If you met your partner for the first time today, would you still go out with them?

[MrAdekunleElvis]

Or choose to settle down with them?

I'd definately go out with him and roadtest him and the competition

Probably I would date him initially because I couldn't help myself - he is good looking and has some great qualities. If I was to contemplate settling down with him, knowing what I know now, possibly not. I would have serious misgivings about his long term career prospects; that was an amber flag years ago when I first met him. Also I still doubt whether he genuinely wants to create a future which is about both of us, rather than me pursuing my life and him pursuing his life, but in the same house.

Nah.

no i would run for the hills and sadly im not joking

Hell yeah! I actually binned my husband three times in the early days mainly because I didnt know a good thing when I saw it. Have spent most of my life in toxic r'ships. He is an absolute diamond and drop dead gorgeous (and pretty scrummy in his uniform as well )

yes, yes and yes again. x

My ex H No never , no way!

not a chance

Ex-h ...no .id slap some sense into myself , and run very very fast in the opposite direction.

Dh ...yes ...but I wouldn't make him wait so long ...or waste time on idiot I was seeing when I met dh ...( waited until we were both single , dh was friend first )

yes.

just wish i'd dumped the fucker i was before dh a lot sooner!

So many lovely stories.

Yes I would I still fancy him like mad. and he me!.

Yes I would. He's pretty sexy and I still fancy him.

Unfortunately I doubt he would give me a second glance now.

No. One sentance out of his boring mouth would be enough to make me wander off looking for someone else.

No way!

Yes, he's the most wonderful person I've ever met.

Yes. In each of us there are things that annoy the other, but we always make up.

To me she's even more beautiful and sexy now than when I met her 17 years ago. A real head turner. I'm always proud to have her on my arm when we go out, shallow as that may be

No - I continued to go out with him because I didn't want things to be awkward (My sister and his (they were going out at the time) set us up)

I would like to think that 9 years later I would have a bit more gumption and would go with my feelings rather than trying to please others

Oh god I cant say no as then I wouldnt have my gorgeous little boy but I should have walked much sooner as hes a first class time wasting man who deserves everything he is going through at the mo.

Yes.

I'd have his clothes-pile thing in the vows though.

Yes, hes been trained!

That was the deal when we met.He knew I wouldnt have had him otherwise.

Depends on the circumstances under which we met, whether I was hungover and feeling grumpy, whether he was in a bad mood, if we were drinking alcohol together at this hypothetical meeting, who else was there and if they were annoying me or more interesting than this stranger, all sorts of things.

I'm a great believer in the randomness of it all.

no... wouldn't touch him

Interesting question, today is nine years to the day since our first date. If he was as much fun and chatty as he was then, yes. If he's the man I'm now married to, probably not. He's hard work sometimes and he doesn't really make an effort with people so he comes across as rude.