If you met your partner for the first time today, would you still go out with them?

[MrAdekunleElvis]

Or choose to settle down with them?

Yes.

No despite he gave me my beautiful daughters he is - indeed a first class arse!

No fucking chance! He's become an arrogant, bad-tempered a-hole! Love him really...NOT!

LeBof you lucky thing!!

Definately and i wouldn't be as slow on the uptake this time round either

and thats after 8 yrs

If I wasn't with DH and I passed him in the street I would think he was gorgeous, still. He's really fun and clever and sexy so if he asked me out (glossing over whether the DCs exist as my kids or not in this scenario), I'd jump at the chance. He's an incredible father and partner and friend so I would do it all again gladly. If I was single now, DCs or not, I would jump at the chance. I've never met anyone I liked better or wanted more.

But (always a but), we got together very young - there has been some friction over the years as I (in particular), have changed my opinions and concerns with age and knowledge. I think it would be pretty awesome to meet him now as the adult, strong woman I am now. I think sometimes he sees the more childish, delicate person I used to be.

Then again he also thinks I am pert and physically unchanged after 15 years and 3 DCs so that's the plus side!

Not since he grew his beard (almost two years ago). I still adore him, but it would have put me off 16 years ago when we first met

God yes. I?d be tempted into having an affair.

Absolutely no fucking way, apart from the fact I don't see how I'd meet him as he never leaves the house!

@ atosilis - but didn't you say he was going to get his magic wand out and solve all your problems

I honestly don't know .

Yes

Absolutely. More so, in fact. I took up with OH in a spirit of 'he'll do until something better comes along.' Turns out he's a diamond and we've been together v happily for 18 years

Yes absolutely, he's gorgeous, funny and kind.

No I wouldn't. He's closed, uncommunicative, bad tempered, cynical, sarcastic, bigoted and unaffectionate.

Yes. In a heartbeat.

However, we've only been together two years so are still ridiculously loved-up-early-stages

Yes, no question about it.

I think so. We are in our second relationship together after some very tricky times and I feel very happy with him (despite his flaws, and mine too). However if I met him for the first time today it would be very different, as part of the reason I love him is all of our shared history (21 years now!). Without it I might not feel the same connection I guess, and we'd both be very different people.

Yes! I think he's actually more of a catch now. That's my influence

Yes my dh is amazing!

These threads always make me weep. No, I wouldn't. And the thought of being physically the same as when we first met? He is, I very definitely am not. We've been together nearly 20 years, 3 gorgeous DC, he is a great Dad. We are very different and love has not conquered all. I don't know if we want the same things, or if we ever did. I nearly left him in my twenties and wonder what would have happened if I had. I get very irritated with him but maybe that's me being irritable. God, I sound depressed. Probably should have NCed. I envy those of you who found The One.

Yes

Absolutely. He's lovely.

We've been together 7 years and I still get flutters when he approaches me when I'm waiting for him or something.

Yes - he was wonderful when I met him and he has improved with age