To think my husband is a cunt?

[dawnpreview]

After yet another row, in which I am told I do nothing round the house as all I do is stay home and look after the kids. I just heard him shouting at the dog and saying to it 'you're a dickhead just like the rest of them'. How nice that he thinks that of his wife and kids :(
Just went down and let him know I had heard him, and got told 'well it's true, none of you listen to me'
I am sat here in tears now, as I am just so fed up of everything being my fault and him never taking responsibility for any of it.
I know he works hard, and fully support him in all he does. But with 4 year old twins to look after, I don't exactly sit on my arse all day. I do absolutely everything with the kids. He never puts them to bed, gives them a bath, reads a bedtime story, cooks their meals, spends time alone with them- all apparently because he works and I don't, so it's my job.
As I said, I know he works hard and long hours etc, but surely other dads make some time to occasionally put their kids to bed/read a story etc. Or do they not? Maybe this is normal?
Sorry this is a bit long and waffly, I am just so angry and upset I needed to 'talk' to someone. Thanks for reading.

[ExhaustedDad]

Thanks for your time
Now you can thank me for mine
After that's said
forget.

ciao

[BoreOfWhabylon]

Base-jumping mumsnet-infiltrators?!!

[LtEveDallas]

do you think you would have became the "breadwinner" when the children were first born? Or only now 8 years ago

I did become the breadwinner when the children was first born. DD is 8. DH has been a SAHD since she was 6 mths old.

I questioned your statement about you 'not having the option' to be a SAHD, being 'educated only to be the breadwinner'. DH is only a few years younger than you but he was obviously better educated then.

[KatieScarlett2833]

Do you think we are your employees? Now we can thank you?
For what, exactly, your time?
Did anyone ask for you to resurrect this thread?
You weirdo

[BoreOfWhabylon]

Italian base-jumping Mumsnet-infiltrators

[BerylStreep]

He sounds a bit under the weather.

[Bumpsadaisie]

Why wouldn't he want to read his kids a story? They're his children for goodness sake! Doesn't he want them to remember cosy stories with dad when they're older?

When my DH gets home he takes over with stories and bedtime. I go downstairs and tidy up which is more of a drudgery job but I actually enjoy the time alone and being able to get it done without the kids under my feet. And DH is delighted to see the kids whereas by that time I am running out I steam with them.

It's a win win for us both. I go up for cuddles and song once DH has done jamas and story.

[TantrumsAndBalloons]

"Winning is living"

Well you didn't win here ED...are you dead now?

[quoteunquote]

This guy is ringing bells,

I'm on my phone so can't look him up easily

Did you contribute to a radio 4 program recently ed?

And do you have a book out?

Something about user wives and the unfairness of the gender roles?

[ExhaustedDad]

LtEveDallas

I certainly had the option, although being raised in the outback blokes were meant to be blokes.
When earning well above the norm per yr. it is hard to give it up.
Unfortunately my beautiful wife cant earn same so she is the SAHP.
But of course has the option to entertain any paid or unpaid venture she wishes.

Obviously your salary betters the hubbie, and his "better" education didn't find him on more negotiable terms of contract. Being as he is better educated than myself, if he ever needs employment drop me a post. Never no when we need a new CEO.

In approx 92% of situations where families have SAHD it is a Monetary driven decision.

[ExhaustedDad]

didn't I?

[Whatalotofpiffle]

What a prat.

[sunshine401]

YANBU to feel greatly annoyed and unappreciated, yabu to call him a "see you next Tuesday". Horrible word.

You need to have very harsh words with him and tell him how you are feeling. Open up to each other, clearly you both feel unappreciated right now.
Do it asap before it carries on building up and destroys your relationship.

[TantrumsAndBalloons]

Clearly not.

If you had won we would all be posting "what a wonderful, insightful, coherent, perfect man ED is



Nope. Sorry

[LtEveDallas]

Well my 'bloke' certainly is a 'bloke' - spending 22 years in the Army certainly qualifies him for that moniker.

He doesn't need to go back to work - the pension is more than adequate thanks, as will mine be

He chose to be at home with DD - he wanted to watch her grow and have more time with her. He was educated well enough to know that it doesn't have to be the woman at home, and that his contribution to our family was worth more than a wage. Money isn't everything you know.

[CherylTrole]

ED you give me the creeps.

[AnyFucker]

I hope I am going to feature in ExhaustedDad's research. I would think I wasn't doing my job properly if I didn't

[YoniTime]

How strange - this thread is from 2012.

[NamelessMcNally]

I don't think you will AF as you are clearly not a lady what with being a fucker.

[AnyFucker]

bugger

[UptownFunk00]

Cunts are useful, your husband clearly isn't.

Everything the OPs have said.

He is really not worth the tears as he doesn't care. If it was my DH id get rid let's face it he does nothing so you wouldn't notice the difference for your own esteem.

[Amberk34]

I’m in your boat entirely my husband thinks the same of me and my daughter. I was fooling myself into thinking he would get better once we married, I was soooooo wrong. He’s a thousand times worse and can not even respect me now I’m pregnant. I’ve been married since July and I’m already considering divorce. I have no idea what to do. He makes me feel so alone and isolated. I’ve never felt so pathetic and worthless and knowing before I met him o was such a strong confident woman but now I amount to nothing. I’m under therapy but nothing seems to help and I’ve got a baby on the way. I’m starting to think that every man is a prick to some extent.

[Haffiana]

Amber, you need to start a new thread. This one is 6 years old. Many people will only read the first post before answering.