) you just select the number in your contact list, press the left button and you will see the option 'add to reject list'.

Yes, Roc some of us do know about the "prozzie rating" sites. Charming eh ? Any man that uses them is a fucking shit person who sees women as a piece of meat.

Were you also aware that women go on those sites too ? Prostituted women have to suck up to guys like this to get business. And some people would say prostitution isn't harmful to women, it's simply a financial transaction < give me fucking strength >

This site was trolled by such charming men with their sad and deluded female hangers-on not too long ago. It was one of the worst things I have ever seen on here.

I didn't know about the rating sites. [vomit] and [boak] I think I'd rather have googled things MN tells me not to.....

You're well out of it.

I didnt know about these rating sites either. im horrified. Well done on getting rid of this absolute slug OP. I send you good thoughts and best wishes.

there are even rating sites for men who prefer to have sex with prostitutes who are being held against their will - slavery basically, because they find this gives them an extra kick. Women tricked into prostitution with lies or abducted and sold to brothels. I can't remember the term these men used for women held in sex slavery now but they are very clear about it on these sites. There is no doubt at all. There is a lot of horrible, murky stuff in the sex trade and shocking how much of it is ignored or tolerated. Imagine it was you or your dd

Those rating sites shouldn't come as any surprise. The punters see themselves as connoisseurs of a product and see the women as a collection of body parts, orifices, etc., not as humans with any connection whatsoever, biological, emotional or spiritual, to themselves.

whorist.com. that was one of my exH's favourite sites. Nice to discover that in the weeks after he left me and our baby.

They are not men, they are barely human. They are a disgusting breed of sexual abusers and predators.

I hope the Thai nation is very proud of itself for allowing its young women and children to be continually abused, used and often left pregnant by such men as my ex husband and your ex-boyfriend Op.

Shameful.

Wow well done you!! I once unearthed a creep too. Not as bad as this but it makes you sick to your feet. I dumped him after my big reveal

Good luck with the rest of the test results.

OMFG...how do we know that all or most men aren't like this? I don't think I'll ever trust another man as long as I live.

ah, 'course you will

and no, most men are not like this

you've been unlucky

and not such a bad thing to not fully trust someone you are in a casual realtionship, surely ?

with

particularly charming
www.worldsexguide.com/forum/showthread.php?49172-sneaking-away-for-a-quicky-from-fat-aussie-gf

AF it's not that I 'trusted' him as far as other women is concerned.He was a free agent. So was I. He could have been sleeping with 10 different women every week as far as I was bothered. But I trusted him in the sense that I thought he was a normal bloke.Not a dirty, abusive, predatory pig.
Or maybe none of them are what I think is normal?

Reading these sites, it seems like these guys treat this just like a hobby. What happened to train spotting and stamp collecting?!

Let's not put loads of links to these sites on here.

I know that I linked to one, to show the depraved sites these depraved men can go to to abuse and predate on women. But let's not start posting loads of others. They make me feel ill and who knows who looks at MN threads with the word 'Thailand' in them.

I hate my exH for the legacy he has left my son - my beautiful (poorly) boy - growing up to learn eventually that his father went to thailand to have copious amounts of sex with prostitutes and she-males.

What a disgusting individual.

I will never have sex again now and can't even 'pleasure myself', because he has left me feeling so violated and sick to my core; to think that he 'made love' to me as my 'husband' and I believed him. Puke.

I'm sorry Unlikely. I don't know your story as I've only been on MN for about 6 mos but I've gleaned a few details here on the thread. I didn't want to upset you of course.
Let's leave it there.