Welcome to the Turning Tavern III

[Crushinghard]

A continuation of the TTII thread for women unexpectedly finding themselves attracted to other women.

yes, we aer all agreed about the talk, but recent posters seem to all say that if it's 'no' then just leave it, the argument with G40 was all about giving her loads of time, no rush, 'because she's the laid back type who might turn or might not eventually'. And we don't agree on the chances of that long term turning ever happeing with you (or at all as far as i'm concerned) in wiq's case. She is of course talking of dating men again, well that will help you decide in itself if she doesn't give you an answer for some reason.

it was thta thing about superiority, you said you'd think (I explained that I don''t just blindly look up at her).
I understand how you feel - I got really obsessive thinking about my wiq at earlier stages when new contact happened. BUT I wouldn't bedebying I was emotional. Who are you kidding? people who are strongly attracted, or in my case fall for someone, do not feel laid back.

I meant 'or at all with anyone'

Oh you meant your WIQ! I didn't chip in again about the superiority thing because you answered one of my concerns in a later post - about not blindly looking up to her but you felt it was more a respect thing. I didn't feel I had anything more of any use to add to that.

obviously MY wiq - I was saying that you were not keen on talking about anything but yours. Understandable, I'm just saying that hardly came across as laid back attitude. Yes i explained but you didn't say whether you saw my point or still thought she couldn't see me as a partner (plus it was about age gap).

I have been talking about other things, esp sleepless's situation.

What I think I'm saying and what you're reading seem to be two different things, I'm obviously going wrong somewhere . Anyhoo to avoid any further tooth-gnashing I'm going to step away from the thread for a bit.

< passes around soothing strips for everyone's brow >

Blimey! (catching up with this thread)
Likea do you need a massage? :o
Polly Personally, I think you're on the right track re your 'DNG' WIQ...

Polly is doing what she thinks is right for her, we can go around in circles about it but the fact is her WIQ will answer emails and meet up when she feels ready. Polly has other things in her life so it's not all consuming, slightly annoying however, since she's the sort who replies immediately to emails etc.

We need calming tea in here also

< Passes lesbian tea around>
Milk, sugar anyone?
Who brought biscuits?

I've still got an Easter egg left over so we can share that. How the heck I've managed not to eat it by now I'll never know

Because you bought it in the sale this afternoon?

Gay! it's erm...... for a friend who I haven't seen since before Easter.

Lame. Get it cracked open!

Can't wait to hear sleep's news - or has she now moved in with wiq and has no time to update ?
polly you said very clearly that you were very low last week and that this is doing your head in (for the 10th time) and we discussed your wiq forever, other topics very by the by, so what is it that I'm reading wrong? it's not just to me that you came across as tortured mentally, and feeling even stronger about her i.e. somewhat getting addicted, especially after your drink with her, no idea why deny it? it's normal when you aer attracted! but yes, now the email is sent, hopefully this will get a Yes or a No conclusion very soon .

Allotment this is my point - polly will need a patience of an absolute saint to wait for these replies for days/weeks etc, let alone any actions from wiq - most people by the way do reply to emails within two days max unless extremely busy. And polly said and shown many times that she is not patient (neither am I). Most of all I stand by my feeling that if wiq was attracted enough she'd behaved completely differently, and she had a lot if time to develop attraction. anyway, we'll see soon.

Honestly, she's not mentally tortured. Just a bit over the lack of attention and time her WIQ takes in returning emails.
Let's remain supportive, people x

G, I've been supportive all last night and the one before when no one else was there - long , long talks. Well ,she's made a step towards arranging the drinks and talk, so great! But sorry if polly doesn't appear like it's all 'a walk in the park' for her, I was only trying to stop her giving wiq too much time so she tips from 'doing my head in' to misery. And what's the confusion about - the woman said she wasn't gay, twice, when both drinking dates loomed. But ok, wiq will be given a chance to make it clear soon.

Hopefully, yes x

support can be both encouraging to perservere, and discouraging to do so, btw.
has sleep been on FB today at least?

I haven't seen her on, she's disappeared into the WIQs house last I heard

that's what i mean - maybe she moved in?

Yes maybe she has set up a lesbain love nest

Even lesbian

i hope though she's not been rejected for a kiss, and now in no mood to post.