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Welcome to the Turning Tavern III

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Crushinghard · 29/04/2012 08:27

A continuation of the TTII thread for women unexpectedly finding themselves attracted to other women.

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zombiegames · 29/04/2012 23:21

Lets just hope everything is brilliant.

zombiegames · 29/04/2012 23:21

How are you?

likeatonneofbricks · 29/04/2012 23:29

I'm ok zombie, making some progress with my move but it's so hard physically!

katiewins22 · 29/04/2012 23:31

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zombiegames · 29/04/2012 23:32

Sorry to hear the move is so hard. Don't you have much help? No I am in relationship with a woman.

zombiegames · 29/04/2012 23:36

Katie - Welcome and no it doesn't sound silly at all.

likeatonneofbricks · 29/04/2012 23:42

no help as I'm single and moved to a new city (no local friens) - I'm hiring a handyman of course but it's all the unpacking etc.
Have you always been bi/gay?
katie - not silly at all, interesting to read! I don;t think she was just being polite, of course she wanted to see you, it's just your reply suggested that you won't make a special effort, you could have said that if she's in your area you'd meet (pretty sure she would as this sounds like invitation she needs) - of course if you aer happy with DP, that's all futile though..

likeatonneofbricks · 29/04/2012 23:43

*'like she wants an invitation', rather

juneybean · 29/04/2012 23:45

Where abouts are you likea?

likeatonneofbricks · 29/04/2012 23:48

i can't tell here, I've put too much info as it is - in case wiq ever reads this. pm me if you need to know (any particular reason?)

zombiegames · 29/04/2012 23:52

I had only relationships with men for years - apart from 1 afternoon with a woman at 17! But I always knew I was attracted to women. I then got together with a woman who was a friend of my current bf Blush. I am not proud of this. And then after another couple of bfs, got together with current gf.

I would now say I was a lesbian actually and would only want to be with woman now.

likeatonneofbricks · 29/04/2012 23:55

interesting, zombie! aer you quite young? just wonder what was the time frame of you realising you only want a woman as partner. was your current gf gay when you met?

likeatonneofbricks · 29/04/2012 23:59

unfortumately have to go now (unusually early start for me) - wish you told ne this earlier to have more chat this eve! will continue tomorrow night (hopefully won't be too late back, but definitely Tues otherwise) as i have questions Grin!

zombiegames · 30/04/2012 00:01

No I am not that young! I think I would in the past have said i was bi and in a way sexually I am. But in other ways I prefer being with a woman. Sorry doesn't make much sense maybe. But it was with my current gf that I realised I would always want to be with a woman. Yes she is gay.

zombiegames · 30/04/2012 00:02

Okay likea - night. I need to go as well really.

zombiegames · 30/04/2012 00:03

Katie - please feel free to keep posting random musings. The woman may have been being polite or may have felt an attraction.

Skalagirl · 30/04/2012 10:19

Hi have been lurking, will share my story one day. Just wanted to say there is an item on bisexuality on Womens Hour today.

Hope you are all happy and well on this wet most un-Spring-like morning!

zombiegames · 30/04/2012 10:31

Hi skalagirl

sleeplessindenial · 30/04/2012 11:13

Just marking place Smile

Feeling poorly so will update soon

pollyblue · 30/04/2012 13:27

Likea - I was just looking through for an update from sleepless and I realised you've got the wrong end of the stick - now the email is sent, hopefully this will get a Yes or a No conclusion very soon

I didn't email WIQ again yesterday - this was my post from 4pm yesterday afternoon -

We're all agreed I need to speak to her, and I have decided I'm not going to do that via email, so I need to arrange to see her again. I've emailed her twice since Weds and I'm not happy to email her again so soon, unless she does email me in reply in the next day or so. So there's probably going to be a few days hiatus

Just wanted to clarify.

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Crushinghard · 30/04/2012 18:01

skalagirl thanks for the heads ump about WH. Would love to hear your story sometime.

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Crushinghard · 30/04/2012 18:02

Ump = up

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Crushinghard · 30/04/2012 23:20

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It's gone quiet in here...

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zombiegames · 30/04/2012 23:22

Yes very quiet.

likeatonneofbricks · 30/04/2012 23:36

well we all need quiet moments - and it;s only Monday! I've just got back home.
sleepless sorry you are unwell, but at least you aer back on thread (hopefully unwell just physically).
polly, yes, I understood - I meant the email that invites her to have a drink (and a talk), to which hopefully she responds, so fromn that point of view it will all become clear soon (not by email, unless of course she guesses that talk is coming and responds by email in some significant way!). polly if you want to chat with others about it please do (I won't be repeating my opinion, just don;t want you to stop chatting with others for the reason that i will keep repeating Grin).
katie obv thought she said too much, shamem she's hardly recogizeable from this as it could be anyone.
zombie - makes actually perfect sense to me, that how I would feel if anything was to happen with wiw, I'd still think I'm bi sexual but would prefer to be with her overall than with a man. It's lucky you found someone who was openly gay, much harder when you don't know whether she'd even consider it (or whether she'd beeen with a woman before on the other hand, but not obviously gay).