His 'holidays' in bloody Thailand

[NotSoEdenRoc]

Name change.

I'm single. I've been involved in an on/off fairly casual thing with this guy for 3 years.He goes to the Far East about 4 times a year. Turns out that he goes to Bangkok and somewhere else in Thailand...I've only just found this out, he's never mentioned Thailand usually says he's going to Malaysia and/or Singapore but doesn't talk about his trip when he gets back home.

Can there be any innocent reason why a single man in his mid 40's goes to Bangkok 4 times a year ? On his own? And if it's all innocent (yea yea) why not just tell me the truth about where he goes?

I know I need to get checked for STI's. I am going to die of embarassment a woman of my age going in there, are these clinics full of 16 year olds?

But my main question here is, would anyone else feel like I do? I feel like I've lost all respect for him as a man. He's a horrible repulsive creature doing this. I feel dirty myself. I feel as if he must hate women.

Sorry unlikely but I think it was educating for the op. These aren't just risqué experiences, the talk is of commodities and their view on these women and their existing relationships (for want of a better word) are just vile.

Are you receiving counselling for yourself? You are entitled to a fulfilling relationship, what you had with your husband wasn't a full and loving one.

I hope you find some peace and happiness. You sound like an amazing dignified person. Your son will be a credit to you and you alone. X

I think also the heightened risk of Very serious STI's would be my main anger,

any prostitution, of course carries those risks but in some countries its worse,

I may have said this before but yeah get yourself tested.

Binfull, I agree it's educating. I did a LOT of research after my ex had gone to Thailand.

I got to read some incriminating stuff he was writing himself about what he was getting up to and had a long conversation with a very young and probably underage Cambodian prostitute he had been using, for whom I felt profoundly sorry.

It was all very educating and eye-opening indeed and helped me to realise that I was in no way to blame for him leaving.

But I wouldn't want to post all the research on this thread!

As for counselling, no I don't need counselling. I am an old lady and perfectly capable of living without sex. It makes life a whole lot less complicated!

jalan, I thought poverty would be the main reason why there is so much sex for sale in Thailand. Is that not the case in your opinion?

Larry, I don't know how any decent human being could use the phrase 'merely using adult prostitutes'.

Doesn't the word 'using' suggest to you that there is something unspeakable going on there?

Are you honestly suggesting that you or any other man could really tell the difference between a young Thai woman who was a minor and one who was 'legal' for the purposes of being 'used'?

Poverty is not the reason.

Greed on the part of the pimps is the reason. Like all business ventures, if the market is there, it will be exploited. The fantasy of a young, smiling, beautiful, subservient, uncomplicated, inscrutable Asian woman doing your bidding is one that keeps the customers interested, and the corruption of police and other officials ensures a steady profit with little risk.

Unless he is asking for proof if I.d. and a copy of her birth certificate how the hell would he know how old a prostitute is??? He has probably exploited children.

So knee capping is bad (although it was a turn off phrase and not to be taken literally) but raping children is ok.

AnyFucker -I salute you. Your last post was outstanding. Yes, it will be deleted but FWIW I agreed with every single word.

It was not a turn of phrase. She said she meant it seriously.

What is the difference between a pedophile and someone who 'merely uses' adult prostitutes, Larry?

Anyfucker, bloody well said, THANK YOU.

Will something be deleted if it is fair comment, and calling somebody on how they behave on a website?

And lol at the idea that kneecapping is so outrageous a proposition to you that you would report alleged incitement to kneecapping, while typing and posting a phrase like 'merely using adult prostitutes' that makes it clear this doesn't register as a problem for you.

Is prostitution something that you are ok with?

Do you think it is unspeakable?

What does your wife think of prostitution?

What does she think of men who 'merely use adult prostitutes'?

Maybe she could post her thoughts on this thread...