Thank you SO MUCH 
for checking up on me, as Kirsty said, she has reminded me to update my thread!!
As its been a while, this might be a bit long....sorry!
Things are going well for me at the moment.....I have work lined up for next week, I have started having a really good clear out ( which is very cathartic), have been out and about with my pals etc.
He is still after 'his share' of my assets, but collaborate is doing a great job, making sure that he knows that I am no pushover, and that he has no or at best a very weak case!!
Still having ups and downs and teary now and again, but more ups than downs and not tears every day!
Also....... there has been some activity from arsewipe since i last posted -the weekend before last he texted to tell me some 'truths' lol ie he met the OW through work ( he went to quote her for a bathroom) and not walking the dog! , they have split up for good etc and he misses me- i didn't respond :) .
In contrast last week went out for a meal on Thrusday with sailing girl, got back and there was a missed call on my home and mobile from arsewipe, it was pass midnight so foolishly i thought it was an emergency (his mum hasnt been well for years), and i called him back, he said the OW had seen me drive near her road that night and had also seen me drive that way before, she didnt like it, it upset her and doesn't want me to drive near her house again.
Now she lives literally three minutes drive from me, the road i was driving down is a main road, a road i have driven down for years, her house ( i think) is on a road a turning off the main road, IYKWIM, i said to him if you are no longer together why the hell are you calling me up telling me this? He said he didnt want any 'headaches', i told him that i drove down that road for years before all this crap happened and i will continue to do so, he tried to start talking about 'us' saying he was sorry, missed me, OW was a mistake he regretted etc but i terminated the call.
She is obviously playing games, perhaps because he has moved out (for whatever reason) from her place and is living at a mates, as i am not engaging at all with twunt she cant paint me as the 'mad ex' anymore and is now making drama out of anything she can.....any hoo :)......... about ten minutes later i get two texts from his phone but 'her' texts IYKWIM, telling me to leave her alone, hes going to take me to court, telling me to up my antidepressants etc quite nasty stuff....... again i didn't respond.
I can honestly say it didnt upset me in fact it made me laugh, all i could think was what a sad pair, they really do need the drama of the 'mad ex' to keep things going for them- idiots...im leaving them to it :)
Onwards and upwards girls :)