Do you think he will hurt me?

[singlemum2012]

I am newly and unexpectedly single, separated for a while but ex-dh only moved out 6 months ago so I am fairly new to dating. Ex-dh was first boyfriend so not very experienced.

Have started seeing this guy. Sex is fantastic, we began the relationship as a friends with benefits thing as he is a bit younger than me and doesn't want kids, fine with me and scratches an itch till I find someone more suitable for long-term. But this guy is a bit of an oddball and has been doing more and more things and I can't figure out whether he is not safe to be around or just messing with me. I only see him on weekends when I don't have my kids, he has never been to my house and does not even know my address.

A couple of times he has hidden behind the bathroom door so when I come out it makes me jump. Another time I was coming out of the bathroom and he was brandishing a hammer. He said he was putting up pictures, and there were pictures on the floor, but he never got around to it and I didn't see any nails, I just had the feeling he was doing it on purpose to scare me. He has cooked for me twice and both times has loaded the meals with as much fat as he possibly can, food fried in stupid amounts of lard, with gold top milk and cream and alcohol added. He told me one of his girlfriends put on two stone in six months when she lived with him. He's skinny and I noticed he ate less than half of his portion. He makes a big deal over the fact that he likes offal, raw meat and black pudding and is a huge attention seeker, when I am with him he is really wearing, he wants my attention all of the time, even keeping me awake most of the night and not letting me sleep. If it wasn't for the fabulous sex I would have run, would like to stay for this but I can't figure out whether he is a harmless attention-seeker pretending to be a dark and dangerous guy or whether he is actually dangerous. He drinks like a fish as well, has no friends (he says), wears black all the time and has decorated his house with weapons (he has good job and own house). He texts me all the time when I am not with him. I feel I don't have enough experience to evaluate him...my head says run but my heart wants the attention / the intimacy / the great sex.

Your opinions please??

Am I too late AGAIN?

The OP has clearly been dating my cat. Is his name Oscar? (Of course he could be using a pseudonym.)

SGB, nah he was a Brummie. Which is even worse when you think about it. "Alroight? Me name's Woluf Choild ay it? I'm a doirect descendent of that Geronnimow ay I? faggots and paes f'tea bab?"

Wasn't Ian Astbury a brummie? He was another Wolfchild (and incontinent due to overdoing the recreational substances, as I used to frequently point out to my mate who fancied him...)

Oi.

I am married to a Jeremy whose father puts in place large infrastructure projects that open up lands to the West and provide employment for indigents.

Oh dear.

If so he's clearly not the Jeremy I'm thinking of

Erm, am I the only person who thinks that sex with a person who is a bit of an oddball can sometimes be the most exciting sort? I'm not saying you shouldn't run like the wind though. Relationships with people like that run their course as you start to put up with less. There comes a time when you look back at them fondly but from afar.

I think I have sex with Jeremy's dad now and then - where is the gerontophile emoticon when I need it?

still trying to catch up.

Have been trying to read this all day but damn dc keep wanting to be fed have been busy.

I'm about half way down (just after Olivia gave advice) is it worth finishing?

I may be jumping the gun here, but I just read that op went to police and they did something there and then after the week I've just had, I can't believe it. I clearly need to move into area covered by same police force as op.

Finished, well that was, erm, an experiece.

Stratters What list would that be? I like to keep a list of contents sellotaped to my freezer... this actually made me (KSA sleepily asked "did you just snort, are you on that bloody Mumsnet again, go to sleep"

I too have a soft spot for the goth man however as pointed out they would be far more likely to hit themselves on the head with the hammer. Which essentially is the point really...

Job done for OP, next on the list is to look at your mentalist magnet dating profile.
Deviation from the norm can be a great thing but only, I think, when it isn't the bit of the norm that says 'we aren't allowed to kill, abuse, mentally torture or commit bodily harm on another person'. That's a fairly important bit imo!

Don't get me wrong I happily indulge in a bit of the old tiesy upsy but what I really like is knowing I can do that without worrying about my will or suspecting I'm going to die so some mad man can have sex with my corpse while wearing my face. That just puts me right off tbh.
I also admit to liking cuddles whilst in my jimjams...maybe I am much more of a pervert than I realised

Jeremy is really hurt and upset.

His father is threatening to sue.

Alameda I really do seem to have opened a can of worms with this one....

Jeremy's mum is in tears.

You should think that these are real live people before you cast your lighthearted slanders about so wantonly.

I'm glad he turned out OK. We were truly worried about him.
It just goes to show that those awkward, misunderstood types can grow up to be perfectly normal loving members of society. Unlike the OP's Lurve God
Erm Hully, have you met Alameda?

I'm sorry but why is Jeremy's mum in tears, Jeremy's dad threatening to sue and Jeremy really hurt and upset?! This is a joke isn't it?

devoncounty I hope that was a comfy chair....

Not to them, realhousewife

It's their lives that are being made mock of.

Are you really married to a house btw?

I was kind of defending you ruby, I don't think you said much at all, and certainly nothing slanderous! Oh well I'll bow out now before I cause any more offence.

No I'm not married to a house, or to anyone.