Never had an orgasm

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Anyone else?

not even DIY?

Not until I met dh, or actually got a book- 'she comes first" to help!

Please don't laugh too much,,,,bless him.

He got the book.

Hatti - nope!

Have you tried a vibrator?

then you need a copy of a nancy friday book, some time alone and a good vibrator

Have you tried by yourself, can take a bit of practice. I second a vibrator if you are not having success.

think this is probably far more common than everyone thinks, just some women find it embarrassing to admit, like we should all be having mad passionate sex three times a week,this is rarely the case. To achieve orgasm means totally relaxing and letting go with your partner and some women find this hard to do,also it may take time and some women find issuing instructions "stay in that position"/do this/do that difficult. Try experimenting alone first so you know how it feels and what you like, I recommend a vibrator called the bullet from "Love Honey" website (all very discreet when it arrives in the post). Good luck x

Tressy yes I have tried several. Will try nancy Friday though.
Believe me I have tried everything I can think of have had many boyfriends and am happily married now. I have had a lot of sex but nothing works. I think I'm just one of those that it doesn't work for.

I had not had one untill 2 weeks ago! I'm 32.
I bought a Micro heated bullet vibrator, by California Exotix Novelties. Google it. I was stunned when it worked.
I am a changed woman!!!

I should name change really but me neither.

Did you say you've tried vibrators? I think it's unlikely nothing will work for you but I guess it happens.

I don't want this to sound like a daft question - but do you know where your clitoris is?

Agree, love honey is very discreet. Doc Johnson rabbits are good.

Just checked and its actually called the Whisper micro heated bullet vibrator.

Bumbums - i will look that up. why is it so much better than others?
Electic - yes i have quite a few.
Bumgrapes - yes i do know - but thanks for covering all bases!
Lollyheart - glad i'm not the only one!

Good luck with the recommended vibrator. Can you report back because I need a new one

bumbums - found it - are you in america? where did you get the recommendation from if you don't mind me asking?

will do tressy!

Sorry if this sounds obvious, but vibrators seem to be more effective for the majority of women when used around the clitoris and g spot, rather than penetration.

Try an electric toothbrush if vibes aren't doing it (not one that is used of course)

What about oral sex? Doesn't that work at all?

Taghain - nope! sorry. if anything i prefer hands and and sex to oral.
Chips - how do you use that?

Personally I don't orgasm from penetration (or didn't with ex...) but clitoral stimulation works pretty much every time.
Then I get the urge for penetration.

Ex was always good at doing me first. Shame about the rest.

I am quite sensitive and I don't need vibrators at all.
But it's all in the mind. Just having certain thoughts makes me almost orgasm.
And if I'm not in the right mood nothing works.

Maybe you need to explore your head rather than your genitals?

That's a good point, maybe you are very tactile sensitive and need something more delicate? Have you tried DIY with your underwear on? Sorry if tmi.