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The thread in which we all pray Johnny depp has signed up to POF - DATING THREAD 17!

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watchoutforthatsnail · 22/06/2012 10:05

Here we go again....

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MirandaWest · 06/07/2012 22:59

I am marking. It is dull.

Mr Nice is at some gathering of geeks somewhere. And has been drinking mead. I did say I was happy to have drunk texts and have had one where he felt he was slightly tipsy Grin. I do feel my Friday evening could be better in various ways but will focus on the money I am earning.....only another week or so to go thank goodness.

mercury7 · 06/07/2012 23:07

StillGetting I think alot of the difficulty arises from differing expectations of what level of texting is appropriate and/or desirable.

Really I prefer a lower level of texting, people who text too frequently can seem a bit 'needy' as if they have to have constant re assurance that you still like them

Lueji · 06/07/2012 23:21

Apparently, Mr Lawrence bought some new running shoes so he would start exercising again.

I take it as a sign that he has suddenly started worrying about his looks and possibly stamina. Wink

Low level texting is fine, at least to me, and I am put off by too much. But when making plans a timely answer is necessary. Otherwise, people who are too late may find that others have made other plans in the meantime. Just saying... Grin

StillGettingItWrong · 06/07/2012 23:39

I'm definately in the low-level camp - I just get annoyed at ten hours for an answer to a question...! Hmm

I went on a couple of dates recently with a guy who, by his own admission, was a bit needy. My god, the texts! Bang, bang, bang one after the other, it was TOO much. Made me appreciate Mr Right-Now who until that point I had down as "not that arsed". Turns out I prefer not that arsed...!

MyLittleMiracles · 07/07/2012 00:31

Too many texts and missed call after missed call does my head in. I would much rather be left alone. If I don't answer your text or your calls then I am either busy, pissed off at you or don't want to speak to you.

Totally unrelated, but I love being called baby girl, is that normal?
Maybe its cos of the person calling me it? We chat a lot and I love it, but its not message after message and call after call after call if I don't reply, he messages me or me him, and then waits for a reply. Not keep on and on. Grrr that does my head in

MrsGrey · 07/07/2012 08:46

hi.. I see I have lot of catching up as not been on for a week I think :(
yes needy texts put me off too... the text tI ask if they've said somethin wrong as you havnt replied yet... because im at work and can't be having my phone in all the time...
I have a little date this morning.. been chattin for a couple of weeks on POF then on what's app.. I'm quite excited about this one.. but will see what he's like in person before I get carried away... he's date number seen from POF so I'm hoping he's lucky number 7 :)

Lueji · 07/07/2012 09:03

Good luck, mrsGrey. :)

Meanwhile, Mr Shy is either too shy or a knob. I've sent a contact but he hasn't contacted me, but he keeps sending "likes" and hasn't replied to my last message.
I am inclined to tell him either to start contacting me properly or I'll block him.

mercury7 · 07/07/2012 10:31

oh yeah, the 'have i upset you' or 'are you ignoring me' text

even though I am a clusterfu(k when it comes to all things relationships i have never sent one of those.

MrsGrey · 07/07/2012 11:30

well date went well.. I didn't want to pin putty he had an old photo up. he looked older today.. and has greyish hair not jet black as on his picture. but he was still quite nice looking..
but I thought if parked in a free car park and got back to find a ticket onu car. I did t see the newly installed ticket machine 😒 so most expensive vfate I've been on yet!!!

MrsGrey · 07/07/2012 11:31

pin putty!! I meant point out!! autocorrect on phone

StillGettingItWrong · 07/07/2012 11:38

Aw no, can't believe you got a parking ticket! I went on a date recently where the last train home was cancelled - cost me 60 quid in a taxi Shock

MrsGrey · 07/07/2012 13:47

my lord my autocorrect !! I just completely reread my post lol..
the ticket is £45 if I pay within 5 days :( can't believe you had to pay £60!!

will teach me.. was cause I was never ou. I reckon I didn't see the new ticket machine :(

hatesponge · 07/07/2012 14:07

MrsGrey ouch, an expensive date!

I am currently waiting on a text from my potential date for today (my 2nd date...!). I may have to crack and text him first, this waiting around is boring Grin

StillGettingItWrong · 07/07/2012 14:18

What time is the date sponge?

hatesponge · 07/07/2012 15:44

Date is off he has tonsilitis...

Now have a Saturday night at home on my own :(

Lueji · 07/07/2012 16:06

Are you sure he doesn't need a nurse?

hatesponge · 07/07/2012 16:16
Grin

I've told him if he lived closer I'd bring him soup & icecream :) (only things I could eat when I had tonsilitis), shame he is over an hour away.

MyLittleMiracles · 07/07/2012 16:22

Oh sponge that sucks.
Mrs grey very expensive date.
Certain friends are match making so I have a coffee date on Monday. And erm yeah a couple of others.

raskolnikov · 07/07/2012 20:07

I think I need a slap.

I'm absolutely floored by having my photo taken - its getting to be more and more of a problem and I'm doing internet dating with photos that are ancient cos I hate hate hate it. I'm normally confident in RL and dress well and my friends tell me I look good and young for my age but I still feel awful every time I look at a camera and I hate the photos I do see of myself.

So I've now got chatting to a gorgeous bloke and its all going well and he's asked me for more photos - there's two on the site, one professionally taken about 3/4 years ago at an event and another I took myself which is dodgy. So what do I do now? I've even considered getting a photographer to take photos of me, but feel such a twat.

mercury7 · 07/07/2012 20:26

have you got some way of shooting a short video of yourself that you can take stills from?

I find that the best way to get flattering shots:)

raskolnikov · 07/07/2012 20:36

thanks for the suggestion mercury, not sure if my phone will do it, feel a bit of a plonker filming/taking photos of myself anyway, I'll have a go tho

AndLibbyMakesThree · 07/07/2012 21:06

Raskolnikov, I have the same problem with photos. I don't think I look that bad in real life, but I just hate recent photos of myself. They make me look so old and haggard! I'm thinking of trying internet dating again after a break of a few months, but the photo problem really puts me off!

mercury7 · 07/07/2012 21:31

try taking loads of snaps of yourself from different angles and in different places (to vary the light) then pick out the best ones

MyLittleMiracles · 07/07/2012 23:22

I dont really like my photo being taken either, though i took two of myself a couple of weeks back, and apparently i look "hot" which is good to know, apparently my ex has seen them somehow and apparently he thinks i look stunning like the girl he fell in love with, and wants to make our marriage work

BTW i took about 40, to get two decent ones and even then i didnt particularly like them,but there we go. I think i look much better in real life, i smile and my hair flaunts itself everywhere.

Lueji · 07/07/2012 23:43

Yeah, I'm the same. I don't photograph well.
But I get people lots of times tell me that I look younger, for example.

But agree with lots of photos. I scanned some I had of myself recently to find one to use that was not too bad.

And that's what professional photographers do. They take loads to select the next cover of Vogue. :o