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3am - dilemma - no idea WHAT t think

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Dontknowwhatithink · 28/06/2012 03:15

Husband out tonight/last night at a "networking" thing with a client.

I last spoke to him early evening when he said he had been having communication problems with his phone all day (02 blackberry). He said there is a casino next to the hotel where they had meeting and that it looks like they would be going in to that ... And that he would be late. I joked saying that he'd need to not get carried away and to stick to a budget ...

So now at 2.45 am I wake and husband not home.

I check phone - email from him at just before midnight saying he was still having communication probs with phone - that clients are going onto "another" late night casino and that he was going with them. That client has an apartment nearby and he will crash there as he has an eat meeting with them in the morning.

Small backstory here in that my husband has tattoos - something he has always regretted and been very conscious of at golfing days etc when even in high summer he has ensured his tarts are covered up at all times so as not to give the wrong impression ....

To be honest I just don't know what to think - at this time in the morning it's easy to convince myself of any scenario!

I just don't know how to play things in the morning ....

OP posts:
magicmutt · 29/06/2012 18:58

Glad you are getting some RL support as well, OP. So sorry you are going through this.

Offred · 29/06/2012 19:26

What a horrible thing to happen op :(

ItsjustSue · 30/06/2012 10:46

Glad you have RL support.

Take your time and we are here if you need to vent in the small hours or whatever.

NewYearNewThinking · 18/01/2013 14:41

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forgetmenots · 18/01/2013 14:49

Bloody hell OP :(

Agree that you need to build a bolt fund and I think you've had some great advice here. I wouldn't be able to wait too long though, how it must make you feel having him around after what he has done.

See a solicitor ASAP.

SPBInDisguise · 18/01/2013 14:55

Op?

Ughfootballseason · 18/01/2013 15:45

Don't know if anyone else has suggested it but I'd draw cash from the credit cards up to their limits 24 hrs over several days before I confronted him.

He's liable for the immediate debt and as you're a cardholder what you are doing is perfectly legal. It will come off a joint debt in the divorce settlement but gives you cash as a backup in the short term.

Ughfootballseason · 18/01/2013 15:46

Agh zombie thread.

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