Do you think he will hurt me?

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I am newly and unexpectedly single, separated for a while but ex-dh only moved out 6 months ago so I am fairly new to dating. Ex-dh was first boyfriend so not very experienced.

Have started seeing this guy. Sex is fantastic, we began the relationship as a friends with benefits thing as he is a bit younger than me and doesn't want kids, fine with me and scratches an itch till I find someone more suitable for long-term. But this guy is a bit of an oddball and has been doing more and more things and I can't figure out whether he is not safe to be around or just messing with me. I only see him on weekends when I don't have my kids, he has never been to my house and does not even know my address.

A couple of times he has hidden behind the bathroom door so when I come out it makes me jump. Another time I was coming out of the bathroom and he was brandishing a hammer. He said he was putting up pictures, and there were pictures on the floor, but he never got around to it and I didn't see any nails, I just had the feeling he was doing it on purpose to scare me. He has cooked for me twice and both times has loaded the meals with as much fat as he possibly can, food fried in stupid amounts of lard, with gold top milk and cream and alcohol added. He told me one of his girlfriends put on two stone in six months when she lived with him. He's skinny and I noticed he ate less than half of his portion. He makes a big deal over the fact that he likes offal, raw meat and black pudding and is a huge attention seeker, when I am with him he is really wearing, he wants my attention all of the time, even keeping me awake most of the night and not letting me sleep. If it wasn't for the fabulous sex I would have run, would like to stay for this but I can't figure out whether he is a harmless attention-seeker pretending to be a dark and dangerous guy or whether he is actually dangerous. He drinks like a fish as well, has no friends (he says), wears black all the time and has decorated his house with weapons (he has good job and own house). He texts me all the time when I am not with him. I feel I don't have enough experience to evaluate him...my head says run but my heart wants the attention / the intimacy / the great sex.

Your opinions please??

Will you ask the Dark Overlord of Mince whether he has a brother FFS? I have an itch that needs scratching.

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is this from a film or tv programme op and we are supposed to guess the character?

nyac it's really really hard to meet people. many divorced men are cautious and the single ones often single for a reason.

If this isn't some sort of windup, you need to stop dating anyone and get yourself some counselling. You don't even like this man, you speak about him with contempt (attention-seeker, wierdo, wants to shock, etc) but you are so desperate that you keep on having sex with him. Your boundaries are clearly shot to shit, which means that you are likely to endanger yourself by getting involved with abusive men - and the red flags for abusiveness with this one are not, actually, the black clothes or the fondness for raw meat, but rather the attempts to frighten you and the sleep deprivation.

Okay - add irresponsible with money as well

You are worth more. You really don't sound ready for a relationship. But there are loads of blokes who would be up for a shag - blokes who aren't seriously weird in a very bad way.

"manicbmc - because he didn't want to have to wait weeks for the results and he wasn't able to go to a clinic in work hours"

I thought that Burger King offered flexible working hours?

But this guy is a bit of an oddball and has been doing more and more things

A couple of times he has hidden behind the bathroom door so when I come out it makes me jump. Another time I was coming out of the bathroom and he was brandishing a hammer

And yet you've only seen him twice?

Righto...

I can't afford counselling and I can't get it for free where I am

He's going to turn out to be a WAMPIIIIIIIIRRRREEE, isn't he? Does he, er, sparkle?

MNHQ are you fucking following me ?

Do you wear black, wield a hammer on your delete button and eat offal, Olivia ?

I am beginning to suspect you of stalkery shenanigans

many divorced men are cautious and the single ones often single for a reason

that is about the only sensible thing you have written so far, and I suggest you read the last 8 words again and have a think...

Also, now that you have said you have only seen him twice, it doesnt really add up with the rest of the bollocks story...

nyac it's really really hard to meet people. many divorced men are cautious and the single ones often single for a reason.

What reasons? Collecting weapons and pouncing on love interests with a hammer?

arf @ dark overlord of mince

BTW Stratters if you're still around the KLAXON has gone off

You have only seen him twice !!!!!!!!!!!!! amazing truly amazing. Did not think there were people in the world that could be so blinkered

Ha.

What Worra said.

the dark overlord of mince. I have actually stopped breathing

I know....yes I have seen him twice, they were long dates (12 hours the first, 24 hours the second)...no I am not a troll and is not bollocks, is all true...

If this is a pisstake it's fucking offensive.

Two women are killed a week by their male partners in this country. Think about them, because they are actually real.

"I can't afford counselling and I can't get it for free where I am"

Utter mince. (LOL)

You are entitled to some kind of therapy if you have MH issues including esteem problems. You can ask for cognitive behavioural therapy or counselling and you will be assessed and offered a set amount of hours.