Startingagain trying to move forward, without nightmare EXP

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New thread for my ongoing journey of trying to detached from my nightmare, exp while trying to hold on to my sanity :(

Old thread here www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1437647-Starting-Again-Moving-Forward-Onwards-and-Upwards

Yes Sundays can be a bugger and it seems you always seem to have a bit of a downturn after you have had a busy and sociable few days.
Probably when you are working hard all week, you will glad of a bit of quiet time at the weekend.

We wouldn't expect you to be 'cured' yet but you have come so far in really such a short time.

Mushroomsoup - it's like one of those soap operas - tune in next week for the next exciting installment! Except you can read it all in one go. V exciting!

One thing does strike me tho Starting - how sure are you that this latest OW is a one-off? I know he had an affair a while ago, when you needed him (when your parents died) and of course this one, but you only found out about this OW because he left. Did you have any inkling about it before he left? How can you be sure he hasn't had many other affairs, which ended pretty quickly when they found out what a twunk he is?

You have been utterly dignified throughout starting & don't need to be cured of anything!

I dont think you 'need a cure' I think you need to be rid of him (which you are now) and start a new life, also something you are doing.

Sundays can be rubbish, even with a family/friends.

Keep on keeping on. You are doing marvellously well.

Hey Starting Glad you had a good weekend .. when are you starting work?

ps got a viewer tomorrow first one in two months of being on the market.. asked PRCK to cut the grass but he said he would but didn't .. been cleaning and gardening all weekend... Twunt !! Fingers crossed!!! xx

Morning All,

Well hes gone and done it :( if completely shitting on my life isn't enough, my solicitor received a 'Part 36' Offer from his solicitor yesterday, he wants half of everything....... , my house, my investment flat, my savings and even half of the value of a classic VW Campervan I've got in the garage!!, he also wants me to pay half of his Credit Card bill (which is in his name only, I was a cardholder)!!

What a fucking tosser.... he hasn't even stated his case, all he is saying that that we had a 'common intention' that everything would be held in equal shares that is a lie and he knows it, he has even asked for me to move out of MY HOUSE so that he can finish the renovation work (god know how long that would take at his pace!!), so the house can then be sold and the profits split.

Can you believe him? :(

Lying cheating tosser

what a joker

I wonder who paid for his lawyer? The one who's taking him for a ride by making him think he may have a case?

Longtime lurker but !!!!!!! OMG. What a dickwad. What did your solicitor say? At least you know he doesn't have a leg to stand on but it's still pretty horrible. Am sure you'll get some good advice today. Hugs from Sydney.

True colours shone through.

Starting - you can get through this, you really can.

Did you keep the text where he says he wants nothing?

Oh Starting, what an absolute bastard little shit he is!
What a shock for you.

Don't panic. Have you got a decent solicitor, one who specialises in this sort of thing. Can you use Collaborate?

Can't offer any legal advice but am positive he hasn't a hope of all that.
Am just here to hand hold. Think how satisying it will be when he loses!

Fight fight fight the Bastard!!!!

My solictor is responding to say that they are not following the correct protocol as there is no information included regarding what evidence his case is based on.

His sense of entitlement is unbelievable....

He knows that he is lying about the 'common intention', it never existed.....but he doesnt care he just wants money, im using Collaborate, my other solicitor was useless.

Im going to have to fight, i havent got much of a choice :(

Oh fucking hell I'm fuming for you. The lying, cheating, bastard.

(Sorry I have no practical advice for you :( )

What a lying toerag!!! I'm fuming on your behalf too.

What an absolute fucking piece of shit he is!

He KNOWS he is not entitled to anything - he is just hoping that you will pay up to make him go away, rather than fight. But you will FIGHT!

You could counter that he can only keep the van, that you paid for, if he then sods off (or equivalent legal terminology).

Am absolutely livid on your behalf - what an arse! Sorry that he's putting you through this on top of the rest of it :(

... and you will win!!

That's good that you are using Collaborate.
I suspect Dickhead only has enough money for one or two threatening letters in the hopes that you'll crumble and at least give him a payoff.

His credit card bill??!!!! That'll be you paying for 5* holiday with OW then!!
Well his credit card bill will soon be much bigger while you are off on your swish new job! xx

"common intention" that means nothing esp if there is no evidence to prove this and you have got texts saying the opposite haven't you?

Words fail me!!! Collaborate will deal with the lowlife & his back street bargain basement idiot lawyer!

There is no evidence to show a common intention such as a document etc, but i am sure he will give oral evidence to the contrary, i have a text from im saying he doesn't want money from me, but nothing to say that he doesn't think he has a claim.

If i intended him to have a state in my assets i would have added him to the deeds, or drawn up a deed of trust, he knows that was not my intention, but he doesn't care he wants to destroy me in every way possible :( I dont know what i have done to deserve this:(

He's really chancing his luck isn't he! He's hoping that you will have a wobbly and cave into at least some of his demands.
Stay strong!
DON'T WOBBLE!!
we are all behind you, I am actually quite livid at his audacity, on your behalf!