"I have said several times that I don't think it will protect me from rape full stop but if a rapist is targeting a woman walking home alone drunk then it will protect me from him."
That is bullshit Bumbley and I will try once again to explain why although I think it is a very pointless endeavour right now.
A rapist does not target "women who ... insert any crap criteria you want here".
He targets A woman. A particular woman and then he looks for some vulnerability which he can exploit, rely on or act upon. Rape is a power game and THAT seems to be the one thing you do not seem to be capable of grasping. Please speak to some blokes on what they think of sex and power.
The woman being drunk is not what made her easier prey compared to you, the sober one. He NEVER saw you is why you got home safe (even if he were standing right in front of you, looking right at you, no matter how pretty you think you look)!!! And not because he was looking for the easiest catch.
If he DID see you, then you can bet your bottom dollar, he doesn't give a hoot about the drunk babe even if she is lying in the dark alley, with her dress rolled up which he just walked into.
If he can find anything, absolutely anything to use to get you, he will even if it takes days or weeks. Does that help you recognise why saying that staying sober offers more protection to anyone is a complete fallacy?
It offers no protection WHATSOEVER. Please try to understand that! It is the exact equivalent of living in a glass house with the best burglar alarm connected to the fastest response police force in the world.
Being sober makes YOU feel safe. It does NOT make you safe.
And it IS victim blaming because "If you were that chick, you would have known better than to get in that state" is the exact corollary of what you are saying and it also shortens or equates to "the passed out chick should have known better".
That is total and complete shite. The guy who put his dick in her when she was comatose should have known better. I know definitely what I would think of my husband, father, brother, son or co-worker if they put their penis in a drunken woman and you know that too!!! It is they who should have known better for crying out loud!
I know you are the voice of a silent mass of people. But there are also another silent mass who have to put up with their mother's guilt for not telling their precious daughters to have behaved better... No mate. Your daughter will need a mother who understands that dicks don't get placed randomly more than she will need your flipping misguided guilt.
Like sport, I advocate being sober because, after being drunk a few times and being able to compare the morning after feeling, I prefer the healthy feeling of being sober. I also feel the "reassurance" of a sober night out but I am not delusional as to the actual benefits of it.
I have never / not yet been raped and my heart goes out to all those survivors out there. My sister's friend was raped in broad daylight, near a busy street, and the reaction of the authorities was appalling. It was a Sunday, the police were off duty and told her to come back the following day. WTF? I am glad things have changed. And before you ask (as only a victim blamer would) No, she wasn't drunk or wearing some skimpy clothes or some other rat-arsed "what bad girl thing could she have been possibly up to to warrant the attack" yada yada yada something about the raped person must have been off bla-di-bla crap.
Try to understand what victim blaming is, then take a good look in the mirror and realise that IT could actually happen to YOU. And instead of flying off in fright to lock yourself in, stand up and fight for yourself, your daughters, sisters, aunts, mothers and girl friends.