Ok, so he's said sorry, but apologizing is not enough. And I reckon he thinks it's going to be, despite his talk of counselling and doing whatever it takes.
He's now in a dreadful predicament, with no home and no money. And I suppose he now realises how much he depended on you to organize and support whatever work he did. He must feel truly desperate, and you are the only person he knows (apart from himself, which never seems to occur to him) who can rescue him from his plight.
He must have been in a blind panic when his house of cards started to collapse around him - hence his veering from abject pleading to nasty threats in a matter of minutes.
Mixed in with his self-pity (God! This man could cry for England!) will be genuine distress and guilt at what he has done to you. He's weak, not evil.
But I don't think he's got the staying power to put in the considerable effort needed for you to get beyond the betrayal and all the cruelty he subjected you to in its wake.
He'd be far from being alone among men in this. They really think a few weeks of saying how sorry they are and a few bunches of flowers will be enough and then it's time to cast off the sack-cloth and ashes for business as usual. But women need much more reassurance than this and a wise man will recognize this and act accordingly.
But yours has shown no signs of wisdom so far and will likely just get impatient and lose that temper of his when you 'can't let go'.
If despite the advice on this thread you do decide to 'date', don't get completely overwhelmed with feelings of relief and affection - let a part of you stand back and evaluate him dispassionately - you might just find he now gets on your nerves.
Don't forget we are not here to judge you, sweetheart. It's your life - we just don't want you to get hurt any more than you have been already, and advise accordingly.
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