Do you think he will hurt me?

[singlemum2012]

I am newly and unexpectedly single, separated for a while but ex-dh only moved out 6 months ago so I am fairly new to dating. Ex-dh was first boyfriend so not very experienced.

Have started seeing this guy. Sex is fantastic, we began the relationship as a friends with benefits thing as he is a bit younger than me and doesn't want kids, fine with me and scratches an itch till I find someone more suitable for long-term. But this guy is a bit of an oddball and has been doing more and more things and I can't figure out whether he is not safe to be around or just messing with me. I only see him on weekends when I don't have my kids, he has never been to my house and does not even know my address.

A couple of times he has hidden behind the bathroom door so when I come out it makes me jump. Another time I was coming out of the bathroom and he was brandishing a hammer. He said he was putting up pictures, and there were pictures on the floor, but he never got around to it and I didn't see any nails, I just had the feeling he was doing it on purpose to scare me. He has cooked for me twice and both times has loaded the meals with as much fat as he possibly can, food fried in stupid amounts of lard, with gold top milk and cream and alcohol added. He told me one of his girlfriends put on two stone in six months when she lived with him. He's skinny and I noticed he ate less than half of his portion. He makes a big deal over the fact that he likes offal, raw meat and black pudding and is a huge attention seeker, when I am with him he is really wearing, he wants my attention all of the time, even keeping me awake most of the night and not letting me sleep. If it wasn't for the fabulous sex I would have run, would like to stay for this but I can't figure out whether he is a harmless attention-seeker pretending to be a dark and dangerous guy or whether he is actually dangerous. He drinks like a fish as well, has no friends (he says), wears black all the time and has decorated his house with weapons (he has good job and own house). He texts me all the time when I am not with him. I feel I don't have enough experience to evaluate him...my head says run but my heart wants the attention / the intimacy / the great sex.

Your opinions please??

And you'd be giving their poor, worn out wife a rest. Win win situation really.

"Oh, you are suggesting that I go hunting for married men now? What kind of a person do you think I am?"

One who [unbelievably] prefers oddballs?

Seriously, married men are much more fun. No strings, great sex, no-one to tell you what you can and can't do, no hammers or raw meat.

Great, I'll sign up with Ashley Madison then.

Hully's right. And they're used to buying jewellery!

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

That is all.

OP you need help.

Get yourself to your doctor pronto and show them this thread

Ah, reported his 9'' cock weapons have you?

Well done op.

My advice is: try to choose someone who appears (to you) terribly vanilla and dull.

That's the way forward.

I've explained the raw meat thing.
I've explained why we had a second date.
I've also said that I won't be going back, obv.

Ok so you've had a very quick volte face then haven't you?

Should I see him again goes to actually I've rung the police and I'm going in to see them in the space of ten minutes.

erm hardly 10 minutes. this thread started yesterday evening. you complain when I don't take advice then have a go at me when I do!!! can't win can I.

Why do you feel the need to have constant drama in your life?

You've reported him to the police?

You called him a tad eccentric last night and said he hadn't actually done anything to hurt you so what have you reported exactly?

So what did the police say to you? Why are you required to go in to them?

my friend told me about sarah's law. if you have children and you are seeing someone who you have concerns about you can have them police checked. in the event that he has indeed checked my id, as (squeaky toy?) suggested, I thought better get them involved in case he doesn't let me go and starts stalking.

before I messaged on here I thought him eccentric and attention-seeking but basically harmless but now you have all put the fear of god into me, OK?

Their has been another thread about Sarah's Law on here and is seemed like there was a bit more to it than "hi i think i've been shagging a nutter who i don't think knows my name or anything about me but can i come in a get him checked out anyway"

Am pretty sure it wouldn't work like that op.

fuckarama - read the response to my OP. everyone here seems to think he is dangerous. I'm only responding to their reaction and trying to take the advice that everyone was having a go at me for supposedly not taking.

I am very glad you are not joint to see him again. Now write yourself a Man Shopping list, and don't settle for second best.

Oh, and I'd suggest to the police that they may want to check out the freezer.

There even.

I'm not a drama queen, far from it. I was just getting other people's opinions on whether they thought he was odd but harmless or a genuine risk.

Sarah's law doesn't work the way you think it does.

Walk away from this man and don't look back.

And go to your GP and get some help.

1. Sarah's law will not apply in your situation. Not at all. He has not access to your kids. Access to information is a long process and appointments are with specialist officers I believe, which are thin on the ground. Immediate appointments are rare, how lucky you are to be given one.

1. My friend called the police about her violent partner, a man who she'd discovered had 2 criminal convictions for assault upon his first wife and who had just threatened her with violence whilst she was with her 2 toddler.

The police didn't invite her to the station, they told her to call them again on 999 if he turned up again and was violent.

Just saying.

OK fine, I won't go to the police then, just acting on my friend's advice who seemed to think that was the way to go.

I just thought from everything that was said on here that maybe I should tell the police about his eccentricities, maybe he has really hurt someone, from what you all have said.