No make up no bragging, no kissing, no shagging, no tumbling hair, be a maiden fair. And you definitely won't see him for dust! Dating thread 14

[ChaoticismyLife]

Chastity belts at the ready...

Extra strong padlocks required...

Day time works well.

I have been settled in here now about 6 weeks. And I still have a wobble but the best feeling is of safety. I wouldn't have had the courage without my best friend to get away and she was there through the darkest times, when I felt me and my son would be better off dead. I am ashamed to say that now, I did even try to end my life, but I see why now. I am blessed with a son who loves and needs me. I would never let anyone do that to me again and I do regret not going via the police route and telling all, but that's done now.

wow mr tall ois getting very heavey on me. he is saying things thats are making me cringe like he is overly nice. and i know it sounds silly to compain about that but i'm not sure how i feel about it.

he sent me a message on whats app with 3 kiss face, 2 flowers you are a star and you look (hot picture)

and then started telling me he means everything he says and really likes me and i am feeling abit over whelmed. We have only had one date, and yes we did sleep together but i am now feeling a bit like oh god he is expecting alot from me. i know most girls would probably love a guy like this but i'm freaking out a bit.

That would freak me out too notsure. If you like him and want to carry on seeing him, just tell him you aren't ready to be so intense and ask him to back off. Tell him you know he means well but you would prefer to take things slowly. If he reacts badly and/or continues as he is, then dump and run!

I dont think most girls would like a guy like that at all. And after one date???!!!!! My goodness.
Tbh I'd run a mile, huge red flag really.

I'm glad it's not just me that's feeling put off!

He does seem lovely but also when he was in my house he said let me know of you want any DIY done I just think its all very early for these kind of things...

I'm not sure if it's because he is French that he is coming across like this? But I don't thing it's that!

He also texts me every morning saying have a lovely day and every night saying have a good night. Which again sounds lovely but it seems too much to me some how!

notsure the good morning and good night texts wouldn't bother me. But the other stuff would tbh. It's a bit too much (says she who gets rows of kisses) but you have only been out the once.

Too much too soon. Agree with Time tell him politely but firmly to back off/slow down a bit. If he doesn't then dump him, nobody should stay with someone who doesn't show them some respect.

Morning all. Hope we've all managed to convince MLM to go on the date with the man who actually wants to date her!!!! Did we? MLM, please tell me you are going on the date?

Notsure, "instant relationship" kind of stuff always makes me twitchy too. I always think they don't know me well enough to possibly feel that attached, so what is going on with them? If that makes sense.

Go Miranda! Feeling good about yourself is so important. If you feel good about yourself, no one can take that away.

Morning everyone!

I have my outfit sorted for tonight. Still nervous but I think it will go well

MLM You really should go on the date!

Well it won't be til next week, so if there is no major progress with just friends over the weekend then yes I will go. he seems nice enough has tattoos (big tick) and has a little boy of 4.

Have to see if anything happens over the weekend and then decide. But I am confused over just friends. The last message before he left was telling me to be good with loads of kisses.

Anyway off to see mum today.

That's exactly how I feel like he wants a instant relationship! He even said to me last night I wish I was with you cuddling you . In a relationship that would be a lovely thing to say, but not after a 1st date!

I did say to him with should just take it easy and are how things go but maybe I need to be firmer!!

mlm - you really should go on the date, just look at it as an experiment! You never know you might like him just incase it doesn't work out with just friends!

Happy birthday sponge!!! :)

notsure - one date and you are getting first thing in the morning texts, last thing at night texts and offers of DIY? Run - run for the hills!!! just because someone is ' nice' doesnt mean they arent a twat. And how many people in abusive relationships say ' but people wouldnt belive it, they all think hes so nice' Its too much, and out of kilter to how somone should behave after one date, your instinct is telling you this, you need to listen to it ;)

mlm - i dont think there is any confusion of just friends really, as we have all said, he has told you he didnt want a realtionship, you havent seen him since you had sex, he made no effort to see you before he went away for two weeks.... you are basing your confusion on the fact hes put a few x's on the end of a text. they mean nothing. we all worry about you being hurt.

I am sort of looking forwards to next week, now to find a baby sitter. It was nice for someone to say they would like to take me out somewhere nice. Just friends hasn't got time for a relationship. He is chasing his dream. And that's okay, but I can't wait forever. He did say it wouldn't be fair to have a relationship. He is right.

Well now I have my experiment to look forwards to next week.....

Happy Birthday Sponge

Watch I had a bloke tell me 'missed you last night' just because I hadn't been online to chat to him, we hadn't even had a date! There are some proper weirdos out there.

MLM I agree with watch.

Happy Birthday Sponge

Happy birthday sponge

Have a good day. Xx

Happy Birthday sponge :)

mlm, hurrah! you have got it. yes, go on a date with somone who wants to see you. dont waste time chasing somone who has already told you they are not interested. :)

Anyway, you know my group cinema thing friday. there are 4 people going. one of which is me. One is girl who seems about my age. and the other two are men from pof who ive refused to date after they have asked. so thats half the group. awkward.
what do i do? they were also at this pub thing last week, but there were more people, i cant really hide in a group of 4. help!!!!!!!

I think you should brazen it out watch. You are not a wimp, you can do this. It's just a night out with 'friends', no pressure, just enjoy it for what it is.

im going to. i cant not go after bailing last week. so there is no option but to go.

and no, im not a wimp :) and they will have no idea and will just think im fun and friendly and chatting, but inside ill be going' OMG!!'

because one of them i turned down twice.
Actually its worse, he asked me out once and then i cancelled last min, and then he tried again a few months later and winged about being single and was just a bit moany about it all, so i felt bad and chatted to him ( lesson learnt) and then he asked me out again, and i said yes, and then the next day had to tell him i was sorry but that i didnt think we would get on.
pah!
and now i have to go meet him at the cinema tomorrow.

wear a disguise. Get some big fake teeth and a ginger mullet wig.

We are going to see american pie, because im classy and have high brow tastes ;)
essentially it may be as awkward as some of the momments of the film....

luckily i am very good at handling awkward momments, have i told you about the time i got trapped in a PHOTOCOPIER and had to be CUT OUT by the post boy?

With any luck Watch, he may not go she says hopefully.

Glasses, false moustache

Re photocopier...tell us more.

oh, the one i rejected twice was the first one out of 100 people saying he was going to go. for a few days it was only him going.
gah!