No make up no bragging, no kissing, no shagging, no tumbling hair, be a maiden fair. And you definitely won't see him for dust! Dating thread 14

[ChaoticismyLife]

Chastity belts at the ready...

Extra strong padlocks required...

Puffin I want to save Snape from the posh cock dating sites but she won't listen either. I have realised I just have to be there for her, when she has no money for fags and booze cos she has signed it all over to monthly subscriptions, just to bag a man!!. All we can do sometimes is be here to pick up the pieces and offer support when it's needed.

Outrage!

I deserve some posh cock!

:p

Time, you need to be on tv... You are so funny :)

That needs to be the next title

' we have no money for food because we are paying for posh cock- dating thread 15'

:)

puffin honestly I don't mind. Maybe I just need a hugger, now where to find one (without paying 30pounds in train fares every time I need one)

And Saturday may well be pieces, but to be fair I had seen him 6 or 7 times, so I don't know. Wait and see.

And if I ever need sex company I know one or two who will help. Just want more than loads of ONS.

I have to admit I think snape is probably better off without the fags but no booze no, no, no, no, no... booze is needed if only to accompany the chocolate to cheer self up after crap date.

I would absolutely fucking die on the spot if that was the next thread title

watch

LOL I like the new thread title watch but think everyone needs to agree in it, snape doesn't, need to think of another one.

MLM - thank you for taking it in the spirit it was meant Just remember that you are lovely and far too precious for all the twats out there. Leave them for Time and Watch

Seriously, take care of yourself x

If I find twats I will send them to you guys to tear to prices give a stern talking to.

Hi agree with what was said earlier about if you were treated poorly in past you expect it from others .My online man who i earlier posted did not contact me after we slept together on 4th date actually did later that night and the next night and the next and there will be a 5th date tomorrow, so got worked up and pathetic about nothing. Just cause have been with manipulative bastards in past does not mean they all are (of course tomorrow I may take it all back and say they are all bastards)

Posh trouser snakes can't possibly be worth paying for. They are all ugly, no matter how attractive the body it is attached to.

True time I suppose I do half expect the person I am chatting to to turn out to be am arse. Oh well what will be will be, if I get a chance I have to take it, if it changes my life I should let it.

Tomorrow can take care of itself. Today I need to deal with, one day at a time.

Peppa when you have been treated badly it takes a lot of work to ensure that you don't tar all men with the same brush, and make all subsequent men pay for the mistakes your ex made. I think if you are in a good place yourself, if you have a healthy self esteem, it does make things a lot easier. You know that if you do happen to become involved with someone who turns out to be a nasty piece of work, you have the confidence to walk away, immediately, before any damage is done.

MLM sometimes your posts are like facebook status shuffle

Thanks Time, pretty sure i am ready to only accept someone who will treat me well. Been over 3 years since i split with ex and its only now that i feel able to even consider dating

Snape, its ok..I'm.paying too. Abit for tesco value potatoes it seems. For only.£2 a month less. Who knew a mere £2 was the difference between posh and scraping the barrel. And I wonder where my man with a ukeley is, because sure as hell hes not serenading me.

That's great Peppa that you now feel ready. It's a risk, but if you end up with a good one then it's a risk worth taking. And you know you won't end up with a git because you are a new, self confident woman with a high self esteem, one who would have no trouble kicking an abusive arse into touch!

It was something I put on Facebook a couple of days ago.

I wouldn't tolerate crap now. I don't have to. I have been seperated 6months, and its been a roller coaster housing wise, and money etc. But has been worth it. Still need a house warning.....

I agree - why are willies so ugly (not that I have a wide experience exactly but they are aren't they?)

I am still finding it odd that I am having a relationship. Odd in a very good way but it is making me realise how completely shit my marriage was for ages not just from when I found out about XHs affair. Is lovely having the normal good parts if that makes any sense. Probably not .

I have been having counselling on and off since Christmas for marriage break up reasons. Has been very good (only have one session left :( but has been on the nhs so not complaining). I do wonder a bit chicken and egg about feeling good about myself and Mr Nice appearing on the scene but think I was feeling better which meant it felt right to go on a date. My friend I saw yesterday reminded her when I saw her at Christmas that I mentioned online dating then and she said she could see I wasn't ready for it then. Think I am a little scared of my heart getting hurt (not that it is at the moment but maybe I am worried so want to protect myself. Or something). But I know right now if it ended today I'd still feel really glad it has happened. Am am doing well at living in the present :)

Six months isn't very long at all in the grand scheme of things MLM. It's taken me 2 years to get where I am today, and that's with a lot of work on myself. All the stuff you have had to deal with, housing, money, re-establishing yourself, it all creates a diversion. Once all that is dealt with you are left with the fall out of the abuse. It worries me that you have been so busy dealing with the practical stuff that you haven't had time to deal with the emotional stuff. It was once I had no diversion that the enormity of everything hit me like a ton of bricks. All this talk of you needing kisses, hugs and cuddles, etc, it does indicate that you are looking for someone to make you feel better, someone to fill a void in your life. Before you become involved with someone else you have to learn to love yourself, then there is less danger of you becoming involved in another abusive relationship.

You sound to be in a really good place Miranda. Being a little bit scared isn't a bad thing, it means you are alert, and aware, you are enjoying the relationship but you have your eye on the ball. That's all good stuff

Right have told date from last Thursday that don't want a second date so am moving on to the next pof victim man. What are your thoughts on 1st dates? Is it acceptable just to meet someone in the day for coffee? Or does it have to be an evening, drinks thing??

Daytime coffee dates are best. They can be kept short and you don't need to get all dolled up

Daytime things are good. And they can go on longer if you want :)