If you met your partner for the first time today, would you still go out with them?

[MrAdekunleElvis]

Or choose to settle down with them?

No
I don't know whether I just didn't see what/who he was or whether he's changed, but no.

In the words of Meg Ryan..."Yes! Yes!! Yes!!!"

He's a grown up, where my first husband was a needy child.
The man looks at me and I swoon, honestly.
When he comes home, all suited and booted and loosens that tie.....

Also, he's very clever with a wickedly dry sense of humour. He's the man I should have met and married in my twenties!

Absolutely. Although I hope he would say the same. Fifteen years and three children have been kinder to him than me...

Yes with no hesitation but he'd have to go on a 'load the bloody dishwasher properly' course first

Yes, yes, yes! Oh yes!

I am the luckiest woman there is.

I still fancy him like mad, he's gorgeous, but if I knew then what I know now, nope, not a chance in hell. I'd make him see a counsellor and a careers adviser for several years before I even considered taking him on.

He's got to sort his own head out before he can ever properly consider anyone else.

Yes absolutely

I think it's a pretty good barometer for a relationship.

Yes, but a) we haven't been together that long, b) we met in our early thirties when our careers were established and we had both worked out who we were and what we wanted, and c) I don't think he's "the one", I'm sure there are plenty of others that would have worked out too. We had great instant chemistry though and I'm sure that would have been true whenever we met. More importantly he's kind and funny and emotionally intelligent and although he gets cross he is always big enough to say afterwards when he was wrong and to talk about it sensibly. We've had a really tough year with lots of emotional upheaval, buying a property and moving house, followed by two early miscarriages and now weeks of me confined to bed/hospital with appalling hyperemesis and he's been fantastic. He still tells me I look good even though at this point that is the most flagrant lie . . .

Yes, definitely. Though I have to say that we were only together for a year when he died and I've been without him now for nearly five. He gave me my gorgeous daughter.

DS's Dad, well, if I hadn't been with him, I wouldn't have had my gorgeous son. But that aside: No, not in a million years would I have touched his sorry ass with a bargepole.......

yes definitely - he's the best man I know - and puts up with me like no other man would - loves me warts and all

Good god no way the man I met 11 years ago was romantic (used to write beautiful love poems) kind very affeciannate gorg kisser, very communicative and now well lets just say rolls his eyes when I go to speak , thinks I am an idiot (Not really sure why) and has never kissed me or wanted to or iditiated sex for over a year now sad not what I thought all those years ago if I could only have seen the future I would have got out the only blessing is our beautiful son who we both adore bit apart from him... well nothing really god I feel like crying and also getting harder to just want to pack a bag and get on a plane somewhere ( But would never do, but can see why now why people just up & leave)

Absolutely. He is the most caring, loving, dependable man I know. We have had some tough times with a serious illness (his) and a premature DD but he has stood strong through all of this for me and our family.
I love him so much.

And he is hot! That helps!

No, he kept the tranny stuff and being anti social firmly under wraps.
Now have three fab lord, am sole wage earner and trapped to fuck and back again.
Almost enough to make me consider an affair, but too scared for it.
Aye. Totally fucked.

Nope. Next time I'd go for someone who did not cheat on me and for someone a whole lot less entitled. Possibly even someone who put me first? Should have gone out with him for a year or so then binned him instead of convincing myself it was true luurve and he just needed a devoted woman.

Yes :)

We're married 14 years and are very happy.

We've had a rough few months recently but dh has stood by me throughout, telling me we'd get through it.

He's still as gorgeous now as he was then (despite having less hair)

His personality is a lot better now, so I think i'd find him even more attractive now, he was very quiet when we met and I know i'm very sociable so I think i've brought him out of his shell a little bit.

Yes! Y E S!
We've been married less than a month, but have been living together for 4 years.

Loving, sexy, handsom, funny and 10 years younger than me

Yes I would make the same choice, we have a very solid relationship built on honesty trust and good communication, we enjoy being together and laugh loads. I feel very lucky to have a mighty fine man, when my lovely husband died nearly four years ago I thought I would/could never love again, I was wrong.

Yes.

For sure, Yes!

9 years down the line we both are lucky enough to still look the same (other than a few changes in hair colour for me!)

He's got less hair now, but still got those beautiful blue eyes and a cheeky grin